Hairy legs in an office setting

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Anonymous wrote:She should shave her legs or wear pants. I wish I could say it won't matter but it will.

Her generation is a lot more progressive about this but her bosses will be millennials and up and all of us shave our legs.

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Have her wear the wide leg trouser pants that are in style now. Abercrombie and Jcrew both have cute ones. Hairy legs will be covered!

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you all need to get with the times. I’ve seen male school administrators wearing nail polish to work, wedding coordinators at very traditional, conservative weddings with bright purple hair. Nobody cares about a high school girl’s leg hair.

So then you don't shave your legs either? Do you wear skirts and dresses to the office?

I do, but I wouldn’t care if I saw someone at work who didn’t. My high school DD only does very occasionally. This is her journey on earth, she can present herself how she wants.

So you're a hypocrite. Telling us how we must get with the times and then succumb to the pressure of shaving. Why do you do it if you're so with the times?

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No, my intention was not to suggest that everyone should stop shaving. By “get with the times,” I meant that people should (at least try to) stop judging people’s choices about how they present themselves. Sorry you misunderstood.

But you still understand the societal and professional impact of not shaving, so you do it. What am I missing?

Do you not understand the difference between doing something because YOU want to do it, and expecting everyone else to do exactly as YOU do because YOU want them to?

You can wear a full face of makeup, full blowout and do an everything shower every morning before you get to work. No one else is required to follow your self imposed grooming standards. Stop judging women who don't want to fit into your tiny narrow box full of other old ladies.

Exactly. PP has probably never worked with people from a variety of cultures. Certainly isn’t c-level.

I said I work in a c-suite not that I am an excutive. It’s pretty clear your are not in a professional office environment and it’s clear why. It’s most important to you to fight some stupid leg hair battle than to be successful.

Dear, it is YOU fighting some stupid battle. The rest of us are just living our lives, some shaved, some waxed, some neither. You should try minding your own business, you may find it liberating!

I’m plenty liberated and answering OPs question. I’m just smarter than you and have figured out that work is not a place for self expression. I also don’t care that a McDonalds manager doesn’t feel the need to shave. But if you want to be successful, for now at least, that is the norm. But I get that you don’t know that.

Lol! You're so triggered by other women not wanting to remove their leg hair. It's quite bizarre that you seem to think you're the smartest person on the internet and everyone who disagrees with you is lesser somehow . Maybe someone hurt you or stifled your desires from a young age, no need to perpetuate such hate now that you're a grown adult. Insecure people lash out like you're doing, therapy may be helpful for you.

😂😂😂. OP asked for opinions and I offered one. I may not be the smartest person on the internet but I’m definitely smarter than you. Still waiting to hear what you do, since you’re so brave and qualified to answer OP.

Why do you think I have to prove myself to you? You're so hurt and yet entitled at the same time, weird mix.

I go into the office twice a week - yes, sometimes with hairy legs! Working out just fine for me, but your concern is touching.

Because you are full of shit and giving young women bad advice. That’s why.

When was the last time you saw a women in upper management with hairy legs? Does not happen.

How old are you? How long has it been since you were a teen? I don't think you have any clue what is happening with the younger generation. And you basically outed yourself as a bigot who would base promotions and work success based on something so sexist and shallow. I doubt you're csuite with this kind of attitude. You're probably not even a woman.

She’s old and still wearing suits to work. [/quote]

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[Anonymous]

Nowadays people have half shaved/half blue hair and enough metal in their face to set off a metal detector. I think she will be fine.

[Anonymous]

It wouldn’t likely be in the dress code so she’s not in danger of being disciplined for it. Depends on how much she would be bothered by the looks of others.

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Moms that tell their confident teen girls to shave are in some crazy psycho category.

Like just real crappy inferior moms judge their daughters based on superficial BS.

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Anonymous wrote:Moms that tell their confident teen girls to shave are in some crazy psycho category.

Like just real crappy inferior moms judge their daughters based on superficial BS.

I bet you are super successful. You sound totally sane and smart.

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Anonymous wrote:You can be honest and tell her that it is outside the norms and that some people will judge (but not say anything, because they could almost certainly be fired for that) but then leave it at that. The rest is up to her. If she knows the norms and chooses not to follow them, she’s an independent thinker. Good for her.

And it’s not like it’ll affect her career path or promotion potential or anything. She’s in high school. Most normal people, if they notice at all, will shrug and think “huh, kids today.”

OP. This is what I worry about, that it WILL affect her experience there and the recommendation she gets, etc. Later on when she has some seniority she can do what she wants. Right now she’s the most powerless person there, though. It seems bratty and entitled to go against office norms in your very first professional experience.

That seems crazy to me that leg hair would affect a potential recommendation. They already hired her so they must faith that she can do a good job. So she needs to do a good job. You’re overthinking the hair.

I think you underestimate the impact your physical appearance has in a professional setting.

No, I understand it well. But if she’s clean and dressed appropriately, this is really none of anyone’s concern.

So you don't get it! It is none of their concert of course, but she will be judged for it. When you are young and starting out, you want to fit in. Not the opposite.

Are you DD? I don't think you know what "young people" just starting out want or feel.

She isn't going there for a therapy session on how she feels. She is going there to impress them and get a job.

Huh? Are you the pp I was replying to? She already has the internship. She doesnt need to shave her legs to "fit in" with the old ladies. People suggesting this I do not think are even aware of how young folks behave these days.

You really are clueless.

How? By thinking women should be able to do their jobs without pressure from old ladies on their sexist hair removal ideas?

I can 100% guarantee that you do not have a professional job in an office environment. Also, you're just as obnoxious as you are clueless.

DP. What is your job? How much your performance is based on your grooming?

I work in a C-suite. I would absolutely be judged if I wasn't dressed and groomed appropriately. Now you? What do you do?

C-suite in a company of one.

Like I said, you are clueless because you are not in a professional setting. You know nothing.

DP. Your seem bizarrely competitive about your career success. Surely the person you are talking down to (in a way that suggests you aren’t overly professional yourself) works with clients - probably more than you do in your “C suite” (also something people with actual professional power don’t brag about).

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you all need to get with the times. I’ve seen male school administrators wearing nail polish to work, wedding coordinators at very traditional, conservative weddings with bright purple hair. Nobody cares about a high school girl’s leg hair.

So then you don't shave your legs either? Do you wear skirts and dresses to the office?

I do, but I wouldn’t care if I saw someone at work who didn’t. My high school DD only does very occasionally. This is her journey on earth, she can present herself how she wants.

So you're a hypocrite. Telling us how we must get with the times and then succumb to the pressure of shaving. Why do you do it if you're so with the times?

Ageist. Please delete.

No, my intention was not to suggest that everyone should stop shaving. By “get with the times,” I meant that people should (at least try to) stop judging people’s choices about how they present themselves. Sorry you misunderstood.

But you still understand the societal and professional impact of not shaving, so you do it. What am I missing?

Do you not understand the difference between doing something because YOU want to do it, and expecting everyone else to do exactly as YOU do because YOU want them to?

You can wear a full face of makeup, full blowout and do an everything shower every morning before you get to work. No one else is required to follow your self imposed grooming standards. Stop judging women who don't want to fit into your tiny narrow box full of other old ladies.

Exactly. PP has probably never worked with people from a variety of cultures. Certainly isn’t c-level.

I said I work in a c-suite not that I am an excutive. It’s pretty clear your are not in a professional office environment and it’s clear why. It’s most important to you to fight some stupid leg hair battle than to be successful.

Dear, it is YOU fighting some stupid battle. The rest of us are just living our lives, some shaved, some waxed, some neither. You should try minding your own business, you may find it liberating!

I’m plenty liberated and answering OPs question. I’m just smarter than you and have figured out that work is not a place for self expression. I also don’t care that a McDonalds manager doesn’t feel the need to shave. But if you want to be successful, for now at least, that is the norm. But I get that you don’t know that.

Lol! You're so triggered by other women not wanting to remove their leg hair. It's quite bizarre that you seem to think you're the smartest person on the internet and everyone who disagrees with you is lesser somehow . Maybe someone hurt you or stifled your desires from a young age, no need to perpetuate such hate now that you're a grown adult. Insecure people lash out like you're doing, therapy may be helpful for you.

😂😂😂. OP asked for opinions and I offered one. I may not be the smartest person on the internet but I’m definitely smarter than you. Still waiting to hear what you do, since you’re so brave and qualified to answer OP.

Why do you think I have to prove myself to you? You're so hurt and yet entitled at the same time, weird mix.

I go into the office twice a week - yes, sometimes with hairy legs! Working out just fine for me, but your concern is touching.

Because you are full of shit and giving young women bad advice. That’s why.

When was the last time you saw a women in upper management with hairy legs? Does not happen.

How old are you? How long has it been since you were a teen? I don't think you have any clue what is happening with the younger generation. And you basically outed yourself as a bigot who would base promotions and work success based on something so sexist and shallow. I doubt you're csuite with this kind of attitude. You're probably not even a woman.

She’s old and still wearing suits to work.

Ageist. Please delete.

You are so old you can’t even quote properly.

[Anonymous]

I think this is one of those situations that a lot of women have convinced themselves they'll never climb the ladder if they don't do XYZ. But since most people do XYZ, there is no proof that not doing it will hinder them.

A lot of people mistaking their own standards and judgment for others. Or for some kind of corporate "law."

It is not bratty or entitled for the teen to not want to shave. It just is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She should shave her legs. You told her and she is free to ignore. Either the office is more open-minded than you think or she'll learn a lesson the hard way.

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If she chooses not to listen and learn through the school of hard knocks, that's fine. Not the end of the world. I hope you say 'I told you so' afterwards.

[Anonymous]

Men have hairy legs and always wear pants.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She should shave her legs. You told her and she is free to ignore. Either the office is more open-minded than you think or she'll learn a lesson the hard way.

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If she chooses not to listen and learn through the school of hard knocks, that's fine. Not the end of the world. I hope you say 'I told you so' afterwards.

I told you so? Man, you all are petty. And what on earth will be the consequences that this high school student will learn? If she’s not management by the end of senior year, it’s clearly because of the hair on her legs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men have hairy legs and always wear pants.

Men also don’t wear makeup or heels or get blowouts to “look successful,” so if we’re going to make everything even, let’s cut that sh*t out, too. If this really an issue for some offices, they need to write “long pants only” into the policy.

[Anonymous]

She is right. It’s normal for any human body to have hair, and it is her choice to wear whatever she wants within the dress code of the company, and she is free to choose whether or not to shave any part of her body.

People may think that’s odd, or may not like to look at her legs (which, um, fine, they shouldn’t be focused on her body anyway), and that’s part of life, so there ya go. What they can’t do is take any sort of discriminatory action, but that seems unlikely in 2024 when face tattoos, men wearing dresses, nose piercings, no hosiery, and fewer suits and ties are all Things That Happen.