At what age can a man no longer date a woman in her 30s or younger?

[Anonymous]

I'm 29 and married to someone a couple years older. I would be open to dating (if I were single) anyone that I had things in common with. I would date someone in their 50's if I felt we had a connection on some level. Yes, he would have to be in shape but he wouldn't have to a be rich. I've never chased guys with money.

[Anonymous]

Guy here. I always scared of getting married and watching my wife grow old. I thought I'd always need a woman in her 20s or early 30s.

But, as I grow older, those younger women actually looking too young.

I saw a girl in the office kitchen a while back and swore she was in high school. I asked her why she had the day off school, and why spend it with mom/dad at work. She gave me this weird look. Turned out she was a 25 y/o new hire.

I have a mid-40s divorced friend who sticks to dating the 20 y/o women. They look absolutely silly together. FWIW, he's a mid-level, low-six figure manager with not trouble getting those women. He can have them. Should my wife ever leave me, I'm sticking with my age group.

[Anonymous]

Is this turning up of noses at May-September relationships cultural? I just came back from four years in Russis, and women there do not seem to give much negative thought to dating older men.

FWIW, the 30 - 30 Russian women were good for a whole lot of NSA sex. The 30 - 40 better for longer term relationships. Sucks now to be back in DC and have to deal with the pretty degenerate dating pool here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this turning up of noses at May-September relationships cultural? I just came back from four years in Russis, and women there do not seem to give much negative thought to dating older men.

FWIW, the 30 - 30 Russian women were good for a whole lot of NSA sex. The 30 - 40 better for longer term relationships. Sucks now to be back in DC and have to deal with the pretty degenerate dating pool here.

Women have more choices here lol
In Russia, competition for a non alcoholic hardworking man is something fierce so the women have to do a whole of compromising when it comes to men. Also there's a saying there "a man only has to look one degree better than the devil" (as long as he has money).

[Anonymous]

I am 37 and I would easily date someone in their 50s as long as he is nice and smart and funny and makes my life easier instead of otherwise.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is not the dark ages...there should not be a difference of more than 4 years in my opinion. Women hit their sexual stride in their late 30s and 40s...so to have a partner who is very much older than her is a big no-no.

"sexual stride" is a madeup term. Women in their 20s are much hotter and more fertile.

Who cares about fertility? I'm much sexier in my 40s than I was in my 20s. Much more confident, and way more libido.

Who cares about [/b]fertility? Um...almost every man who wants to get married and have a family.

I'm much sexier in my 40s than I was in my 20s.[b] You cannot be serious. Frankly, you seem delusional. You peaked 20+ years ago and it's time to accept it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Per my closest guy friend, I supposedly think like a guy. Most guys around 40 are starting to let themselves go. I don't want to walk into that.

how do you think like a guy

My ideal guy is 28-35 (I'm 30). I have dated men older than that in a quest to be openminded, but deep down I am concerned about how many years they have left of attractiveness and I'd prefer not to have kids with someone older. I was dating someone recently who looks great on paper (well educated, excellent money, live of work compliments mine, nice guy) but I commented to my friend that based on his age, this is probably as good as it's going to get (he's overweight) and I'm scared he might get bigger. FYI, I don't agree with my friend. I attract young guys all the friggin time (early/mid 20s) and they're hot, but I can't deal with them once they open their mouths. I don't get why a woman my age would be interested in a guy who has probably slept around for decades, lived as an overgrown kid, and now wants to settle down with someone much younger. If I were to go older, I'd much prefer someone divorced with a kid, at least it means he's committed to something in his life before. Ending up with someone who was in HS when you were born just sounds like a raw deal. Sure, a guy in his mid 40s now might be doable now, but certainly not when he's entering retirement and I have several years of work ahead of me.

How bout a 36 year old professional who's in shape?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not the dark ages...there should not be a difference of more than 4 years in my opinion. Women hit their sexual stride in their late 30s and 40s...so to have a partner who is very much older than her is a big no-no.

what does the "dark ages" have to do with what ages people date

the question is about dating, which is much more than "Sexual stride" (something which seems to have been made up by a 40's feminist trying to claim she's hotter than she was at 20)

[Anonymous]

I don't date past 10yrs.I'm 32 now and dating last 3 guys since I was like 26. It seems to work out since I dont want any more kids. However i do run into some other younger guys but i think they would want kids but never too sure to invest into them because I'm really at 97% sure I dont want any more kids.

[Anonymous]

"the question is about dating, which is much more than "Sexual stride" (something which seems to have been made up by a 40's feminist trying to claim she's hotter than she was at 20)"

How old are you that you don't understand that attitude and experience are more important than "hot" when it comes to good sex?? Obviously, we all need to be with someone we find attractive, but once someone is in that range, being extra hot really doesn't add anything to the experience.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Per my closest guy friend, I supposedly think like a guy. Most guys around 40 are starting to let themselves go. I don't want to walk into that.

how do you think like a guy

My ideal guy is 28-35 (I'm 30). I have dated men older than that in a quest to be openminded, but deep down I am concerned about how many years they have left of attractiveness and I'd prefer not to have kids with someone older. I was dating someone recently who looks great on paper (well educated, excellent money, live of work compliments mine, nice guy) but I commented to my friend that based on his age, this is probably as good as it's going to get (he's overweight) and I'm scared he might get bigger. FYI, I don't agree with my friend. I attract young guys all the friggin time (early/mid 20s) and they're hot, but I can't deal with them once they open their mouths. I don't get why a woman my age would be interested in a guy who has probably slept around for decades, lived as an overgrown kid, and now wants to settle down with someone much younger. If I were to go older, I'd much prefer someone divorced with a kid, at least it means he's committed to something in his life before. Ending up with someone who was in HS when you were born just sounds like a raw deal. Sure, a guy in his mid 40s now might be doable now, but certainly not when he's entering retirement and I have several years of work ahead of me.

How bout a 36 year old professional who's in shape?

Of course. 7-8 years older is my stretch.

[Anonymous]

Early-50s guy here. DW nearly my age is young in my eyes, but if she dumped me I can't imagine I'd be looking at 50yo women. What puts things in perspective for me is imagining the reaction of a 25yo's parents if I were to actually land such a new GF. Sad but true.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 34 and I wouldn't give a 65 year old the time of day, are you kidding?

Exactly. I'm 30 and I wouldn't give a 45 year old the time of day. I find plenty of men in their 30s (and late 20s) to date, why would I want to date someone that much older? I would make an exception for someone who was a great match with me, but women are not so desperate that they have to date men that much older. This goes for all of my 30 year old friends.

You and all of your 30 year old friends are single, at 30. Your risk of having a downie starts increasing now. Good luck.

Don't listen to that guy. DH and I had three kids spanning conception ages from 35 to 42. All are just fine. Poster sounds like he's 65 with completely out of date data -- proving that you should stick to a better informed guy in his 30s.

Actually I'm in my mid-30's, and she reminded me of the single women I know who slut around with caddish guys thinking they have all the time in the world to settle down. Truth is, if you're a woman at 30 with no LTR prospects, you're way behind in the game. Plus, if I was dating her, I'd wonder how many guys she was plowed by in her single days.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 34 and I wouldn't give a 65 year old the time of day, are you kidding?

Exactly. I'm 30 and I wouldn't give a 45 year old the time of day. I find plenty of men in their 30s (and late 20s) to date, why would I want to date someone that much older? I would make an exception for someone who was a great match with me, but women are not so desperate that they have to date men that much older. This goes for all of my 30 year old friends.

You and all of your 30 year old friends are single, at 30. Your risk of having a downie starts increasing now. Good luck.

Don't listen to that guy. DH and I had three kids spanning conception ages from 35 to 42. All are just fine. Poster sounds like he's 65 with completely out of date data -- proving that you should stick to a better informed guy in his 30s.

Actually I'm in my mid-30's, and she reminded me of the single women I know who slut around with caddish guys thinking they have all the time in the world to settle down. Truth is, if you're a woman at 30 with no LTR prospects, you're way behind in the game. Plus, if I was dating her, I'd wonder how many guys she was plowed by in her single days.

Well, some of us (including me) are thinking the same about you Mr. Mid-30s, and would prefer someone younger as a result. So we're good.

[Anonymous]

Ok, what age are you that you prefer someone younger than mid 30s? Cause im not having much trouble finding dates.