To the woman breastfeefing her 4 year old at the table at Wild Tomato...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the poster who bf's her 2.5 yo
I don't attach any special sacred meaning to it
I guess I am just a softie, give him what he wants, too lazy to wean...
I don't believe in any sort of harm, too
It is only convenience and nothing else
Btw it is extremely rare that he would ask to nurse for soothing, being hurt, etc
It is mostly around sleep
I don't know why anyone would be so worked up

I know... I nursed #1 until she was 3. I started getting fed up with it, and I weaned her. I think people need to stop worrying about what other people do to raise their kids.

[Anonymous]

What all of the haters are accidentally admitting is that they have exceedingly filthy minds that sexualize the non-sexual breastfeeding relationship. Thus the comments about therapy, the based-on-nothing prescriptions for weaning age, the concern that a child who can (take your pick ask for it, speak, walk, etc. is too old.

Also that charming projection that anyone doing a perfectly normal thing that violates their hangups is attention-seeking or "political" (I guess this last one is a bad thing? wuh?). Remember when gays and lesbians holding hands in public were "political," not just people in love holding hands in public, and the pearl clutchers would freak out and insist that holding hands with the person you love in public is obviously all about other people and not at all about the person you love? Like that.

That's how you sound.

Just stop it! Gahh! Get over yourselves!

[Anonymous]

one guy's perspective
http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/07/15/breastfeeding-and-sex-is-latching-on-a-turn-off/

excerpt (shudder):

Other men — me, for example — might be driven to engage in something even worse: sexless fidelity. Mine crystallized in Central Park one evening, while watching my wife sit under a tree with my older son, a five-and-a-half-year-old young man with a full set of teeth and chores, stretched out to roughly the size of a foal, suckling. By the time they strolled back to me and my already-nursed toddler son on the picnic blanket, I had lost my appetite — and not just for the smoked salmon. There are some things in life most men cannot share with first-graders, and two of them used to be called breasts. Now, my first grader called them boobalies, and history is written by the victors.

[Anonymous]

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Hate to tell you, momma, but at 2.5, he should be getting his "comfort, health and bonding" from you in a different way. You need to give it up. Why don't you at least admit that it's for you at this point, and not him?

I will bet you money this person either did not nurse at all or never past the newborn-under-a-blanket phase. I nursed two kids up to age 2.5, and it boggles the mind that people can think it's "for the mom." Do you know how hard it is to get 2.5 year olds to do things they don't want to do? Do you really think moms out there are forcing them to the breast?

"This person" (me) absolutely breastfed two children, both exclusively for 9 months, then supplementally for another 3. The day they turned one, I turned the faucet off.

The question is, why in the hell would YOU want to breastfeed a 2 1/2 year old? Obviously it was for YOU, because s/he didn't "want to do it" (your own words.) There is something really, really strange about this...

You really are clueless. The PP's child DID want to, which is why she asked if you knew how hard it was to get a child to do something they didn't want to do. My 26 month old LOVES nursing and would do it all the time if I didn't stop him. I DON'T want to keep nursing, but he does, and I'm willing to give him that much as he is still very little. There's actually nothing strange about it. What I find really, really strange is why you would suddenly deny your children nursing on their first birthday. What made that exact day so important? Clearly that was about YOUR control issues and not your children.

Oh, great. Does your child make all of the decisions in your house? Who, exactly, is the parent here?

[Anonymous]

Are you really that dumb? Of course I make the decisions, and I've made the decision to keep nursing him. Seriously, it's not that hard to understand.

[Anonymous]

I would not even bilnk if someone was to breastfeed, but I would be shocked if I was to see a 2 year old drink soda

[Anonymous]

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Hate to tell you, momma, but at 2.5, he should be getting his "comfort, health and bonding" from you in a different way. You need to give it up. Why don't you at least admit that it's for you at this point, and not him?

I will bet you money this person either did not nurse at all or never past the newborn-under-a-blanket phase. I nursed two kids up to age 2.5, and it boggles the mind that people can think it's "for the mom." Do you know how hard it is to get 2.5 year olds to do things they don't want to do? Do you really think moms out there are forcing them to the breast?

"This person" (me) absolutely breastfed two children, both exclusively for 9 months, then supplementally for another 3. The day they turned one, I turned the faucet off.

The question is, why in the hell would YOU want to breastfeed a 2 1/2 year old? Obviously it was for YOU, because s/he didn't "want to do it" (your own words.) There is something really, really strange about this...

You really are clueless. The PP's child DID want to, which is why she asked if you knew how hard it was to get a child to do something they didn't want to do. My 26 month old LOVES nursing and would do it all the time if I didn't stop him. I DON'T want to keep nursing, but he does, and I'm willing to give him that much as he is still very little. There's actually nothing strange about it. What I find really, really strange is why you would suddenly deny your children nursing on their first birthday. What made that exact day so important? Clearly that was about YOUR control issues and not your children.

Oh, great. Does your child make all of the decisions in your house? Who, exactly, is the parent here?

You said he's 2 1/2! That's not "still very little." That is a growing toddler and as much as you try to infantilize him, nothing will change that. They all grow up, mom. A successful parent who raises a truly happy, balanced child recognizes that and grows with them. Please tell me you plan to potty train him before he's five...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:one guy's perspective
http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/07/15/breastfeeding-and-sex-is-latching-on-a-turn-off/

excerpt (shudder):

Other men — me, for example — might be driven to engage in something even worse: sexless fidelity. Mine crystallized in Central Park one evening, while watching my wife sit under a tree with my older son, a five-and-a-half-year-old young man with a full set of teeth and chores, stretched out to roughly the size of a foal, suckling. By the time they strolled back to me and my already-nursed toddler son on the picnic blanket, I had lost my appetite — and not just for the smoked salmon. There are some things in life most men cannot share with first-graders, and two of them used to be called breasts. Now, my first grader called them boobalies, and history is written by the victors.

This sums it up.

Breastfeeding a preschooler is gross and abnormal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:one guy's perspective
http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/07/15/breastfeeding-and-sex-is-latching-on-a-turn-off/

excerpt (shudder):

Other men — me, for example — might be driven to engage in something even worse: sexless fidelity. Mine crystallized in Central Park one evening, while watching my wife sit under a tree with my older son, a five-and-a-half-year-old young man with a full set of teeth and chores, stretched out to roughly the size of a foal, suckling. By the time they strolled back to me and my already-nursed toddler son on the picnic blanket, I had lost my appetite — and not just for the smoked salmon. There are some things in life most men cannot share with first-graders, and two of them used to be called breasts. Now, my first grader called them boobalies, and history is written by the victors.

This sums it up.

Breastfeeding a preschooler is gross and abnormal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You said he's 2 1/2! That's not "still very little." That is a growing toddler and as much as you try to infantilize him, nothing will change that. They all grow up, mom. A successful parent who raises a truly happy, balanced child recognizes that and grows with them. Please tell me you plan to potty train him before he's five...

Sorry you think I'm infantilizing him, but luckily I take my advice from experts, not from random strangers on the internet who seem to care a hell of a lot about what other people do with their children. And he's been using the potty since he was 12 months, thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:one guy's perspective
http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/07/15/breastfeeding-and-sex-is-latching-on-a-turn-off/

excerpt (shudder):

Other men — me, for example — might be driven to engage in something even worse: sexless fidelity. Mine crystallized in Central Park one evening, while watching my wife sit under a tree with my older son, a five-and-a-half-year-old young man with a full set of teeth and chores, stretched out to roughly the size of a foal, suckling. By the time they strolled back to me and my already-nursed toddler son on the picnic blanket, I had lost my appetite — and not just for the smoked salmon. There are some things in life most men cannot share with first-graders, and two of them used to be called breasts. Now, my first grader called them boobalies, and history is written by the victors.

This sums it up.

Breastfeeding a preschooler is gross and abnormal.

[phone]

And IMO anyone who disagrees has a few loose screws as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You said he's 2 1/2! That's not "still very little." That is a growing toddler and as much as you try to infantilize him, nothing will change that. They all grow up, mom. A successful parent who raises a truly happy, balanced child recognizes that and grows with them. Please tell me you plan to potty train him before he's five...

Sorry you think I'm infantilizing him, but luckily I take my advice from experts, not from random strangers on the internet who seem to care a hell of a lot about what other people do with their children. And he's been using the potty since he was 12 months, thanks.

You have no idea who I am. And you'll have to trust me when I say that I know a lot more about this issue than you do.

[Anonymous]

Back in the 70's there was a mom in our community who nursed her 4 year old son. I remember it as if it was yesterday. He was teased alot. I still see this man---who is almost 40 now--- and I always remember that about him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You said he's 2 1/2! That's not "still very little." That is a growing toddler and as much as you try to infantilize him, nothing will change that. They all grow up, mom. A successful parent who raises a truly happy, balanced child recognizes that and grows with them. Please tell me you plan to potty train him before he's five...

Sorry you think I'm infantilizing him, but luckily I take my advice from experts, not from random strangers on the internet who seem to care a hell of a lot about what other people do with their children. And he's been using the potty since he was 12 months, thanks.

Um, ok. So your child uses the toilet at 12 months ( ) but nurses for comfort? You are so, so backwards (not to mention a liar).

[Anonymous]

2.5 yo nursing poster here. What's wrong with using the potty (pp never said her child was fully potty trained) at 12 mo.? Mine did, too.
Again, why is it ok to wear diapers (often around the clock), be in a stroller or suck on a paci at 3.5, not even mentioning 2.5, but not to breastfeed?
As for the article, I don't know why mom would nurse her 5yo in the park. It's not like he was dead tired and needed a nap? Or seriously sick or hurt?