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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Um no. And what do you when someone disrespects you at work, at the grocery store, on 495...

It’s a teaching moment. Hard parenting. Kid was looking for a reaction and some attention. He’s 12 and hormonal. You discipline without violence setting a boundary for acceptable language. Time for a lengthy talk.

I was a horrible teen and the worst punishment ever was an hour long chat with Dad. Looking back, he was a wonderful father and role model of calm. Not a doormat at all.[/quote]

Listen, I think you are nuts and a bad mother, and you think I'm nuts and a bad mother, let's just move on. Happy Mother's Day and enjoy what little is left of it![/quote]

Ok. I was a NP. I didn’t say anyone was a bad mom. I just don’t believe in corporal punishment. A 12 year old boy told his Mon to quit bitching on Mother’s day. It was disrespectful, foul language, bad character... slapping that kid isn’t going to teach him anything other than violence. And to the poster’s invoking Daddy to fix the problem, major disrespect to Moms on discipline. Moms can effectively discipline asshole boy tweens/teens behavior without invoking Andre the Giant. Otherwise, what message are you sending when he’s alone with a girl? Girls and women need men as backbones?[/quote]

Np, my teenaged daughter was going through a phase where she was being sassy with her dad/my husband for no reason at all. He tried correcting her, but for whatever reason it fell on deaf ears with her and she continued on. After about a week of him trying, I swiftly stepped in, spoke woman to woman with her and became an extremely nasty bitch. Scarred the bejesus out of her, but absolutely straightened her out.

My point is, sometimes the same sex parent knows how to better speak the language to effectuate the needed change.

Something tells me that OP's son may have learned the behavior from the father.

Do not underestimate the power of a strong male role model.  If a teenage boy back talks his mom and dad doesn't bat an eye about it or laughs and rolls his eyes or has some other inappropriate reaction.... that sends a message to the kid that it is acceptable to back talk Mom.  If a father immediately steps in and stands up for his wife and tells the boy to respect his Mom - that is also a very, very strong message to that boy:  The men in our house respect women.[/quote]

+100, especially if he looks up to his father. [/quote]

And an even stronger message to the boy is the Dad who doesn’t eyeroll or disrespect his wife and cedes to her discipline on a matter of a kid disrespecting her. She can handle it without a bodyguard. Imagine the reverse where a Mom steps in to discipline a teen disrespecting their Dad. It’s ridiculous gender bias. Teaches boys not to respect a woman’s authority unless backed by a male.[/quote][/quote]

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