Worried about son's circumcision

[Anonymous]

The uncircumcised are unclean and more disease ridden

In fact, if circumcision rates continue to fall to 10 percent—the average in Europe, where the procedure is typically not covered by insurance—the annual net increase in U.S. healthcare costs could be reach a half-billion dollars a year, according to a new study from Johns Hopkins researchers.

So how does a little bit of extra skin wreak such havoc on uncircumcised men and their partners? The tissue under the foreskin, which sits against an uncircumcised penis, is very delicate, and therefore vulnerable to microtears and abrasions (especially during sexual activity). “The organisms that cause STIs can accumulate under the foreskin of the penis, and this may allow them to survive there longer and reproduce, potentially increasing the risk of infection in that male or his partner,” says Deborah Nucatola, MD, senior director of medical services at the Planned Parenthood Federation of America. Moreover, studies suggest that the foreskin contains more of the cells that are targeted by the HIV virus. (Concerned about your guy's hooded member? Learn how to talk to your man about STIs.)

[Anonymous]

After circumcision, there were fewer kinds of bacteria on the men's penises. Many of the kinds of bacteria found to be less common or absent after circumcision were anaerobic -- meaning that they don't need oxygen to grow.

The inner fold of the foreskin is a mucous membrane, like the inside of a person's eyelids. Price says that certain anaerobic bacteria thrive in that environment but not on dry skin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The uncircumcised are unclean and more disease ridden

In fact, if circumcision rates continue to fall to 10 percent—the average in Europe, where the procedure is typically not covered by insurance—the annual net increase in U.S. healthcare costs could be reach a half-billion dollars a year, according to a new study from Johns Hopkins researchers.

So how does a little bit of extra skin wreak such havoc on uncircumcised men and their partners? The tissue under the foreskin, which sits against an uncircumcised penis, is very delicate, and therefore vulnerable to microtears and abrasions (especially during sexual activity). “The organisms that cause STIs can accumulate under the foreskin of the penis, and this may allow them to survive there longer and reproduce, potentially increasing the risk of infection in that male or his partner,” says Deborah Nucatola, MD, senior director of medical services at the Planned Parenthood Federation of America. Moreover, studies suggest that the foreskin contains more of the cells that are targeted by the HIV virus. (Concerned about your guy's hooded member? Learn how to talk to your man about STIs.)

Couldn't all of this be said about basically all of a woman's exterior genitalia? Wouldn't removing/trimming labia and clitoral hoods be more "sanitary" and not reduce "functionality"?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: My boys (now young adult men) and my dh are intact. I'm not into shaming anyone...but I am going to speak up when I see stuff thrown around that is simply not true.

Ps, dh and I told the boys that if they ever chose to be circ'd, we'd pay. It's their bodies, and we'd support them.

To date, they have told dh that they are VERY happy that they are intact and have no intent of changing that. Dh is very happy intact as well, and none of them have ever had any issues. As my dh's sex partner, neither have I.

Granted, I don't know everyone in the world. But I know many intact males, and families where the males are intact, and dont know anyone who's ever had any issues related to that. To be fair, I don't know anyone with a botched circ either, although I do know two boys who had to have it re-done in adolesence.

My husband and son are happy they're circumcised. They have no issues, and DH and I have no sexual issues with each other because of it. See how silly you sound?

My DH and son are not circumcised and they have no issues either. Honestly, I won't do an irreversible procedure to my son. If he wants to,do it when he is older he can do it and will have my support

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I tried asking the Doctor to use pain relief, they are against the idea, but would charge me and extra 150 dollars if I wanted it so bad me and my boyfriend don't have that kind of money, so our little man is just gonna have to tough it out tomorrow. Wish me luck

Be brave. Don't do it. It is that simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: My boys (now young adult men) and my dh are intact. I'm not into shaming anyone...but I am going to speak up when I see stuff thrown around that is simply not true.

Ps, dh and I told the boys that if they ever chose to be circ'd, we'd pay. It's their bodies, and we'd support them.

To date, they have told dh that they are VERY happy that they are intact and have no intent of changing that. Dh is very happy intact as well, and none of them have ever had any issues. As my dh's sex partner, neither have I.

Granted, I don't know everyone in the world. But I know many intact males, and families where the males are intact, and dont know anyone who's ever had any issues related to that. To be fair, I don't know anyone with a botched circ either, although I do know two boys who had to have it re-done in adolesence.

My husband and son are happy they're circumcised. They have no issues, and DH and I have no sexual issues with each other because of it. See how silly you sound?

But they suffered. Unnecessarily.

Are you speaking for them?

I'm a man and yes. I can imagine it hurt me when they CUT OFF A PIECE OF MY PENIS.

I really think you need a therapist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The uncircumcised are unclean and more disease ridden

In fact, if circumcision rates continue to fall to 10 percent—the average in Europe, where the procedure is typically not covered by insurance—the annual net increase in U.S. healthcare costs could be reach a half-billion dollars a year, according to a new study from Johns Hopkins researchers.

So how does a little bit of extra skin wreak such havoc on uncircumcised men and their partners? The tissue under the foreskin, which sits against an uncircumcised penis, is very delicate, and therefore vulnerable to microtears and abrasions (especially during sexual activity). “The organisms that cause STIs can accumulate under the foreskin of the penis, and this may allow them to survive there longer and reproduce, potentially increasing the risk of infection in that male or his partner,” says Deborah Nucatola, MD, senior director of medical services at the Planned Parenthood Federation of America. Moreover, studies suggest that the foreskin contains more of the cells that are targeted by the HIV virus. (Concerned about your guy's hooded member? Learn how to talk to your man about STIs.)

Couldn't all of this be said about basically all of a woman's exterior genitalia? Wouldn't removing/trimming labia and clitoral hoods be more "sanitary" and not reduce "functionality"?

Do you pee out of it and insert it into a man's penis during sex.

[Anonymous]

8 pages and nobody here is addressing the fact that this guy is not even her husband!!!???
he's just your boyfriend. you should decide what gets done to your son and IMO here as a mother of an uncirced husband and uncirced son I say - wait until he's old enough to ask for it.
my mom never pierced my ears, never suggested fixing my nose or ears until i showed interest for cosmetic surgery myself. why should we make boys go through it?

this guy is not even your husband... it shows he has no intention about being with you long term. his opinion doesn't matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:8 pages and nobody here is addressing the fact that this guy is not even her husband!!!???
he's just your boyfriend. you should decide what gets done to your son and IMO here as a mother of an uncirced husband and uncirced son I say - wait until he's old enough to ask for it.
my mom never pierced my ears, never suggested fixing my nose or ears until i showed interest for cosmetic surgery myself. why should we make boys go through it?

this guy is not even your husband... it shows he has no intention about being with you long term. his opinion doesn't matter.

This is so offensive. First, maybe she doesn't want to get married. Maybe it is a joint decision. Maybe getting married would be worse for their relationship. So as an interested parent, he gets less say because they aren't married? It is 2015, not 1915.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:8 pages and nobody here is addressing the fact that this guy is not even her husband!!!???
he's just your boyfriend. you should decide what gets done to your son and IMO here as a mother of an uncirced husband and uncirced son I say - wait until he's old enough to ask for it.
my mom never pierced my ears, never suggested fixing my nose or ears until i showed interest for cosmetic surgery myself. why should we make boys go through it?

this guy is not even your husband... it shows he has no intention about being with you long term. his opinion doesn't matter.

This is so offensive. First, maybe she doesn't want to get married. Maybe it is a joint decision. Maybe getting married would be worse for their relationship. So as an interested parent, he gets less say because they aren't married? It is 2015, not 1915.

What a ridiculous argument... while gay couples fought for so many years for the right to get married we don't have the right to wonder why a man doesn't show interest in marrying the mother of his child and still he wants to boss her around the decision to handle the boy's health for COSMETIC surgery? this is absurd!

in case marrying would be worse i wonder why his opinion is even relevant. and if she doesn't want to get married why does his opinion matter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:8 pages and nobody here is addressing the fact that this guy is not even her husband!!!???
he's just your boyfriend. you should decide what gets done to your son and IMO here as a mother of an uncirced husband and uncirced son I say - wait until he's old enough to ask for it.
my mom never pierced my ears, never suggested fixing my nose or ears until i showed interest for cosmetic surgery myself. why should we make boys go through it?

this guy is not even your husband... it shows he has no intention about being with you long term. his opinion doesn't matter.

This is so offensive. First, maybe she doesn't want to get married. Maybe it is a joint decision. Maybe getting married would be worse for their relationship. So as an interested parent, he gets less say because they aren't married? It is 2015, not 1915.

What a ridiculous argument... while gay couples fought for so many years for the right to get married we don't have the right to wonder why a man doesn't show interest in marrying the mother of his child and still he wants to boss her around the decision to handle the boy's health for COSMETIC surgery? this is absurd!

in case marrying would be worse i wonder why his opinion is even relevant. and if she doesn't want to get married why does his opinion matter?

Boss her around? He has an opinion on the subject of his son's health. Would you give his opinion more weight if they married, divorced and and then he had a similar stance? Why is his opinion relevant? He isn't a sperm donor. He is the father.

[Anonymous]

Don't do it. Don't make your son suffer for your boyfriend. It's not your boyfriends body. If your son wants it done when he's older he'll get proper pain meds. Please respect hos little body and don't harm it.

[Anonymous]

Watch this. It's called the Elephant In The Hospital. If you choose to do this for you son, at least do it with the knowledge you looked at all sides of the argument. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ceht-3xu84I

[Anonymous]

Ugh... One of the few things I would change if I could do it all over again would be to not circumcise my boys. At the time, I just let my husband decide and didn't put much more thought into it. But looking back, my feelings on it have evolved and I really regret doing this. The human body is perfect, your son is perfect. He will feel pain. Infants have the ability to feel pain. The fact that he won't remember it doesn't change how much it will hurt him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I tried asking the Doctor to use pain relief, they are against the idea, but would charge me and extra 150 dollars if I wanted it so bad me and my boyfriend don't have that kind of money, so our little man is just gonna have to tough it out tomorrow. Wish me luck

Good luck, OP. I'm sure he will be just fine.