Someone created a negative site about me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do not change your name and silly stuff like that. Go to a legal aide, pay a small fee so have a letter sent to her home address. We did that once and they backed off. Make sure it spells out you will seek legal action and damages if she doesn't take the website down.

What she is doing is illegal.

Whats illegal about what she's doing if it's all true?

It doesn’t need to be illegal to send a cease & desist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not change your name and silly stuff like that. Go to a legal aide, pay a small fee so have a letter sent to her home address. We did that once and they backed off. Make sure it spells out you will seek legal action and damages if she doesn't take the website down.

What she is doing is illegal.

Pray tell, how so?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not change your name and silly stuff like that. Go to a legal aide, pay a small fee so have a letter sent to her home address. We did that once and they backed off. Make sure it spells out you will seek legal action and damages if she doesn't take the website down.

What she is doing is illegal.

What is a "legal aide"?

Please specify how the actions are illegal.

[Anonymous]

Contact her, apologize earnestly, tell her how the website is affecting your life, and ask her to remove it. If she refuses, do what Jeff suggested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Contact her, apologize earnestly, tell her how the website is affecting your life, and ask her to remove it. If she refuses, do what Jeff suggested.

+1. I would reach out to her and see if you can convince her to delete it. Explain that you've changed, learned your lesson, apologize, etc. Maybe being nice will get her to agree to remove it or at least remove your name from it. How long ago was this? If it was 5+ years ago, I'd hope she would get past it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do not change your name and silly stuff like that. Go to a legal aide, pay a small fee so have a letter sent to her home address. We did that once and they backed off. Make sure it spells out you will seek legal action and damages if she doesn't take the website down.

What she is doing is illegal.

Whats illegal about what she's doing if it's all true?

It doesn’t need to be illegal to send a cease & desist.

Exactly.

However, the more I think about it....I see the loony employer as disturbing. It's beyond revengeful and petty.

OP I would make a website on her. Make sure they will get there from her name and the company she has. I would simply tell everyone about her website designed to discredit you. How she's gone out of her way and as an employer it's probably not good for her business or future business. I would play it like that. Don't defame her, but merely point out what she's done. And certainly don't bring up or defend anything she's said about you.
Merely point out her "behavior". If she's gone to this much trouble over 1 employee 2 years ago, imagine what she does to those close to her, LOL!
You could put that in there too.

She may end up taking it down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A few years ago, I messed up badly at a job. I was young and dumb, and I made mistakes. The employer turned out to be a really vengeful person. She blasted what I did all over the internet and actually wrote a blog post about it. She also included screenshots of some text messages that we exchanged. My name is distinctive and that website is the first result in any google search about me. I have no proof, but I think it is costing me jobs.

What can I do? I have thought about suing her for defamation, but she has proof of everything she says. She also has a lot more money than me and hates me enough to fight it out in court. She refuses to take the website down.

I agree with the other PP who suggested apologizing. Not only apologizing but owning up to what you did, and recognizing how it negatively affected her.

I know this is going to be difficult to do, and make you feel uncomfortable but you would be surprised how many people will forgive the wrong-doer after a heart-felt apology. And you must do it face to face. it's really hard to maintain that same level of resentment when you're the person who is apologizing to you is sitting 5 feet away from you.

If that doesn't work, then go to Step 2, the legal route. Good luck OP.

[Anonymous]

Register a domain name with her first and middle name
Sell the domain name to a porn website

Email her and tell her to google her name

[Anonymous]

That's part of business. You get bad employees, fire them and move on. You sometimes get bad tenants, that's life.
It's odd this former employer would go to such lengths. She can try apologizing but going by that type of personality type I don't see it working.
OP have you asked her to take it down at any point?

[Anonymous]

A lot of these suggestions are just going to dig you a deeper hole. What you did
was totally disgraceful and dishonest. Have you been unable to get a job all these years? I find it hard to believe that her one post about you is preventing you from finding a job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Register a domain name with her first and middle name
Sell the domain name to a porn website

Email her and tell her to google her name

THAT would be incredible!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of these suggestions are just going to dig you a deeper hole. What you did
was totally disgraceful and dishonest. Have you been unable to get a job all these years? I find it hard to believe that her one post about you is preventing you from finding a job.

wait! did OP say what she did?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What the heck did you do that she holds such a grudge against you?? What industry is this? Maybe there's some other tort you could sue her for.

I lied about my background and did a really bad job of what she hired me for. I also told some lies on the way out. I cant give more info than that.

hmmm.....a lot of people do this when they're first starting out working. It must have been some hellish lies! Unless your job was a life or death type of job, I can't understand why she is still this pissed at you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What the heck did you do that she holds such a grudge against you?? What industry is this? Maybe there's some other tort you could sue her for.

I lied about my background and did a really bad job of what she hired me for. I also told some lies on the way out. I cant give more info than that.

hmmm.....a lot of people do this when they're first starting out working. It must have been some hellish lies! Unless your job was a life or death type of job, I can't understand why she is still this pissed at you.

No kidding! I think the old employer is the nutter. I would think if people Google this employer and find that site they would see the same thing. If she can't handle one employee doing a poor job, and lying....oh my..that doesn't reflect well on her. As in UNBALANCED.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:You can try contacting whoever hosts the website. It might violate their terms is service.

Or, make a website about her and then agree that you will both remove them.

Agree. OP this sounds like cyber bullying. Especially if you’ve not had contact for years.