Yet another post about 5-6 year old boys in the women's changing/bathroom at the pool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rather than fighting on this issue, shouldn't we e proactively advocating for family restrooms to resolve this dilemma? Both sides have a poiny. I don't want older boys ( as in preteen/teen) gawking at my teenage girls in the locker room and I don't want my younger son being forced to go to the men's locker before he's ready and it feels safe. We should be supporting a common solution.

$$$$

[Anonymous]

I smiled and told her I was a lawyer, and I knew they would be mortified if a 4 year old who was forced to go through a locker room without a parent was harmed or injured in any way - especially since the locker rooms have saunas attached and lead directly to a pool area."

If this happened in DC, I doubt anyone gives a crap that you're a lawyer.

[Anonymous]

Good God. This is not an issue in other countries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rather than fighting on this issue, shouldn't we e proactively advocating for family restrooms to resolve this dilemma? Both sides have a poiny. I don't want older boys ( as in preteen/teen) gawking at my teenage girls in the locker room and I don't want my younger son being forced to go to the men's locker before he's ready and it feels safe. We should be supporting a common solution.

I agree. I am a PP who said my pool is putting in a family room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband just experienced a similar issue except reverse genders. At our neighborhood pool, you HAVE to walk through either the women's locker room or the men's locker room to get to the pool. And to get to the pool from the locker room you have to practically walk through the open showers. He has taken our 5 year old daughter to the pool without me a few times and was really disturbed that he had to walk her through the men's shower with a bunch of naked men to get to the pool. She could have gone through the women's locker room by herself I suppose but it is quite a maze and the doors pretty heavy for a little one to open by themselves. When my DH complained to the pool the guy was sympathetic but said there wasn't really anything they could do. They wouldn't even allow them to walk through the employee entrance to the pool. I don't consider ourselves to be prudes or anything but it would be nice if my husband could take our daughter to the pool without walking her through a room of penises!

The shower room is there between the locker and the pool area because patrons are expected to take a soap shower before carrying any washable bacteria into the pool. This is a protection for others, including your daughter. You can explain to her that the men and boiys have the right to be naked there because it is their locker room and she is merely there with dad and she at 5 can will understand Reasonable men will not object When my girls, 5 and 8, go with the3ir dad he calls out 'little girls coming through' and they will turn toward the wall.

[Anonymous]

There is no way I am letting my 6 yo go into the Men's room alone, anywhere. Maybe when he is 8. But that child molester in Oregon, who tried to molest the child in a Wendy's bathroom but ended stabbing him pretty much freaked me out.

[Anonymous]

The public pool that I swim at with my 3 children (Two daughters and one son) requires everyone to take a nude soap shower before entering the pool.

The showers in the women's locker room are all on a wall with no stalls or dividers of any kind.

My daughters (15 and 12) and myself shower in the nude as is required. However, my son (8) is not comfortable with the idea of showering in the nude with his sisters, myself and strangers, so he changes into his swimsuit in one of the toilet stalls, and then showers off in his swimsuit.

No-one has ever reported us for my son not showering in the nude like the rule requires. I hope that no-one ever does report us for it, since I'm not allowing my son to go into the men's locker room alone until he's 10 years old.

None of the other women or girls seem to have a problem with my son being in the women's locker room. Thankfully!

Occasionally one of the women or girls will try to face the opposite direction as my son, so only their bare-backside is facing him. I'm grateful that none of the women or girls are so prudish that they worry about a little boy being in the female locker room!

[Anonymous]

I don't know why, but my above post has a smiley face where there was supposed to be the number 8. my son is 8 years old. that's not supposed to be a smiley face.

[Anonymous]

Our pool does not have a family changing room or even a private changing area in the locker room. Now that my son is 4, I don't know what to do. I guess I will have to get dressed with him in the toilet stall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our pool does not have a family changing room or even a private changing area in the locker room. Now that my son is 4, I don't know what to do. I guess I will have to get dressed with him in the toilet stall.

For the sake of his privacy I would say that he should change in and out of his bathing suit in a stall. But I don't see other ladies caring about a four year old boy being in there.

[Anonymous]

I don't have a problem with boys five and under in the ladies changing/bathroom at the pool, but once they are over five, they're too old to be in the changing room with my daughter.

We have a rule at the pool and if the PP brought her 8 year old into the showers, I'd complain to the attendants to enforce that rule. Eight is way too old to be in the room where my five year old changes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a pool that posted that children over 3 need to be in gender appropriate changing rooms. I brought my son to the front desk and told the manager that since my son was 4 and couldn't go with me into the changing area, they needed a staff member to accompany him. When she asked me why, I smiled and told her I was a lawyer, and I knew they would be mortified if a 4 year old who was forced to go through a locker room without a parent was harmed or injured in any way - especially since the locker rooms have saunas attached and lead directly to a pool area." Then I asked her "Unless of course you are okay with 4 year olds being unaccompanied in the pool area? In which case I'll assume your staff is taking care of him while I deal with my other children."

She flew out of her seat and went down and pulled the sign off of the locker rooms.

For Christ's sake - throwing around your title . . .

ohhh - so impressive!

Hey, it worked!

It shouldn't have. The pool would not be any more liable if the kid slipped while not with his mom v. with his mom. The staff member should have said, it is your responsibility to have your child supervised at all times, so if that means having your husband come along, so be it.

[Anonymous]

Incorrect. If they have a policy that is counter to state laws - such as requiring children under the age of 4 to do really ANYTHING without a parent - they would be held liable. Sorry, but it is true.

Anyway - I don't care about such signs and rules. I make my own decisions about what to do with my kids. I do not take strangers' opinions into consideration. One time, a woman tried to tell me that my 3 year old son couldn't be in the women's dressing area. I didn't even acknowledge she was speaking. I didn't ask her for her advice, and I didn't want it, so I didn't engage her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It shouldn't have. The pool would not be any more liable if the kid slipped while not with his mom v. with his mom. The staff member should have said, it is your responsibility to have your child supervised at all times, so if that means having your husband come along, so be it.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I smiled and told her I was a lawyer, and I knew they would be mortified if a 4 year old who was forced to go through a locker room without a parent was harmed or injured in any way - especially since the locker rooms have saunas attached and lead directly to a pool area."

If this happened in DC, I doubt anyone gives a crap that you're a lawyer.

Nothing worse than someone who goes through life threatening people with the words, "I'm a lawyer. . . ."

No wonder everyone hates lawyers.