Leaving Husband With Baby For A Week

[Anonymous]

I am going to ask AGAIN OP- HAVE you talked to your pediatrician about whether you need to quarantine and/or get tested before you go back to your family? Has your MIL been quarantined and been tested or will get tested? Are you interviewing replacements remotely? Have you been tested prior to seeing your father?

This is not about your husband. This is about risk assessment. Please contact your ped to get the correct information and stop messing around with your kids life.

OP here. I have not talked to the pediatrician but we are all social distancing and I will be driving to/from. His caretaker has been following proper guidelines this whole time and lives alone. I will screening people via phone or video call. My MIL and FIL live alone and are social distancing. We have seen them multiple times since he was born. They live very close.

Well good luck. I would never make a decision without SPECIFIC medical personnel input during a pandemic.

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you women shock me. It's a week. OP will be gone for a week. it's not like she is leaving for a month. Men leave for a week on business trips and no one says anything. Her child needs his dad just as much as he needs his mom. Her husband sounds like a great dad who will be able to handle things for a week. No need to make OP feel bad.

True, but baby is breastfed. That’s the key difference. I wouldn’t leave a breastfed baby for a week. It would mess up my milk supply (pumping is just not the same) and as another PP mentioned, babies at that age greatly benefit from the antibodies in their mother’s beast milk. Now if OP’s baby was exclusively formula-fed, then there wouldn’t be an issue.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not leave a baby that young with a man. They dont have the instincts. They can sleep right through a baby crying in the middle of the night. They cant discern the different types of crying. They are prone to frustration.

Agree 100%. There is a biological reason women are more nurturing. It’s called oxytocin and it’s the hormone responsible for making new moms nurturing and attentive.

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you women shock me. It's a week. OP will be gone for a week. it's not like she is leaving for a month. Men leave for a week on business trips and no one says anything. Her child needs his dad just as much as he needs his mom. Her husband sounds like a great dad who will be able to handle things for a week. No need to make OP feel bad.

True, but baby is breastfed. That’s the key difference. I wouldn’t leave a breastfed baby for a week. It would mess up my milk supply (pumping is just not the same) and as another PP mentioned, babies at that age greatly benefit from the antibodies in their mother’s beast milk. Now if OP’s baby was exclusively formula-fed, then there wouldn’t be an issue.

OP here. My baby is combo fed and will take frozen milk and formula for feeds.

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you women shock me. It's a week. OP will be gone for a week. it's not like she is leaving for a month. Men leave for a week on business trips and no one says anything. Her child needs his dad just as much as he needs his mom. Her husband sounds like a great dad who will be able to handle things for a week. No need to make OP feel bad.

True, but baby is breastfed. That’s the key difference. I wouldn’t leave a breastfed baby for a week. It would mess up my milk supply (pumping is just not the same) and as another PP mentioned, babies at that age greatly benefit from the antibodies in their mother’s beast milk. Now if OP’s baby was exclusively formula-fed, then there wouldn’t be an issue.

Breastfeeding are highly overstated. There are very minimal benefits for a breastfed baby.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not leave a baby that young with a man. They dont have the instincts. They can sleep right through a baby crying in the middle of the night. They cant discern the different types of crying. They are prone to frustration.

Agree 100%. There is a biological reason women are more nurturing. It’s called oxytocin and it’s the hormone responsible for making new moms nurturing and attentive.

OP here. My husband wakes up to feed our son during the night. He knows the types of crying, just like any caregiver who spends times with a newborn will learn. My husband cares for our son without any issue. He doesn’t become frustrated.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not leave a baby that young with a man. They dont have the instincts. They can sleep right through a baby crying in the middle of the night. They cant discern the different types of crying. They are prone to frustration.

Agree 100%. There is a biological reason women are more nurturing. It’s called oxytocin and it’s the hormone responsible for making new moms nurturing and attentive.

Man, I really hope you don’t have a husband. This is highly insulting to men. There are men who are great fathers, and make better parents than mothers. I’ve known women who didn’t wake up at night and their husbands did, who effortlessly cared for their child, and they didn’t have any frustration. There are many moms who are not nurturing. Men can never thrive in your feminist view of the world and approach to men being incapable, ill tempered fathers. How sad for the men in your life.

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Anonymous wrote:They will do great!! You will miss them both, especially baby, but they will be perfectly fine together.

I would prepare for the possibility that baby may not want to nurse when you get back, and you’ll need to be extremely careful about COVID exposure.

OP here. It's just my dad and he lives in a rural area. His caretaker injured her back and will be out for a week. My dad is high risk and partially disabled. He needs help and I'm the only one that can help him since I can drive to him.

OP, I just wanted to say I'm sorry about your dad. I am also the only one who can take care of one of my parents and it is a huge stressor in my life. You and your baby and your husband will all be fine. If he's on paternity leave than that's great because he doesn't have to worry about trying to work and take care of the baby. Just tell him to survive - ordering pizza is ok, microwaving frozen meals is ok. It's only one week. I hope it all works out for you.

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Anonymous wrote:You should not leave an 8 week old. Your husband can go take care of your father for a week.

You people are ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd be taking baby with me too. Newborns need antibodies. If your baby has a fever and is <3 months old, they are supposed to go to the NICU. You should not be traveling. The safest way to travel is to at least give baby your antibodies.

What if the baby was exclusively formula-fed?

So I guess I should have just sent my kids to the NICU for the first three months since the were formula fed due to a double mastectomy. Good to know! I'll make sure to let my other friends know.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you willing to give up breastfeeding and possibly have your baby not recognize you when you get back?

FOR THE LOVE.

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Anonymous wrote:At 8 weeks I would not do this. If YOU needed life-saving surgery I would do it, otherwise no. If somebody is dying, they are going to die. Your baby's life has JUST started. They don't have vaccines, they only have the immunity they got from being inside your baby and maybe if you've been nursing. Somebody else can help with the family emergency. You have to prioritize your newborn.

Sorry. I know this sounds harsh and isn't what you want to hear. But it's absolutely what I would do.

I agree with the PP. At eight weeks I’m bringing baby with me, and if it’s an emergency that can’t be handled with a baby in tow, then I am not equipped to help either. Unless one of my other children were in dire circumstances I can’t imagine it.

I agree. The baby would be coming with me, no question.

It's good that you all view the baby's fathers as equal parents.

FFS.

Seriously. I feel sorry for your husbands. I guess they're just sperm donors and money makers.

[Anonymous]

Since your father only lives 2 hours away, go pick him up and bring him back to your house to stay with you for a week. No need to leave your baby for an entire week when he lives so close. This is sounding a little off. I mean this kindly OP, is it possible you are suffering from PPD and want to get away from your baby?

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Anonymous wrote:Since your father only lives 2 hours away, go pick him up and bring him back to your house to stay with you for a week. No need to leave your baby for an entire week when he lives so close. This is sounding a little off. I mean this kindly OP, is it possible you are suffering from PPD and want to get away from your baby?

OP, I am also wondering why you can’t just bring dad to your house?

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Op doesn’t strike me as genuinely searching for advice.

I absolutely wouldn’t do this, but it doesn’t really matter since it’s not my life or decision.