Is this annoying? Daughter’s bf always orders so much!

[Anonymous]

Everyone seems to be missing what's rude here. They are in college, so he's an adult. How has this man eaten multiple restaurant meals at OP's house and not once offered to pay? High school I'd give him a pass. But college?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m conceding on the Chick-fil-A.

Here’s another example. DH texts and says he’s ordering pizza and what would we like. I say I’ll share DS’s cheese pizza. DD and her bf each order their own. Ok fine (I’m thinking why can’t they share but ok). The bf chooses the most expensive pizza. DD says can we also get xx appetizer and cinnamon pull apartment. I’m thinking ok that’s fine we will share that. And then the bf chimes in and requests ANOTHER appetizer on top of what DD has requested.

Ok and here’s a Taco Bell order: “1 beefy fritos burrito and 1 shredded chicken burrito please, Also, can we do the party pack with the 5 layer burritos in the mix instead of the bean burritos”

I mean, is this really normal?

Tell your daughter no. Tell the boyfriend no. Pick more reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m conceding on the Chick-fil-A.

Here’s another example. DH texts and says he’s ordering pizza and what would we like. I say I’ll share DS’s cheese pizza. DD and her bf each order their own. Ok fine (I’m thinking why can’t they share but ok). The bf chooses the most expensive pizza. DD says can we also get xx appetizer and cinnamon pull apartment. I’m thinking ok that’s fine we will share that. And then the bf chimes in and requests ANOTHER appetizer on top of what DD has requested.

Ok and here’s a Taco Bell order: “1 beefy fritos burrito and 1 shredded chicken burrito please, Also, can we do the party pack with the 5 layer burritos in the mix instead of the bean burritos”

I mean, is this really normal?

What is he ordering, the Meat Lover’s pizza? My question to you is: are they finishing most of the food or are they over-ordering? If the latter, I would set a boundary. If the former, I would let them order what they need to feel full but order from a less expensive restaurant.

[Anonymous]

Young men eat a lot, and this guy feels comfortable enough around you to not always act like he's at a dinner party. I don't think that's the worst thing. The worst thing is for your guest to still feel hungry after you've bought them dinner because they're holding back out of courtesy. When I was younger with a higher metabolism, I hated staying at my inlaws because there was never enough food for dinner. My MIL cooked as if we were all 5'-0" 100 pound 60-year-old women. We would end up leaving later at night to get more food, and if MIL found out, she would get offended that her dinner wasn't enough for us. It was just awkward and unpleasant all around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone seems to be missing what's rude here. They are in college, so he's an adult. How has this man eaten multiple restaurant meals at OP's house and not once offered to pay? High school I'd give him a pass. But college?

We don't know if he's offered to pay or not. It's possible that he has.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m conceding on the Chick-fil-A.

Here’s another example. DH texts and says he’s ordering pizza and what would we like. I say I’ll share DS’s cheese pizza. DD and her bf each order their own. Ok fine (I’m thinking why can’t they share but ok). The bf chooses the most expensive pizza. DD says can we also get xx appetizer and cinnamon pull apartment. I’m thinking ok that’s fine we will share that. And then the bf chimes in and requests ANOTHER appetizer on top of what DD has requested.

Ok and here’s a Taco Bell order: “1 beefy fritos burrito and 1 shredded chicken burrito please, Also, can we do the party pack with the 5 layer burritos in the mix instead of the bean burritos”

I mean, is this really normal?

Your family's diet is nasty. But really, if you need to count your pennies at taco bell, you should stop ordering takeout altogether.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone seems to be missing what's rude here. They are in college, so he's an adult. How has this man eaten multiple restaurant meals at OP's house and not once offered to pay? High school I'd give him a pass. But college?

I wouldn't expect a college student to pay for their own meals nor my kids but he should know better at that age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m conceding on the Chick-fil-A.

Here’s another example. DH texts and says he’s ordering pizza and what would we like. I say I’ll share DS’s cheese pizza. DD and her bf each order their own. Ok fine (I’m thinking why can’t they share but ok). The bf chooses the most expensive pizza. DD says can we also get xx appetizer and cinnamon pull apartment. I’m thinking ok that’s fine we will share that. And then the bf chimes in and requests ANOTHER appetizer on top of what DD has requested.

Ok and here’s a Taco Bell order: “1 beefy fritos burrito and 1 shredded chicken burrito please, Also, can we do the party pack with the 5 layer burritos in the mix instead of the bean burritos”

I mean, is this really normal?

Your family's diet is nasty. But really, if you need to count your pennies at taco bell, you should stop ordering takeout altogether.

Taco Bell is great for a quick cheap meal. Well, they were till they changed the menu.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been doing a lot of takeout. We love having our college daughter home but when we order dinner for her bf, he really seems to treat himself. When I got Chick-fil-A the other night, he gets a combo plus another full sandwich. Tonight we are getting Thai and he’s getting an appetizer, entree, and dessert! I mean, I’d love a mango and sticky rice too, but all those extras add up. Is this kind of rude? His order is always the most expensive thing!

rude and thoughtless. Hopefully your daughter realizes b4 it is too late.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m conceding on the Chick-fil-A.

Here’s another example. DH texts and says he’s ordering pizza and what would we like. I say I’ll share DS’s cheese pizza. DD and her bf each order their own. Ok fine (I’m thinking why can’t they share but ok). The bf chooses the most expensive pizza. DD says can we also get xx appetizer and cinnamon pull apartment. I’m thinking ok that’s fine we will share that. And then the bf chimes in and requests ANOTHER appetizer on top of what DD has requested.

Ok and here’s a Taco Bell order: “1 beefy fritos burrito and 1 shredded chicken burrito please, Also, can we do the party pack with the 5 layer burritos in the mix instead of the bean burritos”

I mean, is this really normal?

Tell your daughter no. Tell the boyfriend no. Pick more reasonable.

If you are itemizing and remembering all of this it must really bother you, OP. The TB order is essentially dollar menu items - that’s like $15 worth of food between the two of them. The pizza thing, just say no. Your DD is asking you what’s okay and you need to set boundaries. Or, just say you’re ordering xx pizzas for everyone to share.

I also think you are a middle-aged woman (oh, I’ll just share DS’s cheese pizza) and so you’re judging their eating through your own lens. But, you are the parents! Tell them they’re on their own, or we are only getting entrees today, or whatever. Not that hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m conceding on the Chick-fil-A.

Here’s another example. DH texts and says he’s ordering pizza and what would we like. I say I’ll share DS’s cheese pizza. DD and her bf each order their own. Ok fine (I’m thinking why can’t they share but ok). The bf chooses the most expensive pizza. DD says can we also get xx appetizer and cinnamon pull apartment. I’m thinking ok that’s fine we will share that. And then the bf chimes in and requests ANOTHER appetizer on top of what DD has requested.

Ok and here’s a Taco Bell order: “1 beefy fritos burrito and 1 shredded chicken burrito please, Also, can we do the party pack with the 5 layer burritos in the mix instead of the bean burritos”

I mean, is this really normal?

If you're already getting the party pack asking for a specific burrito in it is reasonable, and I think a normal Taco Bell order is a few items so asking for two burritos is very normal. The most expensive burrito at Taco Bell isn't even $4. This is incredibly normal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Rich? Is the kid from a rich family? I housed some boys from NYC and Connecticut, and if we stopped by even Burger King this one kid would order three meals!
Knowing that I had cooked dinner as well, but teen athletes so I was trying to make sure they were full. He had money from parents a ton of money, and he knew we were not that well off based on our house! Never one offered to pay for his own.

Np this seems more something a kid from a lower class family would do. At least that’s what I’ve seen. Rich kids have always had excellent manners

I will say that it’s awkward being a guest and wanting more. You offer to pay but the hosts don’t let you.

You are gross and trashy.

She sure is. I am above pop. Perhaps rich kids that come from old money have better manners. Trump-like trash like pp above has none.

[Anonymous]

This thread is showing me that some apps have no manners and are actually teaching their kids to have no manners and are proud of it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dont care what his excuse is.. his lack of awareness is the problem and its a red flag for larger issues down the road. Encourage her to get rid of him asap.

Because he ordered dessert? The one dodging the bullet would not be her.

Now, the people telling the stories of the kid buying the lobster “because your parents can afford it”, then the daughter should,hear that and dump them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m conceding on the Chick-fil-A.

Here’s another example. DH texts and says he’s ordering pizza and what would we like. I say I’ll share DS’s cheese pizza. DD and her bf each order their own. Ok fine (I’m thinking why can’t they share but ok). The bf chooses the most expensive pizza. DD says can we also get xx appetizer and cinnamon pull apartment. I’m thinking ok that’s fine we will share that. And then the bf chimes in and requests ANOTHER appetizer on top of what DD has requested.

Ok and here’s a Taco Bell order: “1 beefy fritos burrito and 1 shredded chicken burrito please, Also, can we do the party pack with the 5 layer burritos in the mix instead of the bean burritos”

I mean, is this really normal?

Your family's diet is nasty. But really, if you need to count your pennies at taco bell, you should stop ordering takeout altogether.

DP. Most of us here are on a budget. I went through Jiffy Lube to change oil yesterday, they told me the filter is gross and showed me. I certainly changed it but it did give me pause that it was $40 extra.
OP do not give a thought to this comment on your diet. Do what suits your family. Boyfriend has no manners and only thinks of himself. He is rude. And no shame in counting pennies either!