Hairy legs in an office setting

[Anonymous]

Totally depends upon industry and role. If it’s client facing and corporate she may hear about it. If it’s cerebral/internal no worries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She should shave her legs. You told her and she is free to ignore. Either the office is more open-minded than you think or she'll learn a lesson the hard way.

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If she chooses not to listen and learn through the school of hard knocks, that's fine. Not the end of the world. I hope you say 'I told you so' afterwards.

+1 just judging by this thread She will get a mixed bag of reactions. If she’s working with any people who have a say in her advancement or connections, she may have to work mighty hard to overcome any first impressions she gives off. She may work with people who care a lot about physical appearances, or she may work with people who don’t care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Moms that tell their confident teen girls to shave are in some crazy psycho category.

Like just real crappy inferior moms judge their daughters based on superficial BS.

I bet you are super successful. You sound totally sane and smart.

She sounds like a very defensive mother of an outlier kid that she wishes would conform a little more but she can’t admit it, even to herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Moms that tell their confident teen girls to shave are in some crazy psycho category.

Like just real crappy inferior moms judge their daughters based on superficial BS.

I bet you are super successful. You sound totally sane and smart.

She sounds like a very defensive mother of an outlier kid that she wishes would conform a little more but she can’t admit it, even to herself.

DP and I know you really want this to be true, but I doubt it.

On the other side, I am picturing all these women who still wear slips under dresses and resent the fact that standards have changed.

[Anonymous]

I work in a corporate office and have never looked at anyone's legs. Hardly anyone even wears skirts anyway. You all are living back in the 80's or something.

Or like usually DCUM there is one mom here that keeps posting over and over again to humiliate her daughter and keep sexism alive and well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work in a corporate office and have never looked at anyone's legs. Hardly anyone even wears skirts anyway. You all are living back in the 80's or something.

Or like usually DCUM there is one mom here that keeps posting over and over again to humiliate her daughter and keep sexism alive and well.

^I'm an old, retired big law partner and this, this, this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work in a corporate office and have never looked at anyone's legs. Hardly anyone even wears skirts anyway. You all are living back in the 80's or something.

Or like usually DCUM there is one mom here that keeps posting over and over again to humiliate her daughter and keep sexism alive and well.

^I'm an old, retired big law partner and this, this, this.

Yet I bet both of you shave your legs. And if you don't you wear pants. Such hypocrites.

[Anonymous]

In an office setting, if you can see the hairs on my legs, you are too close!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In an office setting, if you can see the hairs on my legs, you are too close!

This

[Anonymous]

NP here. My DD would know the assignment in this situation. Our golden rule is that in a professional setting - dress, groom and behave appropriately.

You want to fit in with your co-workers, instill confidence in your bosses that you have good judgement and reassure your clients that you know your stuff - and dressing for the role is a part of it.

My kids have interned in HS, college and post-college. They usually get a return offer or solid recommendations. The reason is their work, attitude and how they present themselves.

Please understand that "babysitting" the interns is a hated job. Interns usually increase the workload for some office worker, so they are slightly resentful about it. Then comes a poorly dressed, poorly groomed, poor attitude person and the situation does not improve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In an office setting, if you can see the hairs on my legs, you are too close!

Lol

[Anonymous]

I had a coworker who had hairy looking legs that you could see on her ankles. Some other coworkers had snarky comments in the breakroom and I thought that was mean and who cares as long as she can do her job well.

So there will probably be a mixture of opinions. Some will be put off and others won't care. Ultimately, this is a path that is not yours to dictate.

IMHO, we need to normalize hairy legs for women who choose to forego shaving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work in a corporate office and have never looked at anyone's legs. Hardly anyone even wears skirts anyway. You all are living back in the 80's or something.

Or like usually DCUM there is one mom here that keeps posting over and over again to humiliate her daughter and keep sexism alive and well.

^I'm an old, retired big law partner and this, this, this.

Yet I bet both of you shave your legs. And if you don't you wear pants. Such hypocrites.

That's not hypocrisy. It's trying to end the cycle of humiliation and sexism -- It ends with us!

[Anonymous]

I worked at a well known financial institution. We had an intern, she wore club attire to work. Crop tops, stomach out. Mini skirts. No belt. I actually had to pull her aside and have a conversation with her about her butt crack being exposed before a meeting. At the end of the internship she was surprised when she didn’t get an offer and other kids did.

If she’s a teen, teens usually don’t have a ton of hair yet and if it’s finer and less noticeable sure maybe she can get away with it. If she has thick black leg hair she should know better especially if the men aren’t wearing shorts to work showing theirs.

Read the UBS dress code

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to help her make a distinction between proper attire and cultural reactions to body hair.

This isn't a dress code or attire thing. If bare, shaved legs are okay then hairy legs are definitely okay.

It's possible that people may look askance or even discriminate against her for having hairy legs. IMO they'd be entirely in the wrong, so this is her first introduction to the dynamics of having to decide if/how much you're going to accommodate other people's wrongness in your professional life.

Maybe she's old enough to watch Mad Men! That could be fun!

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