At what age can a man no longer date a woman in her 30s or younger?

[Anonymous]

Interesting because the latest research is finding that its older dads who are a big factor in children with autism, developmental delays, etc...

[Anonymous]

Nah, the risk for older dads with autism is lower than the risk for older women and downs. Many women dont realize how quickly eggs deteriorate after 30.

[Anonymous]

I am 28 and my husband is 42. We met when I was 23 and he was 38. We are very much in love and no he is not rich. His parents were also, coincidentally, 15 years apart and were happily married until his father passed away in his 90s. So I don't see anything wrong with age gaps unless they are really excessive - and even then - that is relative (some may think ours is excessive).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 34 and I wouldn't give a 65 year old the time of day, are you kidding?

Exactly. I'm 30 and I wouldn't give a 45 year old the time of day. I find plenty of men in their 30s (and late 20s) to date, why would I want to date someone that much older? I would make an exception for someone who was a great match with me, but women are not so desperate that they have to date men that much older. This goes for all of my 30 year old friends.

You and all of your 30 year old friends are single, at 30. Your risk of having a downie starts increasing now. Good luck.

But have a child with a man advancing towards 35 also presents the same increasing risks. Much worse if he's older than that age.

Never know, my husband's mom was 40 and dad was 55 when they had him and he's perfectly healthy. Some loose screws are questionable

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, what age are you that you prefer someone younger than mid 30s? Cause im not having much trouble finding dates.

30yo woman. Prefer to date 27-34, someone I could've attended HS with. I date older sometimes, but I prefer guys who wanted to settle down sooner in life. Single women 35+ usually are because there are so many men their ages who are still exhibiting frat boy like behavior and sleeping around, not the other way around. I'd rather the guy who was commitment minded alot sooner in life. I've primarily attracted younger men the past few years, particularly 2-3 years younger and I wish I'd been more open-minded sooner. I still date men ages 35-38, but I'd rather a divorced guy in that category. Someone who is just starting to think about settling down at that age is usually incompatible for me. Most of the married guys I know that I consider good guys closed the deal in their 20s and early 30s. I'm sure there are older guys who are fine too, but I usually find myself thinking "Yeah, no wonder he is still single" after dates with older, never married guys.

I don't doubt you're having few problems finding dates. There's a lid for every pot.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok, what age are you that you prefer someone younger than mid 30s? Cause im not having much trouble finding dates.

30yo woman. Prefer to date 27-34, someone I could've attended HS with. I date older sometimes, but I prefer guys who wanted to settle down sooner in life. Single women 35+ usually are because there are so many men their ages who are still exhibiting frat boy like behavior and sleeping around, not the other way around. I'd rather the guy who was commitment minded alot sooner in life. I've primarily attracted younger men the past few years, particularly 2-3 years younger and I wish I'd been more open-minded sooner. I still date men ages 35-38, but I'd rather a divorced guy in that category. Someone who is just starting to think about settling down at that age is usually incompatible for me. Most of the married guys I know that I consider good guys closed the deal in their 20s and early 30s. I'm sure there are older guys who are fine too, but I usually find myself thinking "Yeah, no wonder he is still single" after dates with older, never married guys.

I don't doubt you're having few problems finding dates. There's a lid for every pot.

Nice spin. Single women 35 plus are still single because of the men? Um, no. Theyre single generally because they fucked up when they were most attractive. In college, they didnt get locked down. In grad school, they didnt get locked down. Theres a reason for that. Maybe they wanted to be sluts for badboys, maybe they were focused on "career", maybe theyre just not that attractive. But its probably that they werent "ready" to commit when lots of guys were interested.

In my case, i changed careers (for the better) at about 30. So i wasnt really looking for settling down until recently. Thats not all i'm looking for, but certainly open to it. And i am probably going to be more open to it than most guys in their late 20s. Plus i went to a combined junior/senior hs.

[Anonymous]

So you seem to despise women your age for doing precisely what you did. Put yourself and your desires (a new career) ahead of a relationship. You're mid-30s and you're "open" to a relationship now? It really amazes me that I come across men 5-10 years younger than men such as yourself who seem to know what they want and close the deal and minus the vitriol towards women. I don't know if you were passed over for the hot guy when you were younger or cheated on in the past, but something about your tone seems hostile/bitter. I mean no snark and hope that it's a misinterpretation.

[Anonymous]

When did women in their 30s become so picky and independent ?? The women in Sex in the City were usually desperate - and they were hot. According to this thread there must be a million thirty something aged women sitting at home on Saturday nights mulling over exactly who they would never consider dating.

Strange!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When did women in their 30s become so picky and independent ?? The women in Sex in the City were usually desperate - and they were hot. According to this thread there must be a million thirty something aged women sitting at home on Saturday nights mulling over exactly who they would never consider dating.

Strange!!!

They should try fur trading.

[Anonymous]

I am 30. My ex is 55. He looks like 45. Wealthy. We have a son now. The relationship did not work out and one of the reasons is the age difference of course. I am still deeply in love and think it is a tragedy we are not a family anymore.

[Anonymous]

Men always want to have younger women. "young equals nice" they say. Most married men in their 50s, 60s have sex with young young hookers. It is the truth.

[Anonymous]

Can you please post your scientific evidence PP for such assertions? Cue eye roll.

Most = a lot of the population. Sure, there are idiots out there, but I don't think most men are having sex with young, young hookers. Most likely, most are imaging sex with young, young females via porn and ogling throughout daily life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men always want to have younger women. "young equals nice" they say. Most married men in their 50s, 60s have sex with young young hookers. It is the truth.

This is as true as the thinking that most women are total whores with the assholes they meet in the 20s and 30s and then transform into nuns once they marry the nice guy and realize these nice guys won't treat them like shit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When did women in their 30s become so picky and independent ?? The women in Sex in the City were usually desperate - and they were hot. According to this thread there must be a million thirty something aged women sitting at home on Saturday nights mulling over exactly who they would never consider dating.

Strange!!!

I like that you used a fictional show to make a point. But even then, the characters on the show weren't desperate either. The main character turned down a great guy for marriage when she was over 35, left a wealthy/famous painter in Paris when he didn't treat her right. Samantha left her young, hot actor BF in the end because she's not the relationship type. Miranda dumped a hot NY knicks physician for her ex-bartender BF. Charlotte left her marriage to a hot, wealthy doctor because of their sex life and her desire to have kids.

What's even more bizarre to me is there are men complaining on DCUM no less about women. Are we to believe single men posting on DCUM have tons of options on Saturday nights? Come on. Why does it bother you so much that some of us have options and don't have to settle? Desirable men don't have to wonder about this because they have their lot to choose from.

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Anonymous wrote:When did women in their 30s become so picky and independent ?? The women in Sex in the City were usually desperate - and they were hot. According to this thread there must be a million thirty something aged women sitting at home on Saturday nights mulling over exactly who they would never consider dating.

Strange!!!

I like that you used a fictional show to make a point. But even then, the characters on the show weren't desperate either. The main character turned down a great guy for marriage when she was over 35, left a wealthy/famous painter in Paris when he didn't treat her right. Samantha left her young, hot actor BF in the end because she's not the relationship type. Miranda dumped a hot NY knicks physician for her ex-bartender BF. Charlotte left her marriage to a hot, wealthy doctor because of their sex life and her desire to have kids.

What's even more bizarre to me is there are men complaining on DCUM no less about women. Are we to believe single men posting on DCUM have tons of options on Saturday nights? Come on. Why does it bother you so much that some of us have options and don't have to settle? Desirable men don't have to wonder about this because they have their lot to choose from.

Why would you need to "settle"?? Thirty-something women who wrote their dissertations on Sex in the City episodes are highly desirable. See you Saturday night; I'll look for the woman with crows feet sitting alone at the bar nursing her third Cosmo of the evening.