DD is insisting on being called "Cherry"

[Anonymous]

You must teach your daughter that Sharon is carin'!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DD (14) is named Sharon, because DH and I felt that was a hip and beautiful name. However, she's now saying that it's a "middle-aged white woman name" (keep in mind that she is white) and demanding that we call her "Cherry". She's already got her friends to call her Cherry and plans to start high school introducing herself to classmates and teachers as Cherry. I'm not a fan. In addition to the inappropriate associations that cherries can have, Sharon is her name. It's a wonderful, lovely name, and now she's saying that she wants to be called a piece of fruit? I don't get it. WWYD?

Tell her that nicknames have to be bestowed by others and EARNED, they CANNOT be made up by the person themselves. People make fun of people who do that.

You sound like such a 2012 Tumblr teen lm freaking aooooooo

Say what?

They kinda did sound like a 2012 Tumblr teen tbh

[Anonymous]

You're child feels alone

[Anonymous]

It's not your name, Karen. Butt out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD (14) is named Sharon, because DH and I felt that was a hip and beautiful name. However, she's now saying that it's a "middle-aged white woman name" (keep in mind that she is white) and demanding that we call her "Cherry". She's already got her friends to call her Cherry and plans to start high school introducing herself to classmates and teachers as Cherry. I'm not a fan. In addition to the inappropriate associations that cherries can have, Sharon is her name. It's a wonderful, lovely name, and now she's saying that she wants to be called a piece of fruit? I don't get it. WWYD?

Some young teens say they are gay. Some say they are trans. Some say they are pan. Some say they are really cats and want to use a litter box at school (ok, that isn’t a real thing, but you get the idea. Some ask to be called by a different name and deliberately choose one they suspect will irk you.

You can overreact or you can not die on these hills. Choose wisely.

[Anonymous]

Sharon Eleanor?! Good lord op do you secretly hate your child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take her to a therapist to talk her out of this.

How would a therapist help her with having a horrible name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD (14) is named Sharon, because DH and I felt that was a hip and beautiful name. However, she's now saying that it's a "middle-aged white woman name" (keep in mind that she is white) and demanding that we call her "Cherry". She's already got her friends to call her Cherry and plans to start high school introducing herself to classmates and teachers as Cherry. I'm not a fan. In addition to the inappropriate associations that cherries can have, Sharon is her name. It's a wonderful, lovely name, and now she's saying that she wants to be called a piece of fruit? I don't get it. WWYD?

Some young teens say they are gay. Some say they are trans. Some say they are pan. Some say they are really cats and want to use a litter box at school (ok, that isn’t a real thing, but you get the idea. Some ask to be called by a different name and deliberately choose one they suspect will irk you.

You can overreact or you can not die on these hills. Choose wisely.

Okay so there was quite literally nothing in the post related to sexuality or gender identity but you still see this and decide it's a good opportunity to hate on the LGBTQ+ community? Good god, girl!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sharon Eleanor?! Good lord op do you secretly hate your child?

Eleanor's not a terrible name. I teach at an elementary school and have had a couple of Eleanors. Some use the full name, some go by Elle or Ellie or Ellen or Nora. One went by Lennie.

OP, this is your child's life to live.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD (14) is named Sharon, because DH and I felt that was a hip and beautiful name. However, she's now saying that it's a "middle-aged white woman name" (keep in mind that she is white) and demanding that we call her "Cherry". She's already got her friends to call her Cherry and plans to start high school introducing herself to classmates and teachers as Cherry. I'm not a fan. In addition to the inappropriate associations that cherries can have, Sharon is her name. It's a wonderful, lovely name, and now she's saying that she wants to be called a piece of fruit? I don't get it. WWYD?

Some young teens say they are gay. Some say they are trans. Some say they are pan. Some say they are really cats and want to use a litter box at school (ok, that isn’t a real thing, but you get the idea. Some ask to be called by a different name and deliberately choose one they suspect will irk you.

You can overreact or you can not die on these hills. Choose wisely.

Homophobia and transphobia are NOT acceptable. Shame on you

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP - Sharon Eleanor is the opposite of a hip name. I would've hated to have the name of a grandmother at 14. Cherry, while too nickname-y for my taste, is way cuter and more youthful than Sharon.

I would also suggest Shay (like the actress Shay Mitchell whose real name is Shannon), Shar or Cher.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Wow, so many people have replied!

A lot of people were suggesting she go by her middle name. I suggested this to her as well, but she said that her middle name (Eleanor) is also an old lady name. I think that's just unreasonable. I knew plenty of young Eleanors, and besides, she could just go by Ellie! I also talked to her about the sexual connotations of "Cherry", but she said I was being "gross" and just walked out the door

Honestly, I think she just wants to pick and choose her name and that's not how names work!

Actually, that is how names work as a adult.

And, you named this poor girl Sharon Eleanor! Are you sure you aren't making this up?

I think that's very mean and OP has beautiful taste in names. You're not being very nice

Ok OP. I'm the mean pp, in my fifties, and I can see why this poor girl wants a nickname.

I would go with something like Sheri or Ellie or some variation, but what did you expect giving her two fairly recentish old lady names from the 1960s and earlier?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Wow, so many people have replied!

A lot of people were suggesting she go by her middle name. I suggested this to her as well, but she said that her middle name (Eleanor) is also an old lady name. I think that's just unreasonable. I knew plenty of young Eleanors, and besides, she could just go by Ellie! I also talked to her about the sexual connotations of "Cherry", but she said I was being "gross" and just walked out the door

Honestly, I think she just wants to pick and choose her name and that's not how names work!

This has got to be a troll. Even if we believe someone might name their child Sharon Eleanor, they'd at least realize their mistake by the time the drugs wore off at the hospital.

No one would actually expect a child to go by either of those names.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She doesn't want to be embarrassed about her name but given her age and innocence, she probably has no idea Cherry is even more embarrassing because of the connotations. Especially for a teen. Maybe explain all that too her? If her mind is made up, she probably won't care. Tell her it's a bad idea, it's a stripper name, and doesn't fit her, and you don't like it.

Suggest Shari (kind of cool, but still leads back to Sharon, which she hates.)

Oh sweetie... She's 14! You don't think she knows the term?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Wow, so many people have replied!

A lot of people were suggesting she go by her middle name. I suggested this to her as well, but she said that her middle name (Eleanor) is also an old lady name. I think that's just unreasonable. I knew plenty of young Eleanors, and besides, she could just go by Ellie! I also talked to her about the sexual connotations of "Cherry", but she said I was being "gross" and just walked out the door

Honestly, I think she just wants to pick and choose her name and that's not how names work!

You named her Sharon Eleanor. You deserve what you get.