Worried about son's circumcision

[Anonymous]

Oops --- I mean cancer, STDs and infection....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are having reservations, then wait. You can always do it at a later time but you can't undo it once it's done.

it's best to do it when infant

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Anonymous wrote:My boys (9 and 11) have found out about circumcision and thanked me profusely for not doing it.

My husband is grateful he is. Look, I can give anecdotal evidence too!

And my husband wishes he had his whole penis after he learned what was done to him, without his permission.

And your point is what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m glad you have opened up this line of communication. As mothers we have natural instincts to protect our children from pain and harm. Clearly, you are already trying to protect him before he’s even born. I have a few points I’d like to make.
First, you are right to be concerned. Not too long ago a national news story was published stating that infants feel pain just as intensely as adults do. For a long time adults wanted to believe children felt less, but that’s not true. They are born with a complete and functioning nervous system. So to give you a perspective of the pain management for an adult, when an adult is circumcised, they are put under anesthesia and given a full dose of pain medication. That is because this procedure calls for that much pain management. What newborn infants tend to get is a numbing cream and a sugar pacifier. They don’t even get Tylenol to manage the pain afterwards. So yes, this procedure is very painful for babies. These are the reasons many of them pass out for hours later and refuse to eat. No, I’m not trying to sound dramatic, but I’m trying to tell you what most doctors do not.

Second, because the process is cosmetic it’s not needed. In fact the risks associated with it are more damaging than the prospective benefits. Again, it sounds extreme, but your child has a greater chance of dying due to blood loss than he does on the car ride home. Over 100 babies die each year from circumcision. And that’s just the number that’s recorded accurately. Many more are listed under a different cause of death. But for a less alarming example, just in the news yesterday I saw where a medical student accidently cut off the whole penis. So there are some very real risks, and this is just for a cosmetic procedure.

Finally I have a few statistics, and I’ll let you look for some of your own research. 80% of the men in the world are intact. Around, if not more, than 50% of boys in the US are intact. It is not the norm anymore. And the big stat!!! 70% of boys have one or both parent regret circumcising their son.

If you are interested in looking into the info I have here look up a few pages: Intact America, Dr. Momma & Saving Our Sons. They have resources that can help you understand why so many find it unethical to circumcise boys without their consent, and they have resources to explain the 17+ functions of the foreskin. I really hope you do research this. Your son deserves his whole body.

This person is off the rocker, the APP, CDC, PEPFAR, OB etc... all recommend that Circumcision have a medical benifit that exceed the minor risk. Besides the medical issue plays into the hygiene problem, if you good uncircumcised smell there is a ton of women dealign with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My boys (9 and 11) have found out about circumcision and thanked me profusely for not doing it.

My husband is grateful he is. Look, I can give anecdotal evidence too!

And my husband wishes he had his whole penis after he learned what was done to him, without his permission.

Wait, really? Does your DH have other issues going on?

I mean, I've heard all the pro and con arguments. I think either way is fine. But I've actually never heard of a grown man get hung up on this issue. Does is he like to play martyr in general?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m glad you have opened up this line of communication. As mothers we have natural instincts to protect our children from pain and harm. Clearly, you are already trying to protect him before he’s even born. I have a few points I’d like to make.
First, you are right to be concerned. Not too long ago a national news story was published stating that infants feel pain just as intensely as adults do. For a long time adults wanted to believe children felt less, but that’s not true. They are born with a complete and functioning nervous system. So to give you a perspective of the pain management for an adult, when an adult is circumcised, they are put under anesthesia and given a full dose of pain medication. That is because this procedure calls for that much pain management. What newborn infants tend to get is a numbing cream and a sugar pacifier. They don’t even get Tylenol to manage the pain afterwards. So yes, this procedure is very painful for babies. These are the reasons many of them pass out for hours later and refuse to eat. No, I’m not trying to sound dramatic, but I’m trying to tell you what most doctors do not.

Second, because the process is cosmetic it’s not needed. In fact the risks associated with it are more damaging than the prospective benefits. Again, it sounds extreme, but your child has a greater chance of dying due to blood loss than he does on the car ride home. Over 100 babies die each year from circumcision. And that’s just the number that’s recorded accurately. Many more are listed under a different cause of death. But for a less alarming example, just in the news yesterday I saw where a medical student accidently cut off the whole penis. So there are some very real risks, and this is just for a cosmetic procedure.

Finally I have a few statistics, and I’ll let you look for some of your own research. 80% of the men in the world are intact. Around, if not more, than 50% of boys in the US are intact. It is not the norm anymore. And the big stat!!! 70% of boys have one or both parent regret circumcising their son.

If you are interested in looking into the info I have here look up a few pages: Intact America, Dr. Momma & Saving Our Sons. They have resources that can help you understand why so many find it unethical to circumcise boys without their consent, and they have resources to explain the 17+ functions of the foreskin. I really hope you do research this. Your son deserves his whole body.

This person is off the rocker, the APP, CDC, PEPFAR, OB etc... all recommend that Circumcision have a medical benifit that exceed the minor risk. Besides the medical issue plays into the hygiene problem, if you good uncircumcised smell there is a ton of women dealign with this.

*google not good
https://www.google.com/webhp?&ion=1&espv=2&ie=UTF-8#q=uncircumcised+smell

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honey, don't cut your son's foreskin off because your boyfriend wants you to. Sorry to be so frank, but the statistics are not in your favor of being with him long term. You will always be your son's mother.

Do what you and the baby's father feel is right but don't take your advice from someone who pedantically calls you "honey".

[Anonymous]

Ugh. This is so gut wrenching and wrong. Please don't do it, OP. The majority of boys aren't even circumcised anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both of my boys did fine. Pacifier with sugar water and they were calm. Nursed fine, slept fine, everything fine after.

+1 This and I had my husband there to watch to make sure all went well. Absolutely no issues.

[Anonymous]

OP, I was on the fence about this issue and let my husband make the decision. He was unequivocal about circumcision.

My son's was done when he was about 10 days old, in my doctor's office. I was not in the room.

It was fast. He cried, and there was some significant blood - enough to scare me. But he was fine, settled easily, and had no discernible discomfort after the first 10 minutes.

I hated it frankly. I HATED hearing him cry, knowing we had intentionally caused pain, and seeing his blood.

But I don't regret doing it.

It will be ok. Maybe have your boyfriend be in the room with him (not you) and be right nearby to comfort him as soon as it's done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. This is so gut wrenching and wrong. Please don't do it, OP. The majority of boys aren't even circumcised anymore.

You're entitled to your own opinion but you're not entitled to your own facts. Most boys in the United States ARE circumcised.

[Anonymous]

My son slept through it. It heals VERY quickly. Do not fret over this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. This is so gut wrenching and wrong. Please don't do it, OP. The majority of boys aren't even circumcised anymore.

You're entitled to your own opinion but you're not entitled to your own facts. Most boys in the United States ARE circumcised.

No, they are not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honey, don't cut your son's foreskin off because your boyfriend wants you to. Sorry to be so frank, but the statistics are not in your favor of being with him long term. You will always be your son's mother.

But the boyfriend will always be the kid's dad. He gets a say too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My boys (9 and 11) have found out about circumcision and thanked me profusely for not doing it.

My husband is grateful he is. Look, I can give anecdotal evidence too!

And my husband wishes he had his whole penis after he learned what was done to him, without his permission.

And my husband was relieved enough to be circumcised at birth that he chose to have our son done ad well.