Culture of St. Anselm’s Abbey school?

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you can do crew as a club sport elsewhere. Go lobby the current school to form a team. But it’s not part of the culture today to have a lot of sports offerings.

I didn't realize the class size was only 40 boys, but there are still 4 grades in the HS, right ? So, its actually about 170 boys, correct ?

Not saying offer 5-6 sports every season, but maybe targeted: xc/track, crew, fencing, tennis- sports that only require a roster of 7-10 on the team

Head of School has an open zoom meeting with parents every week, you should mention a sports expansion there.

The one that just listens a take no action?

That’s the one! Just coasting along and talks a good talk.

Oh and what would you like to see implemented? Let me guess, every whim that comes into your head? And within the week, right?

Defensive, aren’t you?

Try “deeply amused”.

Why don’t you put your money where your mouth is? It’s so easy cowering behind an anonymous Internet forum. By all means, please share on the next call. I’ll get the popcorn. [/quote

Ohhhh, I guess you told me behind this anonymous Internet forum.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you can do crew as a club sport elsewhere. Go lobby the current school to form a team. But it’s not part of the culture today to have a lot of sports offerings.

I didn't realize the class size was only 40 boys, but there are still 4 grades in the HS, right ? So, its actually about 170 boys, correct ?

Not saying offer 5-6 sports every season, but maybe targeted: xc/track, crew, fencing, tennis- sports that only require a roster of 7-10 on the team

Head of School has an open zoom meeting with parents every week, you should mention a sports expansion there.

The one that just listens a take no action?

That’s the one! Just coasting along and talks a good talk.

Oh and what would you like to see implemented? Let me guess, every whim that comes into your head? And within the week, right?

Defensive, aren’t you?

Try “deeply amused”.

Why don’t you put your money where your mouth is? It’s so easy cowering behind an anonymous Internet forum. By all means, please share on the next call. I’ll get the popcorn. [/quote

Ohhhh, I guess you told me behind this anonymous Internet forum.

I’m not the one complaining into the ether like its going to help.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you can do crew as a club sport elsewhere. Go lobby the current school to form a team. But it’s not part of the culture today to have a lot of sports offerings.

I didn't realize the class size was only 40 boys, but there are still 4 grades in the HS, right ? So, its actually about 170 boys, correct ?

Not saying offer 5-6 sports every season, but maybe targeted: xc/track, crew, fencing, tennis- sports that only require a roster of 7-10 on the team

Head of School has an open zoom meeting with parents every week, you should mention a sports expansion there.

The one that just listens a take no action?

That’s the one! Just coasting along and talks a good talk.

Oh and what would you like to see implemented? Let me guess, every whim that comes into your head? And within the week, right?

Defensive, aren’t you?

Try “deeply amused”.

Why don’t you put your money where your mouth is? It’s so easy cowering behind an anonymous Internet forum. By all means, please share on the next call. I’ll get the popcorn. [/quote

Ohhhh, I guess you told me behind this anonymous Internet forum.

I’m not the one complaining into the ether like its going to help.

You’re commenting to the ether like it’s going to help.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you can do crew as a club sport elsewhere. Go lobby the current school to form a team. But it’s not part of the culture today to have a lot of sports offerings.

I didn't realize the class size was only 40 boys, but there are still 4 grades in the HS, right ? So, its actually about 170 boys, correct ?

Not saying offer 5-6 sports every season, but maybe targeted: xc/track, crew, fencing, tennis- sports that only require a roster of 7-10 on the team

Head of School has an open zoom meeting with parents every week, you should mention a sports expansion there.

The one that just listens a take no action?

That’s the one! Just coasting along and talks a good talk.

Oh and what would you like to see implemented? Let me guess, every whim that comes into your head? And within the week, right?

Defensive, aren’t you?

Try “deeply amused”.

Why don’t you put your money where your mouth is? It’s so easy cowering behind an anonymous Internet forum. By all means, please share on the next call. I’ll get the popcorn. [/quote

Ohhhh, I guess you told me behind this anonymous Internet forum.

I’m not the one complaining into the ether like its going to help.

You’re commenting to the ether like it’s going to help.

Ha, that’s true! But it does help to amuse the heck out of me, so that’s something.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you can do crew as a club sport elsewhere. Go lobby the current school to form a team. But it’s not part of the culture today to have a lot of sports offerings.

I didn't realize the class size was only 40 boys, but there are still 4 grades in the HS, right ? So, its actually about 170 boys, correct ?

Not saying offer 5-6 sports every season, but maybe targeted: xc/track, crew, fencing, tennis- sports that only require a roster of 7-10 on the team

Head of School has an open zoom meeting with parents every week, you should mention a sports expansion there.

The one that just listens a take no action?

That’s the one! Just coasting along and talks a good talk.

Oh and what would you like to see implemented? Let me guess, every whim that comes into your head? And within the week, right?

Defensive, aren’t you?

Try “deeply amused”.

Why don’t you put your money where your mouth is? It’s so easy cowering behind an anonymous Internet forum. By all means, please share on the next call. I’ll get the popcorn. [/quote

Ohhhh, I guess you told me behind this anonymous Internet forum.

I’m not the one complaining into the ether like its going to help.

You’re commenting to the ether like it’s going to help.

Ha, that’s true! But it does help to amuse the heck out of me, so that’s something.

Me too! Isn’t that something?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you can do crew as a club sport elsewhere. Go lobby the current school to form a team. But it’s not part of the culture today to have a lot of sports offerings.

I didn't realize the class size was only 40 boys, but there are still 4 grades in the HS, right ? So, its actually about 170 boys, correct ?

Not saying offer 5-6 sports every season, but maybe targeted: xc/track, crew, fencing, tennis- sports that only require a roster of 7-10 on the team

Head of School has an open zoom meeting with parents every week, you should mention a sports expansion there.

The one that just listens a take no action?

That’s the one! Just coasting along and talks a good talk.

Oh and what would you like to see implemented? Let me guess, every whim that comes into your head? And within the week, right?

Defensive, aren’t you?

Try “deeply amused”.

Why don’t you put your money where your mouth is? It’s so easy cowering behind an anonymous Internet forum. By all means, please share on the next call. I’ll get the popcorn. [/quote

Ohhhh, I guess you told me behind this anonymous Internet forum.

I’m not the one complaining into the ether like its going to help.

You’re commenting to the ether like it’s going to help.

Ha, that’s true! But it does help to amuse the heck out of me, so that’s something.

Me too! Isn’t that something?

Well, laughter is the best medicine. Thanks, DCUM!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly do you think a school will be able to tell you they will not be able to support your kid when they know they can easily get 30k a year from you in this era of diversity and inclusion? All private schools, whether parochial or not are run like businesses these days... sorry to say.

What is this supposed to mean? I'm genuinely confused about how these things connect.

Besides, even if we accept that private schools are businesses, they have an incentive to only accept kids who will be successful. They need to keep their average SAT and college admissions scores high enough to justify that tuition.

My son has a classmate who is regularly disruptive with his mouth and body. He receives detention or threats of discipline with teacher saying things like they will contact his parents and whatnot. One teacher is aware of cheating on his part. Has shown poor grades to classmates. Just a perpetual cycle-nothing changing. Another has numerous siblings who attend, he should not. Sorry to say, but you are incorrect to think that they only take in successful students. That’s the goal, but not reality, it is done so for business as well.

[Anonymous]

St. Anselm's is a great school. I'm sure it's not a perfect school. Especially in the wake of the pandemic, it's bound to have difficulties with students readjusting to in person school every day, workload, and yes, even the odd kid who is "regularly disruptive with his mouth and body." These are kids, not saints.

We decided not to send our son there -- he wanted to go to school with girls -- but I've known a bunch from the neighborhood. In my experience of St. Anselm's, they come in all different types. Nerds, even one that was more "bro-ish," an artist. They all seem to be pretty curious, comfortable with themselves and each other.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly do you think a school will be able to tell you they will not be able to support your kid when they know they can easily get 30k a year from you [b]in this era of diversity and inclusion?[/b] All private schools, whether parochial or not are run like businesses these days... sorry to say.[/quote]

What is this supposed to mean? I'm genuinely confused about how these things connect.

Besides, even if we accept that private schools are businesses, they have an incentive to only accept kids who will be successful. They need to keep their average SAT and college admissions scores high enough to justify that tuition. [/quote]

My son has a classmate who is regularly disruptive with his mouth and body. He receives detention or threats of discipline with teacher saying things like they will contact his parents and whatnot. One teacher is aware of cheating on his part. Has shown poor grades to classmates. Just a perpetual cycle-nothing changing. Another has numerous siblings who attend, he should not. Sorry to say, but you are incorrect to think that they only take in successful students. That’s the goal, but not reality, it is done so for business as well. [/quote]

[Anonymous]

Our son attends SAAS and we have been quite happy. Not all the boys are needy or quirky. Our son runs with a group of normative, very neurotypical boys. They are athletic, play fortnight, like girls, and hang out. They are not quirky.

[Anonymous]

How would the fit be for an extremely smart HFA kid - not at all disuptive, just very quiet, rule abiding, hard working kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How would the fit be for an extremely smart HFA kid - not at all disuptive, just very quiet, rule abiding, hard working kid.

Talk to the school; they are very open to frank discussions about fit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are cliques!

...at every school on this planet.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How would the fit be for an extremely smart HFA kid - not at all disuptive, just very quiet, rule abiding, hard working kid.

Talk to the school; they are very open to frank discussions about fit.

Thank you - also wondering how it would be socially - how welcoming the community and kids are to a quiet/shy kid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How would the fit be for an extremely smart HFA kid - not at all disuptive, just very quiet, rule abiding, hard working kid.

Talk to the school; they are very open to frank discussions about fit.

Thank you - also wondering how it would be socially - how welcoming the community and kids are to a quiet/shy kid.

My son has been at the Abbey for 3 years and has a couple of quiet, shy kids in his circle of friends. I don't think your son would feel out of place. Honestly, the only kids my son has a hard time tolerating are the unkind/disrespectful kids and unfortunately there are a few of those too in his grade. Among the 5-6 kids in my son's circle of friends, there are different types (more or less academic, more or less into video games, a theatre kid, a musician, though all intellectually inclined and none super sporty) and I honestly think they appreciate each other's differences. A quiet non-disruptive kid would have plenty of opportunities to form friendships at the Abbey.

[Anonymous]

Your son and his group of friends sound wonderful- thank you!