Why even bother having kids? (Flame away)-- nanny ad, hours 3:30-8pm

[Anonymous]

Just FYI, the couple who posted the ad is now fully aware of the situation that has taken place on here today. Not surprisingly given the tone of their ad, they find it amusing. They also have a strong suspicion of who it may have been, but aren't certain. (You're never completely anonymous.)

[Anonymous]

OMG, i would love a nanny from 330-8pm...I think its genius! My DH and I are both grad level professionals and it is very common for one of us to stay late at work every other night so that we can come home early (4pm) the next night. This means less time together but we make time after the kids go to sleep. Anyway, I think its extremely efficient to have an extra set of hands to help out during the evening hours. If I could spend that time focused on each child, and not have to worry about cooking/cleaning...and then an extra set of hands to help with baths...maybe I need to place an ad?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just FYI, the couple who posted the ad is now fully aware of the situation that has taken place on here today. Not surprisingly given the tone of their ad, they find it amusing. They also have a strong suspicion of who it may have been, but aren't certain. (You're never completely anonymous.)

Uh oh, listserv witch hunt, comin' right up!

[Anonymous]

I can't believe I read ALL of those responses... I am SOOO glad that the people who posted that on the listserv know that it is up here.. Hopefully if they know who did it, they say something to prevent this from happening again..

[Anonymous]

OP where are you now? Afraid you have been busted?

If you stand by your post, what do you have to say now?

[Anonymous]

I'm not the OP, but I'm curious about the idea that a listserv is somehow "private." I am also on the listserv in question it's huge. I'm cognizant that when I post something, it is read by people who are not only my neighbors, but people whom I know professionally and personally. Also, there have been plenty of fights on this (and other) neighborhood listservs that have been fodder for Washington Post articles where people have been quoted by name. If you put something out there, and post your name, then it's up for public discussion.

Someone previously alluded to Above the Law, the legal tabloid blog. When they do the wedding "legal eagles" post, they google the couples and dig up their wedding websites, registries, etc etc. Is that stuff "private?" If it's out on the internet, it's fair game.

OP did not post the name of the couple who posted the ad, so what's the big deal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just FYI, the couple who posted the ad is now fully aware of the situation that has taken place on here today. Not surprisingly given the tone of their ad, they find it amusing. They also have a strong suspicion of who it may have been, but aren't certain. (You're never completely anonymous.)

Uh oh, listserv witch hunt, comin' right up!

Oooh....does the couple think it's someone they know?? This could be really good....

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not the OP, but I'm curious about the idea that a listserv is somehow "private." I am also on the listserv in question it's huge. I'm cognizant that when I post something, it is read by people who are not only my neighbors, but people whom I know professionally and personally. Also, there have been plenty of fights on this (and other) neighborhood listservs that have been fodder for Washington Post articles where people have been quoted by name. If you put something out there, and post your name, then it's up for public discussion.

Someone previously alluded to Above the Law, the legal tabloid blog. When they do the wedding "legal eagles" post, they google the couples and dig up their wedding websites, registries, etc etc. Is that stuff "private?" If it's out on the internet, it's fair game.

OP did not post the name of the couple who posted the ad, so what's the big deal?

Yet, you and the OP have the same IP address.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The reality is, if both parents are lawyers/bankers at firms, they probably have at least one live-in nanny who works 6 am to 3 pm and they are now looking for another (live out nanny) to fill the afternoon and evening role. I once knew a family with three kids where the dad was a partner at a major consulting firm (so he traveled out of town Mon-Fri) and the Mom worked as an investment banker in NYC (but they lived in DC where the husband's firm was)! So they had a full-time live in nanny, plus two other nannies to relieve the full-time nanny. Again, I tried not to judge, but why have kids? If you have a super high-powered family, I could understand having one (a la Hillary and Bill) and then realizing it wouldn't be fair to the kids to have more, but two or three? And both parents are working this hard by choice - they could very comfortably survive on one of their salaries alone. I agree that once you have kids, something has to give. And if it's not compromising to come up with some semblance of career/family balance, I fear what's "giving" is a certain amount of their children's happiness. Sure, the kids don't "notice" when they're babies or toddlers, but don't think they won't remember their parents' (extreme) absence when they get a little older.

A slight aside, but there are lots of reasons to continue working hard after having kids, even if one could afford not to. People die, get divorced, etc., and women who have not worked in 10 years have a much harder time figuring out how to provide for their families and getting compensated fairly for their education and experience than those who have been working outside the home all along. It's also great to be able to show your girls and your boys that women AND men can have successful careers. "Children's happiness" does not equal "direct contact with parents at all times". I'm not saying that this family's choices were good ones, necessarily, but they weren't necessarily bad ones either, and I certainly don't know enough about their circumstances to judge.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not the OP, but I'm curious about the idea that a listserv is somehow "private." I am also on the listserv in question it's huge. I'm cognizant that when I post something, it is read by people who are not only my neighbors, but people whom I know professionally and personally. Also, there have been plenty of fights on this (and other) neighborhood listservs that have been fodder for Washington Post articles where people have been quoted by name. If you put something out there, and post your name, then it's up for public discussion.

Someone previously alluded to Above the Law, the legal tabloid blog. When they do the wedding "legal eagles" post, they google the couples and dig up their wedding websites, registries, etc etc. Is that stuff "private?" If it's out on the internet, it's fair game.

OP did not post the name of the couple who posted the ad, so what's the big deal?

Yet, you and the OP have the same IP address.

Zing!!! Way to use your powers for good...

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not the OP, but I'm curious about the idea that a listserv is somehow "private." I am also on the listserv in question it's huge. I'm cognizant that when I post something, it is read by people who are not only my neighbors, but people whom I know professionally and personally. Also, there have been plenty of fights on this (and other) neighborhood listservs that have been fodder for Washington Post articles where people have been quoted by name. If you put something out there, and post your name, then it's up for public discussion.

Someone previously alluded to Above the Law, the legal tabloid blog. When they do the wedding "legal eagles" post, they google the couples and dig up their wedding websites, registries, etc etc. Is that stuff "private?" If it's out on the internet, it's fair game.

OP did not post the name of the couple who posted the ad, so what's the big deal?

Yet, you and the OP have the same IP address.

The household that posts together laughs together????

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not the OP, but I'm curious about the idea that a listserv is somehow "private." I am also on the listserv in question it's huge. I'm cognizant that when I post something, it is read by people who are not only my neighbors, but people whom I know professionally and personally. Also, there have been plenty of fights on this (and other) neighborhood listservs that have been fodder for Washington Post articles where people have been quoted by name. If you put something out there, and post your name, then it's up for public discussion.

Someone previously alluded to Above the Law, the legal tabloid blog. When they do the wedding "legal eagles" post, they google the couples and dig up their wedding websites, registries, etc etc. Is that stuff "private?" If it's out on the internet, it's fair game.

OP did not post the name of the couple who posted the ad, so what's the big deal?

Yet, you and the OP have the same IP address.

Ooh, busted!

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not the OP, but I'm curious about the idea that a listserv is somehow "private." I am also on the listserv in question it's huge. I'm cognizant that when I post something, it is read by people who are not only my neighbors, but people whom I know professionally and personally. Also, there have been plenty of fights on this (and other) neighborhood listservs that have been fodder for Washington Post articles where people have been quoted by name. If you put something out there, and post your name, then it's up for public discussion.

Someone previously alluded to Above the Law, the legal tabloid blog. When they do the wedding "legal eagles" post, they google the couples and dig up their wedding websites, registries, etc etc. Is that stuff "private?" If it's out on the internet, it's fair game.

OP did not post the name of the couple who posted the ad, so what's the big deal?

Yet, you and the OP have the same IP address.

Jeff Steele, you are AWESOME.

[Anonymous]

I think that OP has posted many times on this thread. It's not hard to figure out the IP address.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that OP has posted many times on this thread. It's not hard to figure out the IP address.

Sorry...I didn't see that Jeff had already busted them.