Family culture at the Heights?

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Anonymous wrote:We are seriously considering the Heights for our boys. We know a few families there, but not that many. We currently send our boys to a diocese school where there are some (not a ton) of well-to-do families that go to country clubs and fancy vacations. We definitely aren’t like that, we are a single income family and live a pretty modest lifestyle. Would we fit in there? Is it a school with tons of Uber wealthy families?

We are devout Catholics and very familiar with Opus Dei, please don’t feel the need to inform me of that.

You will fit in just fine! There are families at all ends of the spectrum wealth wise and the beautiful thing about the school is how welcoming, inclusive and gracious everyone is. Many families strive to live according to their beliefs and there is no room for pretentiousness. Before becoming a part of the community years ago, I came across these boards and was frankly really concerned. But the commenters who are haters have no actual firsthand knowledge of the school and our experience has been phenomenal and we aren't even catholic! The school really promotes an atmosphere of fellowship and the community, so much so, it is palpable. These boards are so laughable now and it's the same haters that seek to tank the school's reputation based on their own agendas. Let them think what they want. From what I've heard of late, it's actually pretty difficult to get into, so obviously they aren't hurting for applicants!

Thank you for your thoughtful insight! -OP

I heard some boys were waitlisted last year due to so many siblings and sons of teachers coming in the grade, so I’m a little nervous!-OP

[Anonymous]

I'm having a horrible reaction here. Opus Dei. All male. Only male teachers. Predominantly male authors studied. Ugh! What happens to the sisters of these boys? Are they taught to be subservient? Do they also attend private schools, or are public schools "good enough for THEM."

Opus Dei was founded by Josemaria Escriva, who stated, "Women needn’t be scholars—it’s enough for them to be prudent." Also: "That is why I am not afraid to say that women are responsible for eighty percent of the infidelities of their husbands because they do not know how to win them each day and take loving and considerate care of them."

I grew up as the only girl in an Opus Dei family with many sons. The boys went to expensive private schools and were provided with cars. My parents covered their university education. I went to public school and was on my own for college.

My job was to help look after my brothers. I was expected to cook and clean, while my brothers did no chores. From the time I was seven years old, I was told I would "have to leave school and look after the boys" if anything happened to my mother.

Please think about your daughters before considering a school like this.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm having a horrible reaction here. Opus Dei. All male. Only male teachers. Predominantly male authors studied. Ugh! What happens to the sisters of these boys? Are they taught to be subservient? Do they also attend private schools, or are public schools "good enough for THEM."

Opus Dei was founded by Josemaria Escriva, who stated, "Women needn’t be scholars—it’s enough for them to be prudent." Also: "That is why I am not afraid to say that women are responsible for eighty percent of the infidelities of their husbands because they do not know how to win them each day and take loving and considerate care of them."

I grew up as the only girl in an Opus Dei family with many sons. The boys went to expensive private schools and were provided with cars. My parents covered their university education. I went to public school and was on my own for college.

My job was to help look after my brothers. I was expected to cook and clean, while my brothers did no chores. From the time I was seven years old, I was told I would "have to leave school and look after the boys" if anything happened to my mother.

Please think about your daughters before considering a school like this.

I get that you had a bad experience with your family, but that doesn’t mean the things you were brought up with reflect what boys at the Heights are taught. That doesn’t match my experience with the school thus far at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Do they teach real science at The Heights or Catholic science?

https://heightsforum.org/series_title/science-education-initiative/

Wow. It’s worse than I thought.

Uh, no

Because when an Opus Dei affiliated Catholic school claims to want to "reinvent" the way science is taught to kids, it's clearly because they want to double down on scientific rigor and objective analysis.

Yeah, science at The Heights relies on antiquated superstitions like “biological sex” instead of “gender assigned at birth”.

What’s worse, The Heights teaches that math involves correct (and incorrect) answers—they don’t even believe that “math is racist”!

One shudders at the thought of White, Christian, hetero, cis-gendered males memorizing classic poetry and engaging in sovereign learning instead of flogging themselves for their racial guilt and waving rainbow flags.

Oh, the humanity!

Would they ever read a poem by Toni Morrison? or is it all "classic" white, male authors?

For real. Why not recite Toni Morrison? Racists. They should also recite porno scenes to be more welcoming of our LGBTQ community. My child’s school ought to recite Karl Marx

You're equating Toni Morrison with porn?

Wow, the Heights really is racist.

Well that was a dumb leap, PP. Do you even know that actually Toni Morrison is Catholic???

And still, The Heights prefers to have their students read material written by "White, Christian, hetero, cis-gendered males " rather than a POC Catholic woman.

You have no idea what they read and are just making stereotypical assumptions. They have a heavy classics focus but read modern literature too.

https://heights.edu/parents/summer-assignments/summer-reading/

I'm reading through the 12th grade reading list, and sure enough.. it's all white males. Thanks for proving that point.

I think I saw one female author in 11th grade and one in 10th.

The Summer Reading List does include several female authors on the sixth and seventh grade lists, probably reflecting the abundance of female writers of Young Adult Literature.

There is another Heights booklist, which is used for extra credit. I believe that all of Jane Austen's works are featured. Booker T. Washington is on the list. I recommend adding Willa Cather, Flannery O'Connor, and Sigrid Undset, who are frequently found on Catholic booklists (even though Cather was not Catholic). For the European History summer list, I recommend Princeton historians Natalie Davis and William Jordan (who received an honorary doctorate from Catholic University last year).

There are plenty of books written by POC or women that would be good for the upper grades, but the Heights has decided that books by white, male cisgender men are the only ones that the upper grade students should read.

LMAO every thread about The Heights ends with a bunch of white liberal women thinking somehow people at the school might give a sh-t about their opinions.

So true! and they are so ignorant. But we have to pile on and virtue signal even though we don't have a clue what we are talking about - because we are liberal and judgmental?

FWIW our kid went there. We were non-Catholic. It's a great school and teaches fundamental reading and writing - skills you don't get in many other schools today. The families are lovely. We liked the values. Imagine that! And kid turned out very very well.

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Anonymous wrote:Do they teach real science at The Heights or Catholic science?

https://heightsforum.org/series_title/science-education-initiative/

Wow. It’s worse than I thought.

Uh, no

Because when an Opus Dei affiliated Catholic school claims to want to "reinvent" the way science is taught to kids, it's clearly because they want to double down on scientific rigor and objective analysis.

Yeah, science at The Heights relies on antiquated superstitions like “biological sex” instead of “gender assigned at birth”.

What’s worse, The Heights teaches that math involves correct (and incorrect) answers—they don’t even believe that “math is racist”!

One shudders at the thought of White, Christian, hetero, cis-gendered males memorizing classic poetry and engaging in sovereign learning instead of flogging themselves for their racial guilt and waving rainbow flags.

Oh, the humanity!

Would they ever read a poem by Toni Morrison? or is it all "classic" white, male authors?

For real. Why not recite Toni Morrison? Racists. They should also recite porno scenes to be more welcoming of our LGBTQ community. My child’s school ought to recite Karl Marx

You're equating Toni Morrison with porn?

Wow, the Heights really is racist.

Well that was a dumb leap, PP. Do you even know that actually Toni Morrison is Catholic???

And still, The Heights prefers to have their students read material written by "White, Christian, hetero, cis-gendered males " rather than a POC Catholic woman.

You have no idea what they read and are just making stereotypical assumptions. They have a heavy classics focus but read modern literature too.

https://heights.edu/parents/summer-assignments/summer-reading/

I'm reading through the 12th grade reading list, and sure enough.. it's all white males. Thanks for proving that point.

I think I saw one female author in 11th grade and one in 10th.

It's not all white male authors. I am a liberal atheist and think it looks like a great list.

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I am suspicious if Opus Dei. Perhaps the Americanized version is better than the original, but its founder, Josemaria Escriva, had some very unhealthy ideas about corporal mortification and the subjection of women.

https://www.opus-info.org/index.php/Opus_Dei_info:FAQ

Scroll down to the parts "What is the role of women in the Opus Dei ideology?" and "What kind of person was Josemaria Escriva?"

These are NOT ideas I would want my sons to pick up on or my daughters to be exposed to.

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Anonymous wrote:I am suspicious if Opus Dei. Perhaps the Americanized version is better than the original, but its founder, Josemaria Escriva, had some very unhealthy ideas about corporal mortification and the subjection of women.

https://www.opus-info.org/index.php/Opus_Dei_info:FAQ

Scroll down to the parts "What is the role of women in the Opus Dei ideology?" and "What kind of person was Josemaria Escriva?"

These are NOT ideas I would want my sons to pick up on or my daughters to be exposed to.

And I’m “suspicious” of the people who run the government schools and most of the private schools as well. Most of them have very unhealthy ideas about genital mutilation and sterilizing children.

Scroll down to the part about “critical race theory” and “What’s the matter with White people?”

These are NOT ideas I would want my sons to pick up on or my daughters to be exposed to.

(See how this works? Chose a school that’s right for you.)

Christ is King.

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Anonymous wrote:I am suspicious if Opus Dei. Perhaps the Americanized version is better than the original, but its founder, Josemaria Escriva, had some very unhealthy ideas about corporal mortification and the subjection of women.

https://www.opus-info.org/index.php/Opus_Dei_info:FAQ

Scroll down to the parts "What is the role of women in the Opus Dei ideology?" and "What kind of person was Josemaria Escriva?"

These are NOT ideas I would want my sons to pick up on or my daughters to be exposed to.

Indeed! Normal Catholics know Opus Del is for extremist weirdos.

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Anonymous wrote:I am suspicious if Opus Dei. Perhaps the Americanized version is better than the original, but its founder, Josemaria Escriva, had some very unhealthy ideas about corporal mortification and the subjection of women.

https://www.opus-info.org/index.php/Opus_Dei_info:FAQ

Scroll down to the parts "What is the role of women in the Opus Dei ideology?" and "What kind of person was Josemaria Escriva?"

These are NOT ideas I would want my sons to pick up on or my daughters to be exposed to.

Indeed! Normal Catholics know Opus Del is for extremist weirdos.

If you don’t like the school, don’t send your kids there. But from my experience, they do a good job teaching boys who become men who are respectful of women. I’m honestly not seeing that in our local public school. You do you.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm having a horrible reaction here. Opus Dei. All male. Only male teachers. Predominantly male authors studied. Ugh! What happens to the sisters of these boys? Are they taught to be subservient? Do they also attend private schools, or are public schools "good enough for THEM."

Opus Dei was founded by Josemaria Escriva, who stated, "Women needn’t be scholars—it’s enough for them to be prudent." Also: "That is why I am not afraid to say that women are responsible for eighty percent of the infidelities of their husbands because they do not know how to win them each day and take loving and considerate care of them."

I grew up as the only girl in an Opus Dei family with many sons. The boys went to expensive private schools and were provided with cars. My parents covered their university education. I went to public school and was on my own for college.

My job was to help look after my brothers. I was expected to cook and clean, while my brothers did no chores. From the time I was seven years old, I was told I would "have to leave school and look after the boys" if anything happened to my mother.

Please think about your daughters before considering a school like this.

Bahahahaha! Nice try! Many Opus Dei families send their girls to Oakcrest at a whopping 30k per year and push academics so they can get into the equivalent of their “Catholic ivys”. From there, they chose what they want- a career, family or both. Isn’t that what feminism is about? Choice?

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ULTRA CONSERVATIVE.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm having a horrible reaction here. Opus Dei. All male. Only male teachers. Predominantly male authors studied. Ugh! What happens to the sisters of these boys? Are they taught to be subservient? Do they also attend private schools, or are public schools "good enough for THEM."

Opus Dei was founded by Josemaria Escriva, who stated, "Women needn’t be scholars—it’s enough for them to be prudent." Also: "That is why I am not afraid to say that women are responsible for eighty percent of the infidelities of their husbands because they do not know how to win them each day and take loving and considerate care of them."

I grew up as the only girl in an Opus Dei family with many sons. The boys went to expensive private schools and were provided with cars. My parents covered their university education. I went to public school and was on my own for college.

My job was to help look after my brothers. I was expected to cook and clean, while my brothers did no chores. From the time I was seven years old, I was told I would "have to leave school and look after the boys" if anything happened to my mother.

Please think about your daughters before considering a school like this.

Bahahahaha! Nice try! Many Opus Dei families send their girls to Oakcrest at a whopping 30k per year and push academics so they can get into the equivalent of their “Catholic ivys”. From there, they chose what they want- a career, family or both. Isn’t that what feminism is about? Choice?

One poster here mentioned her son's school (The Heights) was much better than her daughter's PUBLIC school. How is that not male privilege? Private school for the dauphin. Public school for the girls, who obviously aren't worth that investment.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm having a horrible reaction here. Opus Dei. All male. Only male teachers. Predominantly male authors studied. Ugh! What happens to the sisters of these boys? Are they taught to be subservient? Do they also attend private schools, or are public schools "good enough for THEM."

Opus Dei was founded by Josemaria Escriva, who stated, "Women needn’t be scholars—it’s enough for them to be prudent." Also: "That is why I am not afraid to say that women are responsible for eighty percent of the infidelities of their husbands because they do not know how to win them each day and take loving and considerate care of them."

I grew up as the only girl in an Opus Dei family with many sons. The boys went to expensive private schools and were provided with cars. My parents covered their university education. I went to public school and was on my own for college.

My job was to help look after my brothers. I was expected to cook and clean, while my brothers did no chores. From the time I was seven years old, I was told I would "have to leave school and look after the boys" if anything happened to my mother.

Please think about your daughters before considering a school like this.

Bahahahaha! Nice try! Many Opus Dei families send their girls to Oakcrest at a whopping 30k per year and push academics so they can get into the equivalent of their “Catholic ivys”. From there, they chose what they want- a career, family or both. Isn’t that what feminism is about? Choice?

One poster here mentioned her son's school (The Heights) was much better than her daughter's PUBLIC school. How is that not male privilege? Private school for the dauphin. Public school for the girls, who obviously aren't worth that investment.

Oh brother. Not EVERYTHING is about privilege and entitled. It's about choice. Some people CHOOSE private. Some CHOOSE public. Some do both, like we did. And FWIW there is a sister school to The Heights called Oakwood. So, yes, the girls go there for THEIR private education because their parents CHOSE it. Imagine that. You aren't against freedom of choice are you?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm having a horrible reaction here. Opus Dei. All male. Only male teachers. Predominantly male authors studied. Ugh! What happens to the sisters of these boys? Are they taught to be subservient? Do they also attend private schools, or are public schools "good enough for THEM."

Opus Dei was founded by Josemaria Escriva, who stated, "Women needn’t be scholars—it’s enough for them to be prudent." Also: "That is why I am not afraid to say that women are responsible for eighty percent of the infidelities of their husbands because they do not know how to win them each day and take loving and considerate care of them."

I grew up as the only girl in an Opus Dei family with many sons. The boys went to expensive private schools and were provided with cars. My parents covered their university education. I went to public school and was on my own for college.

My job was to help look after my brothers. I was expected to cook and clean, while my brothers did no chores. From the time I was seven years old, I was told I would "have to leave school and look after the boys" if anything happened to my mother.

Please think about your daughters before considering a school like this.

Bahahahaha! Nice try! Many Opus Dei families send their girls to Oakcrest at a whopping 30k per year and push academics so they can get into the equivalent of their “Catholic ivys”. From there, they chose what they want- a career, family or both. Isn’t that what feminism is about? Choice?

One poster here mentioned her son's school (The Heights) was much better than her daughter's PUBLIC school. How is that not male privilege? Private school for the dauphin. Public school for the girls, who obviously aren't worth that investment.

I’m not seeing that post. Can you share the one you are talakknf about?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm having a horrible reaction here. Opus Dei. All male. Only male teachers. Predominantly male authors studied. Ugh! What happens to the sisters of these boys? Are they taught to be subservient? Do they also attend private schools, or are public schools "good enough for THEM."

Opus Dei was founded by Josemaria Escriva, who stated, "Women needn’t be scholars—it’s enough for them to be prudent." Also: "That is why I am not afraid to say that women are responsible for eighty percent of the infidelities of their husbands because they do not know how to win them each day and take loving and considerate care of them."

I grew up as the only girl in an Opus Dei family with many sons. The boys went to expensive private schools and were provided with cars. My parents covered their university education. I went to public school and was on my own for college.

My job was to help look after my brothers. I was expected to cook and clean, while my brothers did no chores. From the time I was seven years old, I was told I would "have to leave school and look after the boys" if anything happened to my mother.

Please think about your daughters before considering a school like this.

Bahahahaha! Nice try! Many Opus Dei families send their girls to Oakcrest at a whopping 30k per year and push academics so they can get into the equivalent of their “Catholic ivys”. From there, they chose what they want- a career, family or both. Isn’t that what feminism is about? Choice?

One poster here mentioned her son's school (The Heights) was much better than her daughter's PUBLIC school. How is that not male privilege? Private school for the dauphin. Public school for the girls, who obviously aren't worth that investment.

I’m not seeing that post. Can you share the one you are talakknf about?

I haven’t seen that post either.

But I came from a family where my parents sent my brother and I to public school and sent my sisters to private schools, because they couldn’t afford to send all of us. That doesn’t mean they loved their sons any less.