Throughout the day, how often do you talk to S/O?

[Anonymous]

Thank you very insightful

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married almost 7 yrs. We are basically always texting if we aren't together.

I wouldn't be happy waiting hours for a reply, unless I knew there was a reason for the unavailability. Just generally leaving me on read for hours and hours? Nah. But I don't chase. That's not the type of relationship dynamic I'm personally interested in.

You can't make him text back or call more often. But you can leave anyone who makes you feel shitty, and find someone with a more compatible style.

This would be disruptive to most work days.

[Anonymous]

As needed, neither of us is needy.

[Anonymous]

Never unless there is an emergency or a change of plans with dinner or our kids’ schedules.

Sometimes when my husband rides the Metro, he will text me links to things he is reading that I might find interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay thank you. The majority here seems to be married and not talking much throughout the day.

My situation is, I’m dating. There’s times I’m left on read for hours and he’s on social media reposting but hasn’t returned a text.

I’m not expecting to text all day, or talk all day. Moreso, if he’s able to get on social media and interact, I would think he could respond to a text.

Maybe I’m overthinking. Any advice?

Chill. Maybe he is not as into you as you are into him. Maybe social media is a mindless diversion waiting for a meeting to start, but he wants to write a thoughtful reply to you. Or perhaps you are just really needy / excited for a new relationship / insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay thank you. The majority here seems to be married and not talking much throughout the day.

My situation is, I’m dating. There’s times I’m left on read for hours and he’s on social media reposting but hasn’t returned a text.

I’m not expecting to text all day, or talk all day. Moreso, if he’s able to get on social media and interact, I would think he could respond to a text.

Maybe I’m overthinking. Any advice?

You sound *very* needy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you very insightful

not really. More importantly you have to find your own rhythm and pattern, figure out what you want AND communicate those needs to your partner.

[Anonymous]

How long ago were you dating? If this is a new relationship, I would definitely raise this as a red flag.

[Anonymous]

I only text husband for logistics that are necessary during the work day.

I include a pleasantry but that’s not the purpose of the text.

I try not to call at all. Maybe once a month for fifteen minutes if I know it’s a slow afternoon and I have a purpose to call.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been married for 24 years (anniversary is today!). We only talk during the workday if there is an emergency. We only text if we need something. We both are very busy at work and don’t have time for idle chat.

Same, except we’ve been married 26+ years. We call/text re dinner/grocery pick up 3 ish x a week but even that’s not a given.

This.

[Anonymous]

married 47 years and never, not once, did I call or text my husband. He did call me after lunch most days.
now that we're retired we talk all day long. He talks so much I have to retreat to my room and tell him to get out.

[Anonymous]

Married for 22 years. Some days no texting or talking during the day. Some days, like today, my husband will send memes, jokes, sports information, and general travel ideas. It depends on if we are busy or not.

Responses can be instant or could be hours. It depends on workload.

[Anonymous]

There is no right answer here other than you should both be comfortable with the amount of communication. Different couples/people have different needs, problems arise when the needs are out of sync.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married almost 7 yrs. We are basically always texting if we aren't together.

I wouldn't be happy waiting hours for a reply, unless I knew there was a reason for the unavailability. Just generally leaving me on read for hours and hours? Nah. But I don't chase. That's not the type of relationship dynamic I'm personally interested in.

You can't make him text back or call more often. But you can leave anyone who makes you feel shitty, and find someone with a more compatible style.

This would be disruptive to most work days.

Sending 5-10 texts a day? Not really.