are the girls still only wearing the micro slip dresses to homecoming this year?

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot imagine, as a junior in high school, asking my mother to shop for a homecoming dress for me.
Is this how teens are now??
A coworker whose daughter just left for college said she calls every day asking to come home. She's only about 90 minutes from home.
Sorry to hijack but this is crazy to me. My kids are still in elementary.

OP here. My kid doesn't have a f-ing minute to breathe (as a junior). She comes home from varsity soccer at 6pm, eats dinner, and does 4-5 hours of homework. She easily has 60 minutes per class--calculus BC, physics C, AP Spanish literature etc. Plus she writes for the school paper, runs two clubs, etc. It's freaking ridiculous.

What's different from when we were kids is that kids didn't have this degree of homework (or at least I didn't) plus have the pressure to have a resume that rivals most 30 year olds'. She asked me to look for dress ideas because she literally does not have an hour to spare on this until the weekend and by that time it will be too late for shipping. If she had an extra hour she would go to bed earlier.

It's ridiculous and it sucks and I'm not sure how we got here. what happened to having fun buying a dress? Sigh. It's the life of a top achieving kid in 2023.

Agree. I feel like my kid’s secretary sometimes. Although mine did find a dress online. She sent me the link, I ordered it. Luckily it fit and looked great. (Sequence, BTW)

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of girls in sequins dresses on the FB feed so far.

Interesting - saw quite a few sequins on friends' daughters in the Midwest this year but not locally in MoCo.

Sequins were in this year

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My daughter and all her friends wore short dresses, and they all wore mini-biker shorts underneath. NBD.

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I didn't expect to wake up to 4 pages!

My issue with the dresses is that they're just so boring. They're carbon copies of each other with absolutely nothing to them.

When you go to lulus.com or Revolve or ASOS or Anthro there are pages and pages of gorgeous mini dresses.... and they're all different. Meanwhile the girls all wear the most basic an boring solid colored slip dresses (or at least they did last year) My daughter wore a dress with a full skirt to winter formal last year and I think she was the only girl there not in a solid color slip dress and sneakers.

I know she can do her own thing (and she did last year) but I'm hoping that maybe the girls are getting bored of looking exactly the same year-after-year. Slip dress and sneakers. Slip dress and sneakers. Why even dress up if you're just wearing a uniform? What happened to personality or creativity? When I was young we all wore unique dresses.

I like that sequins are in. At least it's different.

Most people are followers. I find it hard to believe that everyone wore a unique dress when you were young -- maybe your friend group did, or maybe that's what you remember, but most people tend to stay in similar range. I'd say the only way to inspire creativity is to tell your girl to be the one who is willing to be different. Then she'll encourage those who are afraid to take more of a risk.

OP here. Yep, well I think she's going for unique. And completely out of left field she was asked by a boy who is about as popular as it gets (lacrosse star, etc). My daughter is pretty but also super brainy and artsy. This guy usually goes for the instagram-model, bikini picture-taking types. Not this year. It's funny. I think some boys mature with age and realize they can break the mold of what is expected of them too.

OP, you can't just lift the narrative of "She's All That" and pretend that it's your daughter's life story. Some of us were teens in the 90s and we remember this movie.

You win girl. I am cackling!!!!

And the fact that these supposed moms of teens are so invested in their kids lives or know all the cool things and people in their kids high schools is hilarious. Utterly clueless.

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Anonymous wrote:Hate those dresses - not age appropriate imo.

Part of me thinks that but then I remember I am now a middle age mom. I remember my parents telling me my outfit wasn’t appropriate as a teen.

My daughter has a standard uniform Windsor micro mini dress. The only variation between girls seems to be the color and if they are wearing shoes or sneakers.

We, the good girls, agreed with your mother. My brothers(the cool and the quiet) and their friends “said many things” about you. My 13yo DS says that girls like your DD don’t respect themselves(no, we’re not religious).

Ick it sound like your opinionated boy is going to be trying to get out of a SA charge by saying the girl provoked him with her mini skirt.

Your post says everything that is wrong with men. Glad you are raising a pig.

The problem is really trashy mothers like you. You cannot give the message to your girls that they should cultivate their mind and brain, but then allow them to dress like pole dancers.

There are many age and occasion appropriate clothes for girls, but, if they are deliberately dressing to be sexy, well then, people are going to look at them because they are sexy, and the opinion about them will be that they want sexual attention. That is all.

Mostly the girls who are dressing like this are coming from messed up families and they are fair game to many boys who are also from messed up families. The generally decent boys and girls may judge them but they stay far away from them. They won't touch these people with a nine-foot pole because who wants to deal with a dumpster fire?

Homecoming is an appropriate event to dress to be sexy. It's not visiting grandma in the old folks' home.

To me, this is the exact problem. Some parents want their 14 and 15 year old daughters to be "sexy". And there are those of us who want our girls to just be kids and enjoy their youth without learning to be sex objects at such an early age. I know some moms that take pride in "sexy" daughters. They actively push that image for their girls. Personally, I'd rather my DD learn to be comfortable in her own skin and gain confidence in her value independent of sexual desirability. We're in two different camps for sure.

NP here

A 14-15yr old are not kids. They are teens and are already past the coming of age. They are a few years away from full adulthood.

How about instead of saying moms want their teens to be sexy or other moms want their teens to be “kids” how about you just let the teens decide who they want to be and what dress they want to wear and even better, STOP JUDGING!!

Yes thank you! Let your teens decide their dress without mommy’s input. My god how controlling and judgmental are you all? This thread is embarrassing. Pitting young woman against each other based on an f’ing dress?

And the mom with the 13yr old boy slut shaming girls that wear shorter dresses and you admire him for it. He learned it from you so you must be a peach. Bet he will be the next Brock Turner. Congrats!

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my teenager is wearing a micro dress- she picked it out, she loves it and she is wearing high tops with it. She looks great!

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Anonymous wrote:As many parents are out there who judge girls for wearing very skimpy clothing, there are equal numbers of parents who judge their girls for *not* dressing up in whatever is fashionable or sexy.

It's lose-lose if you are a girl. We don't do this to our boys.

This is just not true. EVERYONE is judged on how they look, including adults and children. If you wear a polished suit and present yourself professionally, you are given more deference than a disheveled person who cannot muster a clean appearance. Boys, likewise, are judged whether they are fat or thin, wearing designer clothes or tattered rags, or presenting too urban. If a boy came into class with baggy pants showing his underwear, gold chains, skinhead, goth gear, or any other trend, society at large would make assumptions about their education, class, and background.

I won't hire someone who cannot dress professional for in-person or zoom whether it be male or female. The idea that ONLY females are judged is such nonsense. It just so happens that females are the most likely of the two sexes to be dressed half naked, which makes this issue come up more often. I don't know any men who dress in short shorts, tank tops, or clothes with holes in it. No heels, makeup, plastic surgery lifts or implants. These trends are all female promoted by females.

I won't hire someone who can't use adverbs.

And I won’t hire someone who says things like “presenting too urban.”

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Anonymous wrote:my teenager is wearing a micro dress- she picked it out, she loves it and she is wearing high tops with it. She looks great!

My 9th grader did the same this past Saturday, including the high tops, and the 10 other girls she went with wore the same thing. She loved it, looked amazing, and had a great time. I am all for letting them own the look if they feel good about it.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter and all her friends wore short dresses, and they all wore mini-biker shorts underneath. NBD.

Same. Some bitter old biddies on this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter and all her friends wore short dresses, and they all wore mini-biker shorts underneath. NBD.

Same. Some bitter old biddies on this thread.

Or just moms who actually parent and care about the well-being and confidence of their girls? We don't pimp our girls out as pre-teens.

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Anonymous wrote:As many parents are out there who judge girls for wearing very skimpy clothing, there are equal numbers of parents who judge their girls for *not* dressing up in whatever is fashionable or sexy.

It's lose-lose if you are a girl. We don't do this to our boys.

This is just not true. EVERYONE is judged on how they look, including adults and children. If you wear a polished suit and present yourself professionally, you are given more deference than a disheveled person who cannot muster a clean appearance. Boys, likewise, are judged whether they are fat or thin, wearing designer clothes or tattered rags, or presenting too urban. If a boy came into class with baggy pants showing his underwear, gold chains, skinhead, goth gear, or any other trend, society at large would make assumptions about their education, class, and background.

I won't hire someone who cannot dress professional for in-person or zoom whether it be male or female. The idea that ONLY females are judged is such nonsense. It just so happens that females are the most likely of the two sexes to be dressed half naked, which makes this issue come up more often. I don't know any men who dress in short shorts, tank tops, or clothes with holes in it. No heels, makeup, plastic surgery lifts or implants. These trends are all female promoted by females.

I won't hire someone who can't use adverbs.

And I won’t hire someone who says things like “presenting too urban.”

Then you hire who you want. For myself, I prefer professionals who look and act like it. Business image is important and clients do judge. I'm not about to lose business because employees don't know how to dress in an office - particularly when client facing.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter and all her friends wore short dresses, and they all wore mini-biker shorts underneath. NBD.

Same. Some bitter old biddies on this thread.

Or just moms who actually parent and care about the well-being and confidence of their girls? We don't pimp our girls out as pre-teens.

These aren't preteens.
Nice how you slipped that word in. Accuracy isn't your strong suit.

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Anonymous wrote:As many parents are out there who judge girls for wearing very skimpy clothing, there are equal numbers of parents who judge their girls for *not* dressing up in whatever is fashionable or sexy.

It's lose-lose if you are a girl. We don't do this to our boys.

This is just not true. EVERYONE is judged on how they look, including adults and children. If you wear a polished suit and present yourself professionally, you are given more deference than a disheveled person who cannot muster a clean appearance. Boys, likewise, are judged whether they are fat or thin, wearing designer clothes or tattered rags, or presenting too urban. If a boy came into class with baggy pants showing his underwear, gold chains, skinhead, goth gear, or any other trend, society at large would make assumptions about their education, class, and background.

I won't hire someone who cannot dress professional for in-person or zoom whether it be male or female. The idea that ONLY females are judged is such nonsense. It just so happens that females are the most likely of the two sexes to be dressed half naked, which makes this issue come up more often. I don't know any men who dress in short shorts, tank tops, or clothes with holes in it. No heels, makeup, plastic surgery lifts or implants. These trends are all female promoted by females.

I won't hire someone who can't use adverbs.

And I won’t hire someone who says things like “presenting too urban.”

Then you hire who you want. For myself, I prefer professionals who look and act like it. Business image is important and clients do judge. I'm not about to lose business because employees don't know how to dress in an office - particularly when client facing.

These aren't employees, these are 15 year old girls going to prom.

They will have the rest of their lives to dress in a business dress code.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter and all her friends wore short dresses, and they all wore mini-biker shorts underneath. NBD.

Same. Some bitter old biddies on this thread.

Or just moms who actually parent and care about the well-being and confidence of their girls? We don't pimp our girls out as pre-teens.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter and all her friends wore short dresses, and they all wore mini-biker shorts underneath. NBD.

Same. Some bitter old biddies on this thread.

Or just moms who actually parent and care about the well-being and confidence of their girls? We don't pimp our girls out as pre-teens.

These aren't preteens.
Nice how you slipped that word in. Accuracy isn't your strong suit.

Got it. Pimping out girls as young teens is totally fine.