Would you let your DH go on a solo vacation to Thailand?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This whole thread reminds me of a golf vacation that my DH and his buddies took to the DR a few years back.

We both have always taken vacations away from each other. All my girlfriends talked about the beautiful women and the sex trade there. They told me that him going was not the issue - that him WANTING to go was the issue. When I mentioned it, DH showed me that the resort they were going to had one of the best golf courses in the world and he is crazy about golf. I was not hearing that and we argued for days. Finally, I realized that I was in no position to give "permission" to a grown man. To my knowledge, he had never betrayed me. Also, knowing how he feels about golf, I did not want to be the one to prevent him from playing a bucket list course. So...I gave him stern "behave or get beheaded" warning and sent him on his way. He liked it so much that WE went back for our next couples trip.

Now, I do not know much about Thailand although I have been to Vietnam, but I have heard rumors about the sex trade and have heard how the government is trying to crack down on foreign nationals who come there for sex tourism. But SE Asia is beautiful and the culture is unforgettable. So I would ask a lot of questions but I would likely go along with it.

My cousin is 29 years old, and he went to a fancy resort in thailand to play golf with his boss. All the employees at the resort are beautiful women who wear only bikinis. Um yeah, that's a brothel. I didn't ask details, but you'd have to be retard to think it's not.

Hard to take your post seriously when you throw that word around

Bikini?

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Male who has been to Thailand before, alone (well, without family.. met some friends there).

You people act like Thailand's GDP is 90% from the sex trade, and that's all there is. That's simply not the case. It's a crazy city (in a good way), with great food, pleasant weather, cheap shopping, and friendly people. I never took part in the sex trade, and it wasn't even that outward nor offered to me. I did to out to bars and nightclubs, but those were all "normal" places I guess. I guess there are certain streets and parts of town where this is on offer, but it's easy to just not end up there.

Think about it -- so many families and couples go to Thailand for vacation, especially Europeans. The Thais are very enterprising, and have lots for those people to do, and none of that involves the sex trade. Surely a male could also partake in those activities as well.

Thailand is not a city

I lived in Thailand for eight years. It's a beautiful country with lots to do-night clubs and sex are not the only reason people go there. That said, I have seen the seedy side of Bangkok and Chiang Mai and foreign (particularly white, western) men traveling solo are definitely a target. Not saying your DH is going there for sex tourism, but I would be highly suspicious if I were you. It's very far away for a married man with kids to be traveling just for fun. Why aren't you going with him? If my husband was planning a trip to Thailand I'd be pissed if he didn't take me!

[Anonymous]

A lot of places yes. Places known for child sex trafficking, hell no. Does he have a hobby tied to that region - cooking, art collection, architecture tourism? Does he have a business interest in the region? If not, seems fishy.

[Anonymous]

You folks have just been blundered by the media that has focused on one scandalous area. Thailand. They don't focus on London. Or Paris. Or Rome. Or Florence. But the same shit happens there.

I'm the Returned Peace Corps Volunteer from early in the thread. I saw it first hand and it wasn't in just one area. There wasn't a single place in the entire country that prostitution wasn't readily available. The bigger the place, the more options. I worked for a provincial government office and at the holiday parties the office through, the boss hired prostitutes to 'entertain'. They often double as singers (singing is a big thing in Thailand and everyone does it). I also know a number of families whose DD's were sent to be 'housekeepers' in large cities - they weren't exactly keeping house. The families were too poor to support the kids and the girls didn't have many options. It's heartbreaking. What was even harder was going to visit friends doing HIV education/prevention. Crushing.

So, no, it's not being 'blundered' by the media. I saw it first hand. Oh, I've also been to London, Paris, Rome and Florence (and a lot of other places). In addition to Thai, I also speak German, Italian, Russian and Romanian. I've seen a lot of prostitution in a lot of places but nothing that rivals Thailand.

But, if this weren't a solo trip, I'd be all for OP and her DH going. It's a fabulous place. I just have to question why a married guy would go there solo for vacation.

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Anonymous wrote:I go on such vacations. A blast of debauchery. If you don't want your DH to sleep around, don't let him go. There is little chance he won't partake if he's there alone.

Why do you go to Thailand for this? Why not the us? Is it because they're minors?

Do you know anything about Thailand? Yeah, it's beautiful, very tourist friendly and a great vacation spot but there's a huge sex trade. The closest place in the US like it is Vegas but that's a distant 2nd - and Thailand is a LOT cheaper.

I do know something about Thailand. I'm asking why pp flies all the way to Thailand for prostitutes, when he can get them here. Do you know anything about the US? He doesn't have to go to Las Vegas. I wonder if the reason he chooses Thailand is because he can find child prostitutes more easily.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This whole thread reminds me of a golf vacation that my DH and his buddies took to the DR a few years back.

We both have always taken vacations away from each other. All my girlfriends talked about the beautiful women and the sex trade there. They told me that him going was not the issue - that him WANTING to go was the issue. When I mentioned it, DH showed me that the resort they were going to had one of the best golf courses in the world and he is crazy about golf. I was not hearing that and we argued for days. Finally, I realized that I was in no position to give "permission" to a grown man. To my knowledge, he had never betrayed me. Also, knowing how he feels about golf, I did not want to be the one to prevent him from playing a bucket list course. So...I gave him stern "behave or get beheaded" warning and sent him on his way. He liked it so much that WE went back for our next couples trip.

Now, I do not know much about Thailand although I have been to Vietnam, but I have heard rumors about the sex trade and have heard how the government is trying to crack down on foreign nationals who come there for sex tourism. But SE Asia is beautiful and the culture is unforgettable. So I would ask a lot of questions but I would likely go along with it.

My cousin is 29 years old, and he went to a fancy resort in thailand to play golf with his boss. All the employees at the resort are beautiful women who wear only bikinis. Um yeah, that's a brothel. I didn't ask details, but you'd have to be retard to think it's not.

Hard to take your post seriously when you throw that word around

Bikini?

R word

+1

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[TwistdMike]

I've been to Thailand and SE Asia over a dozen times and never once slept with a prostitute. I value "miniMike" too much and our health.

It depends on a persons moral compass.

As others have said, the seedy areas are evident. Stay away from those areas and the country, people are wonderful. There are many, many things to do there other than the sex industries.

[Anonymous]

Hell to the N-O

But probably because it would be SO out of character for him.

[Anonymous]

Read internationalsexguide dot com before you let him go.

[Anonymous]

TwistdMike wrote:I've been to Thailand and SE Asia over a dozen times and never once slept with a prostitute. I value "miniMike" too much and our health.

It depends on a persons moral compass.

As others have said, the seedy areas are evident. Stay away from those areas and the country, people are wonderful. There are many, many things to do there other than the sex industries.

You missed out bro.

[Anonymous]

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TwistdMike wrote:I've been to Thailand and SE Asia over a dozen times and never once slept with a prostitute. I value "miniMike" too much and our health.

It depends on a persons moral compass.

As others have said, the seedy areas are evident. Stay away from those areas and the country, people are wonderful. There are many, many things to do there other than the sex industries.

You missed out bro.

I guess you have no conscience about the impoverished children and kids you took advance of there. asshat.

[Anonymous]

No. Sex vacation. Contributing to human trafficking.

[Anonymous]

TwistdMike wrote:I've been to Thailand and SE Asia over a dozen times and never once slept with a prostitute. I value "miniMike" too much and our health.

It depends on a persons moral compass.

As others have said, the seedy areas are evident. Stay away from those areas and the country, people are wonderful. There are many, many things to do there other than the sex industries.

So are you saying that you are married with kids and vacation solo in Thailand? Because if not, she's not looking for advice where to advise hubby to hang out, she's trying to assess the fidelity factor and creepiness issue of him fleeing the US for some me-time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I go on such vacations. A blast of debauchery. If you don't want your DH to sleep around, don't let him go. There is little chance he won't partake if he's there alone.

Why do you go to Thailand for this? Why not the us? Is it because they're minors?

Do you know anything about Thailand? Yeah, it's beautiful, very tourist friendly and a great vacation spot but there's a huge sex trade. The closest place in the US like it is Vegas but that's a distant 2nd - and Thailand is a LOT cheaper.

I do know something about Thailand. I'm asking why pp flies all the way to Thailand for prostitutes, when he can get them here. Do you know anything about the US? He doesn't have to go to Las Vegas. I wonder if the reason he chooses Thailand is because he can find child prostitutes more easily.

This. I would freak out if DH wanted to go to Thailand solo because it would make me wonder if he were a secret pedophile.

[TwistdMike]

Sometimes I'm solo and sometimes with DW.

I fly long haul frequently. Some of the routes would put me in transit/planes 30+ hours. Therefore, I will typically take an extended layover somewhere in between to get some rest and see some sights.

If there is something interesting to DW during the time, such as the cherry blossoms in Japan, she will fly over to meet me.

As stated before, depends upon OPs moral compass...