Worried about son's circumcision

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honey, don't cut your son's foreskin off because your boyfriend wants you to. Sorry to be so frank, but the statistics are not in your favor of being with him long term. You will always be your son's mother.

Who cares what a boyfriend thinks anyway. Whose to say he'll even be involved in the kids life. Let him put a ring on it if he wants to make decisions about the kids.

And who's to say that OP will even continue to be in the kid's life until adulthood? Who's to say that your DH will continue to be in your kid (s) life? Women & married men can become deadbeat parents, too, you know. So I guess it shouldn't matter what any parent thinks since the possibility of said parent abandoning his or her kid sometime in the future is always there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:8 pages and nobody here is addressing the fact that this guy is not even her husband!!!???
he's just your boyfriend. you should decide what gets done to your son and IMO here as a mother of an uncirced husband and uncirced son I say - wait until he's old enough to ask for it.
my mom never pierced my ears, never suggested fixing my nose or ears until i showed interest for cosmetic surgery myself. why should we make boys go through it?

this guy is not even your husband... it shows he has no intention about being with you long term. his opinion doesn't matter.

This is so offensive. First, maybe she doesn't want to get married. Maybe it is a joint decision. Maybe getting married would be worse for their relationship. So as an interested parent, he gets less say because they aren't married? It is 2015, not 1915.

What a ridiculous argument... while gay couples fought for so many years for the right to get married we don't have the right to wonder why a man doesn't show interest in marrying the mother of his child and still he wants to boss her around the decision to handle the boy's health for COSMETIC surgery? this is absurd!

in case marrying would be worse i wonder why his opinion is even relevant. and if she doesn't want to get married why does his opinion matter?

Talk about a ridiculous argument!

The gay rights activists I know, myself included, fought for the legalization of gay marriage because all adult couples should have the right to CHOOSE to get married (or not get married, as the case may be).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, I tried asking the Doctor to use pain relief, they are against the idea, but would charge me and extra 150 dollars if I wanted it so bad me and my boyfriend don't have that kind of money, so our little man is just gonna have to tough it out tomorrow. Wish me luck

Good luck, OP. I'm sure he will be just fine.

+1. It is really nothing. The posters who are trying to change your already made up mind are unhelpful. It will be quickly over...enjoy your new baby!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I tried asking the Doctor to use pain relief, they are against the idea, but would charge me and extra 150 dollars if I wanted it so bad me and my boyfriend don't have that kind of money, so our little man is just gonna have to tough it out tomorrow. Wish me luck

Good luck, OP. I'm sure he will be just fine.

+1. It is really nothing. The posters who are trying to change your already made up mind are unhelpful. It will be quickly over...enjoy your new baby!

+1

My son is circumcised and he slept through the procedure and healed quicky. It was a non event. My husband was circumcised late in life because of issues due to not being circumcised .... Obviously it's a personal choice but one that many parents make and their kids are 100% fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:8 pages and nobody here is addressing the fact that this guy is not even her husband!!!???
he's just your boyfriend. you should decide what gets done to your son and IMO here as a mother of an uncirced husband and uncirced son I say - wait until he's old enough to ask for it.
my mom never pierced my ears, never suggested fixing my nose or ears until i showed interest for cosmetic surgery myself. why should we make boys go through it?

this guy is not even your husband... it shows he has no intention about being with you long term. his opinion doesn't matter.

This is so offensive. First, maybe she doesn't want to get married. Maybe it is a joint decision. Maybe getting married would be worse for their relationship. So as an interested parent, he gets less say because they aren't married? It is 2015, not 1915.

It was not a joint decision. Read the thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honey, don't cut your son's foreskin off because your boyfriend wants you to. Sorry to be so frank, but the statistics are not in your favor of being with him long term. You will always be your son's mother.

This.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The uncircumcised are unclean and more disease ridden

In fact, if circumcision rates continue to fall to 10 percent—the average in Europe, where the procedure is typically not covered by insurance—the annual net increase in U.S. healthcare costs could be reach a half-billion dollars a year, according to a new study from Johns Hopkins researchers.

So how does a little bit of extra skin wreak such havoc on uncircumcised men and their partners? The tissue under the foreskin, which sits against an uncircumcised penis, is very delicate, and therefore vulnerable to microtears and abrasions (especially during sexual activity). “The organisms that cause STIs can accumulate under the foreskin of the penis, and this may allow them to survive there longer and reproduce, potentially increasing the risk of infection in that male or his partner,” says Deborah Nucatola, MD, senior director of medical services at the Planned Parenthood Federation of America. Moreover, studies suggest that the foreskin contains more of the cells that are targeted by the HIV virus. (Concerned about your guy's hooded member? Learn how to talk to your man about STIs.)

Couldn't all of this be said about basically all of a woman's exterior genitalia? Wouldn't removing/trimming labia and clitoral hoods be more "sanitary" and not reduce "functionality"?

I think this is an excellent point.
Complications from circumcisions are likely under reported. My nephew has damage that will need to be corrected surgically.

I'm hoping OP will put her foot down. To do this, without any anesthetic, for essentially cosmetic reasons, to make her BF happy - absurd. I don't know how a baby not remembering it makes it OK.

[Anonymous]

Just a harmless snip?
100+ circumcision deaths each year in United States

Each year in the United States more than 100 newborn baby boys die as a result of circumcision and circumcision complications.[/b] This is the alarming conclusion of a study, published in the journal Thymos, which examined hospital discharge and mortality statistics in order to answer two questions: (1) How many baby boys dies as a result of circumcision in the neonatal period (within 28 days of birth)? (2) Why are so few of these deaths officially recorded as due to circumcision?

http://www.circinfo.org/USA_deaths.html

[Anonymous]

OP, if you decide to go through with the circumcision, here's my recommendation:

- Look up pediatric urologists close to you. If in MoCo, look up Louis Marmon at Children's.

- Call immediately to say you're interested in circumcising your infant. They'll want to schedule a consult and then the actual surgery. They'll want to schedule the surgery before 12 weeks but after the baby is added to your insurance. Usually around 8 weeks.

- They'll use a local anesthetic. After 12 weeks they'd need a general, which they'd prefer not to do.

- After the surgery you'll schedule a follow-up to make sure that everything is healing well.

My boys cried for 5 minutes and slept a little more the first day. We worked to prevent adhesions (esp with our 2nd), and everything healed nicely.

Consider if you really want to do this. Were I to do everything all over again, I don't know if I would make the same choice. That said, the procedures went very well for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:8 pages and nobody here is addressing the fact that this guy is not even her husband!!!???
he's just your boyfriend. you should decide what gets done to your son and IMO here as a mother of an uncirced husband and uncirced son I say - wait until he's old enough to ask for it.
my mom never pierced my ears, never suggested fixing my nose or ears until i showed interest for cosmetic surgery myself. why should we make boys go through it?

this guy is not even your husband... it shows he has no intention about being with you long term. his opinion doesn't matter.

This is so offensive. First, maybe she doesn't want to get married. Maybe it is a joint decision. Maybe getting married would be worse for their relationship. So as an interested parent, he gets less say because they aren't married? It is 2015, not 1915.

It was not a joint decision. Read the thread.

I meant maybe the decision to not marry was joint.

[Anonymous]

So OP, how did your son's checkup go today? What did you decide??

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honey, don't cut your son's foreskin off because your boyfriend wants you to. Sorry to be so frank, but the statistics are not in your favor of being with him long term. You will always be your son's mother.

Do what you and the baby's father feel is right but don't take your advice from someone who pedantically calls you "honey".

that, and guess what? the boyfriend will ALWAYS be the baby's FATHER.

[Anonymous]

OP here, its all over with, finally. He absolutely hated it crying and screaming the whole time he was being circumcised, I heard him when I was in the waiting room. It took about 10 minutes, he was still crying when the nurse carried him out of the circumcision room and gave him back to me. I was in tears myself, but the nurse smiled and reassured me that he did fine and he just didn't like being strapped down. She said he missed his mommy too and that I should feed him as soon as possible. I never really heard the care advice she told me due to my son's crying and me being so emotional at the time. I changed one diaper on him so far and he screamed I feels so bad, I hope it's just the first day and he'll be fine afterwards.

[Anonymous]

For care, give him Tylenol, gently retract with each diaper change, and swab with a generous about of neosporin. (Wash your hands first!).

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