Why do you DCUM?

[Anonymous]

What are your major motivations for replying on dcum posts? I get why folks ask questions, but why do you respond? I'm on here most days, but when on top of my game, I'm actually not. I think for me it's a combination of wanting to feel connected somehow, wanting validation by someone else liking my comment, or wanting to buck someone up. Sometimes when I'm in a bad mood, I am snarky. I also like the idea that while we likely don't agree politically, we can help each find casual summer dresses.

Why do you dcum?

[Anonymous]

If I’m tempted to gossip in real life, or offer unsolicited advice, I come to DCUM to either read or reply to posts and it satisfies the craving without doing damage in my real life.

[Anonymous]

When I have a question but don’t know anybody IRL who can answer it.

When I have a question but it relates to an aspect of my life I want to keep private (kids struggle).

Entertainment when I’m killing time. Some of the posts are juicy or funny.

To offer support to others who may be going through a tough time.

[Anonymous]

Above +1000000

[Anonymous]

I’m a pretty agreeable person in real life. A bit of a people pleaser. This site allows me to say what I’m really thinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a pretty agreeable person in real life. A bit of a people pleaser. This site allows me to say what I’m really thinking.

This is why I read DCUM. I want to know the things people aren't saying but are thinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a pretty agreeable person in real life. A bit of a people pleaser. This site allows me to say what I’m really thinking.

This is why I read DCUM. I want to know the things people aren't saying but are thinking.

+2. It gives some insights into social interactions, although the negativity has been getting to my head lately.

[Anonymous]

I love DCUM. As a socially anxious introvert, it's perfect for me to talk to people. Also, we can discuss various sensitive topics in an unfiltered way, something I would have a hard time doing face-to-face with someone, except a couple of really close friends and relatives. This enriches the input for sensitive-topic discussion and broadens my mind. I never get hung up on some posters' rudeness, or anything negative. I am interested in why people think what they think.

[Anonymous]

I’m often too afraid to post because I’ve asked legitimate questions and gotten such mean responses, and I’m overly sensitive. I’ve gotten some good advice, though, too. I try to respond if I think it’ll help a person.

[Anonymous]

If I need a question answered it's sometimes helpful or if I can help someone else by posting answer I think I get a dopamine boost lol. But when just talking about random subjects I want to feel some connection as I live pretty isolated these days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I’m tempted to gossip in real life, or offer unsolicited advice, I come to DCUM to either read or reply to posts and it satisfies the craving without doing damage in my real life.

Same.

[Anonymous]

Call me

[Anonymous]

I respond on DCUM to practice my writing ability. I don't think I am a very good writer -- I would describe myself as earnest but ungraceful. People often misinterpret my posts. Sometimes I think it is their fault but often it is mine.

[Anonymous]

When I bored I find it entertaining. I also learn things here. When my kids were younger I legitimately wanted advice. Now I know better than to listen to much on here and it’s mostly for fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I bored I find it entertaining. I also learn things here. When my kids were younger I legitimately wanted advice. Now I know better than to listen to much on here and it’s mostly for fun.

This.