Someone created a negative site about me

[Anonymous]

It is a difficult situation when your actions could have jeopardized the employers kids.

If I was in the employer's shoes I would first want a sincere apology. Since your apology seems to only come because of the site's negative impact on you, your apology will sound hollow if you ask her to take the site down.

If you have truly changed then all you need to do is ask her forgiveness without asking for any favors in return.

Go back to school and work your way up.

[Anonymous]

Let us know what the site is and we can give better advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, you sound like a real piece of work. You lie in order to get a job, mess up badly in the job, make a bunch of trouble when she fires you, the issues involve her children, she's simply reporting the truth to try to warn other people about your character so they don't make the same mistake, and.... you're looking for sympathy from us? Seriously? You know this is a parenting website, right?

It sounds like what she's doing is giving you an honest review, and making it public. She is absolutely allowed to do that. She's actually allowed to do that even WITHOUT proof, if she prefaces the thing saying it's her experience and her opinion and has any reasonable reasons to write what she wrote. But with proof? And now you're seriously thinking about trying to make up some random lies about her to try to coerce her into taking down her TRUTHFUL account of her experience with your services? That will be the next thing on her page about you, and I'm sure employers will love to read about that latest installment in your lack of personal character.

There's nothing you can do. Nothing. Except maybe try to use the experience to be a better person. Maybe one day in a few years when you've genuinely changed, you can write her a heartfelt apology. And maybe she'll take pity on you and take it down. But newsflash: you're a long way from that point, since there's no actual remorse from your side at all and only vile entitlement.

SHM.

NO YOU ARE A PIECE OF WORK...I am NOT the OP , but do YOU really think her previous boss acting like a lunatic is appropriate?You must be a borderline personality, as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, you sound like a real piece of work. You lie in order to get a job, mess up badly in the job, make a bunch of trouble when she fires you, the issues involve her children, she's simply reporting the truth to try to warn other people about your character so they don't make the same mistake, and.... you're looking for sympathy from us? Seriously? You know this is a parenting website, right?

It sounds like what she's doing is giving you an honest review, and making it public. She is absolutely allowed to do that. She's actually allowed to do that even WITHOUT proof, if she prefaces the thing saying it's her experience and her opinion and has any reasonable reasons to write what she wrote. But with proof? And now you're seriously thinking about trying to make up some random lies about her to try to coerce her into taking down her TRUTHFUL account of her experience with your services? That will be the next thing on her page about you, and I'm sure employers will love to read about that latest installment in your lack of personal character.

There's nothing you can do. Nothing. Except maybe try to use the experience to be a better person. Maybe one day in a few years when you've genuinely changed, you can write her a heartfelt apology. And maybe she'll take pity on you and take it down. But newsflash: you're a long way from that point, since there's no actual remorse from your side at all and only vile entitlement.

SHM.

NO YOU ARE A PIECE OF WORK...I am NOT the OP , but do YOU really think her previous boss acting like a lunatic is appropriate?You must be a borderline personality, as well.

Not the PP but, if the OP endangered children in the course of her job, i.e. driving under the influence, then I can understand the former employer wanting to ensure that the OP is never employed as a nanny again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://www.mommyish.com/i-had-to-fire-my-nanny-after-finding-out-about-her-trouble-with-the-law-996/

This site will not load for me. Did it suddenly get take down?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If what your former employer is saying is true, it's not libel. She has the right to free speech. I agree with a poster way earlier in the thread that you could create your own website explaining yourself and how you have realized your errors and have grown since, etc.
You could also contact the former employer, apologize, and explain how you have changed your ways and ask them to take their website down.

I would not create a website saying negative things about your employer.

When will people on this site learn what free speech is?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:http://www.mommyish.com/i-had-to-fire-my-nanny-after-finding-out-about-her-trouble-with-the-law-996/

This site will not load for me. Did it suddenly get take down?

No it is working for me ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If what your former employer is saying is true, it's not libel. She has the right to free speech. I agree with a poster way earlier in the thread that you could create your own website explaining yourself and how you have realized your errors and have grown since, etc.
You could also contact the former employer, apologize, and explain how you have changed your ways and ask them to take their website down.

I would not create a website saying negative things about your employer.

When will people on this site learn what free speech is?

PP you quoted. Please enlighten me.

[Anonymous]

You guys chased OP away.

This is why we can’t have nice things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You guys chased OP away.

This is why we can’t have nice things.

This is why we can't have the full story on a person who acted badly and know can't accept that it colors her future prospects. Hmm.

[Anonymous]

Seems like a lot of Schadenfreude here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If what your former employer is saying is true, it's not libel. She has the right to free speech. I agree with a poster way earlier in the thread that you could create your own website explaining yourself and how you have realized your errors and have grown since, etc.
You could also contact the former employer, apologize, and explain how you have changed your ways and ask them to take their website down.

I would not create a website saying negative things about your employer.

When will people on this site learn what free speech is?

PP you quoted. Please enlighten me.

NP here. I *think* what the PP was saying is that the right to free speech is the right to not be jailed or otherwise impinged upon by the government by what you say. It has nothing to do with other people not giving you the opportunity to speak, but the government. In Hong Kong this week a candidate for political office was arrested so he couldn't speak out - if that happened here that would be a denial of free speech.

[Anonymous]

Not that hard to change your name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t have the money for a legal battle. My old boss is the type who would fight if I tried to go the legal route. She hates me. What I did involves her kids. I feel really bad about it and hate that version of myself. But I need to be able to move on from this.

Are there any ideas that don’t involve a lawsuit or pissing her off further? I want to apologize but it’s been so long and she won’t even agree to see me.

People learn to read. She says it "involves her kids". Stop writing she put them in danger, and so on. No one knows what happened.

It's been 2 years OP. Let it go, and certainly don't give this lady anymore satisfaction. Apparently you weren't the only one with issues!

[Anonymous]

Make a linked in profile. Make a Facebook page and make it public. Start a blog about something. The more you get your name searchable on the web the better. Leave restaurant reviews on yelp that use your full real name. Etc. it’s easy.