Teen needs to miss a week at her internship this summer due to family vacation ...

[Anonymous]

Couple opinions:

Your daughter is NOT providing value to the company. Instagram and Twitter followers are not a metric that mean anything in real life. Internships are valuable to the interns for experience and connections. So you've got this whole set up twisted from the jump. They don't owe her anything- she's a high schooler who got a good opportunity to prove she's a capable professional.

If this was planned, she should have told them UP FRONT "I will need the week of July 10 off. I hope that is okay but understand if not." Then they could either let her know it was or you could have rearranged your vacation if necessary. When our teen son got a lifeguarding job we told him to make sure his supervisor knew as soon as he offered the job that we had a vacation planned one week. The week before r worked extra double shifts to make up for that missing time.

74 other kids would have loved this internship and probably would have appreciated the experience and resume building. You and your daughter evidently do not. And that's a shame.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Op - just let them know your DC will miss a few days. they won't care. we have interns at my work (HS and college kids) and, since they don't do "real" work, no one cares

OMG MOM has NO role in this. This is totally the teen's responsibility. The teen - and only the teen - can clarify what can/can not be done, time taken off.

+1

[Anonymous]

What is the health condition?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Op - just let them know your DC will miss a few days. they won't care. we have interns at my work (HS and college kids) and, since they don't do "real" work, no one cares

OMG MOM has NO role in this. This is totally the teen's responsibility. The teen - and only the teen - can clarify what can/can not be done, time taken off.

+1

Well if that is true then the TEEN can decide to stay at home and honor her commitment. See how that works?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the health condition?

There is none. What kind of health condition allows for one to work a high paced internship but also necessitates going on family vacation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is the health condition?

There is none. What kind of health condition allows for one to work a high paced internship but also necessitates going on family vacation

Affluenza?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is the health condition?

There is none. What kind of health condition allows for one to work a high paced internship but also necessitates going on family vacation

Affluenza?

+100000000000000000

[Anonymous]

Well if that is true then the TEEN can decide to stay at home and honor her commitment. See how that works?

Yes she could. These are hard decisions. Adult, or cusp-of-adulthood decisions. And work and career is the adult world. The family should have thought this through if leaving without taking the teen is not an option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet if you asked the teen she would rather work at the internship and have the week home alone than go in a family vacation! I know I would have

Most teens would rather vacation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bet if you asked the teen she would rather work at the internship and have the week home alone than go in a family vacation! I know I would have

Most teens would rather vacation.

That's because they don't value work. When I was 16 I got a job and picked up any shift I could. In summer I worked 50 hour weeks because why not. I would rather have money and be out of the house than sitting at home and having to ask my mom for money. Our teenage son brought a friend along on vacation this year who is 18 and doesn't have even a summer job and it's not like his mom is wealthy. But he just doesn't want or have a job. They don't care anymore. Independence isn't the goal for millenials, indefinite support and coddling is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bet if you asked the teen she would rather work at the internship and have the week home alone than go in a family vacation! I know I would have

Most teens would rather vacation.

That's because they don't value work. When I was 16 I got a job and picked up any shift I could. In summer I worked 50 hour weeks because why not. I would rather have money and be out of the house than sitting at home and having to ask my mom for money. Our teenage son brought a friend along on vacation this year who is 18 and doesn't have even a summer job and it's not like his mom is wealthy. But he just doesn't want or have a job. They don't care anymore. Independence isn't the goal for millenials, indefinite support and coddling is.

And it's enabled by parents. Some of the most accomplished kids at my kid's HS will head off to college never having dirtied their hands with a paid job. Meanwhile, their parents complain all they do is lay around doing nothing during the summer. Where is the disconnect?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bet if you asked the teen she would rather work at the internship and have the week home alone than go in a family vacation! I know I would have

Most teens would rather vacation.

That's because they don't value work. When I was 16 I got a job and picked up any shift I could. In summer I worked 50 hour weeks because why not. I would rather have money and be out of the house than sitting at home and having to ask my mom for money. Our teenage son brought a friend along on vacation this year who is 18 and doesn't have even a summer job and it's not like his mom is wealthy. But he just doesn't want or have a job. They don't care anymore. Independence isn't the goal for millenials, indefinite support and coddling is.

And it's enabled by parents. Some of the most accomplished kids at my kid's HS will head off to college never having dirtied their hands with a paid job. Meanwhile, their parents complain all they do is lay around doing nothing during the summer. Where is the disconnect?

Yep. We made ours get a summer job. You cannot be 17/18 and spend all summer doing nothing. It's unacceptable. You work. Especially these boys- they don't seem to understand that they are going to be expected to work for the rest of their lives, support a family. Work is not an option. Letting them shirk it until age 23 does nobody any favors. We have two daughters who will also be expected to work when they become teenagers. Helping your kids develop a work ethic is your job as a parent. Letting them lie around the house developing no skills or sense of independence is just poor parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bet if you asked the teen she would rather work at the internship and have the week home alone than go in a family vacation! I know I would have

Most teens would rather vacation.

That's because they don't value work. When I was 16 I got a job and picked up any shift I could. In summer I worked 50 hour weeks because why not. I would rather have money and be out of the house than sitting at home and having to ask my mom for money. Our teenage son brought a friend along on vacation this year who is 18 and doesn't have even a summer job and it's not like his mom is wealthy. But he just doesn't want or have a job. They don't care anymore. Independence isn't the goal for millenials, indefinite support and coddling is.

And it's enabled by parents. Some of the most accomplished kids at my kid's HS will head off to college never having dirtied their hands with a paid job. Meanwhile, their parents complain all they do is lay around doing nothing during the summer. Where is the disconnect?

Yep. We made ours get a summer job. You cannot be 17/18 and spend all summer doing nothing. It's unacceptable. You work. Especially these boys- they don't seem to understand that they are going to be expected to work for the rest of their lives, support a family. Work is not an option. Letting them shirk it until age 23 does nobody any favors. We have two daughters who will also be expected to work when they become teenagers. Helping your kids develop a work ethic is your job as a parent. Letting them lie around the house developing no skills or sense of independence is just poor parenting.

My teen has been "working" whether paid or volunteer since age 13, and her younger elementary school sister also does "jobs" around the home. Parents who raise their kids with the "oh they can work when they are adults just let them be kids now" mentality are doing their kids a huge disservice.

[Anonymous]

It's clear that most of you have never seen "race to nowhere" Teen interns influencing the rest of their lives ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Well if that is true then the TEEN can decide to stay at home and honor her commitment. See how that works?

Yes she could. These are hard decisions. Adult, or cusp-of-adulthood decisions. And work and career is the adult world. The family should have thought this through if leaving without taking the teen is not an option.

The parents should have gone and left the teen. So what if she is "sick" they could come back. Or she could call in sick herself