I cannot believe there are still people out there spanking their children...

Anonymous
I think hitting/spanking your kids is just lazy parenting.

Do better as a parent and actually take charge in being the grownup in the situation. Say "no," take stuff away, ground them, hell... even shame them. Shaming is so much more productive than hitting, imho.
Anonymous
spanking is clearly on the decline.
'why has it been decreasing for the past decades? There's no clear answer regarding this dramatic drop. Some experts believe it's a generational change, as humans increasingly reject any form of domestic violence, according to CNN. Others point to the influence of popular culture, with television stars such as "Supernanny" emphatically saying spanking does not help and should never be used. There has also been a constant trickle of studies showing the dangers of spanking, which can result in kids with increased aggression, depression, suicidal behavior, substance abuse and even changes in the brain.'

https://health.howstuffworks.com/pregnancy-and-parenting/spanking-decline.htm
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Spanking is so trashy. The only parents I know who talk about giving their kids a “good seat to the behind” cite the Bible in their parenting and are conservative. I don’t know anyone well educated and financially comfortable who resorts to this. We have other ways of instilling values in our children that don’t involve violence.


+1 absolutely trashy and low class. Associated with shitty parents who are poor and desperate and not yet mature adults themselves.


Trashy and shitty are not synonymous with poor.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I think hitting/spanking your kids is just lazy parenting.

Do better as a parent and actually take charge in being the grownup in the situation. Say "no," take stuff away, ground them, hell... even shame them. Shaming is so much more productive than hitting, imho.


I totally disagree with you, from my own perspective on experiencing both shame and spanking.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:“ they NEVER forget it. The hurt and rejection it puts into their hearts will be something they tell a caregiver about when they are dying 70 years later. It will be something that they understand drove much of the unhappiness in their lives and in their adult relationships and which troubled their own experience of parenting because raising kids makes them fully understand how badly they were treated.”

Sorry, but this is simply absurd.


+1 Rosebud....
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Spanking is so trashy. The only parents I know who talk about giving their kids a “good seat to the behind” cite the Bible in their parenting and are conservative. I don’t know anyone well educated and financially comfortable who resorts to this. We have other ways of instilling values in our children that don’t involve violence.


+1 absolutely trashy and low class. Associated with shitty parents who are poor and desperate and not yet mature adults themselves.


Trashy and shitty are not synonymous with poor.


no one said it was.
I'm UMC and i have never met a single parent who thinks it's ok to spank their kid. It is absolutely correlated in my mind and i think in most people I know's minds with being ill educated, desperate and having poor emotional self regulation or untreated mental health issues.
Anonymous
I think it will continue to decline with millennial and gen z parents. Most of the parents on here pro spanking are almost certainly boomers, old gen x, lower income or rural/ religious. I'd be shocked to hear from a millennial/ college ed gen z parent that they spank.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Spanking is so trashy. The only parents I know who talk about giving their kids a “good seat to the behind” cite the Bible in their parenting and are conservative. I don’t know anyone well educated and financially comfortable who resorts to this. We have other ways of instilling values in our children that don’t involve violence.


+1 absolutely trashy and low class. Associated with shitty parents who are poor and desperate and not yet mature adults themselves.


Trashy and shitty are not synonymous with poor.


no one said it was.
I'm UMC and i have never met a single parent who thinks it's ok to spank their kid. It is absolutely correlated in my mind and i think in most people I know's minds with being ill educated, desperate and having poor emotional self regulation or untreated mental health issues.


The PP said it was.
Anonymous
94 percent.

“ Even as several western European countries have outlawed spanking, surveys suggest 94 percent of American parents spank their children by the time they are three or four years old, although that number hides great variability in the regularity and severity of the punishment, as well as the context in which the punishment is delivered.”

https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/politics/2002/06/26/study-harm-outweighs-benefits-of-spanking/0f72fe3e-d49e-4a04-993c-d0934a1df286/
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Spanking is so trashy. The only parents I know who talk about giving their kids a “good seat to the behind” cite the Bible in their parenting and are conservative. I don’t know anyone well educated and financially comfortable who resorts to this. We have other ways of instilling values in our children that don’t involve violence.


+1 absolutely trashy and low class. Associated with shitty parents who are poor and desperate and not yet mature adults themselves.


Trashy and shitty are not synonymous with poor.


no one said it was.
I'm UMC and i have never met a single parent who thinks it's ok to spank their kid. It is absolutely correlated in my mind and i think in most people I know's minds with being ill educated, desperate and having poor emotional self regulation or untreated mental health issues.


Absolute +1
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:94 percent.

“ Even as several western European countries have outlawed spanking, surveys suggest 94 percent of American parents spank their children by the time they are three or four years old, although that number hides great variability in the regularity and severity of the punishment, as well as the context in which the punishment is delivered.”

https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/politics/2002/06/26/study-harm-outweighs-benefits-of-spanking/0f72fe3e-d49e-4a04-993c-d0934a1df286/


This article is from 2002, are you an idiot?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Do these people also beat their dogs?
I feel like if you hit a dog it’s illegal right? But not a kid?


Yes, you can hit your dog. You can actually put a shock collar or training collar on your dog. Have you ever trained a big dog such as a Rotweiller, Cane Corso, etc. And, WTF are you talking about and comparing a child to a dog. Weirdo
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I think it will continue to decline with millennial and gen z parents. Most of the parents on here pro spanking are almost certainly boomers, old gen x, lower income or rural/ religious. I'd be shocked to hear from a millennial/ college ed gen z parent that they spank.


No. Millennials have actually shown higher approval rates for spanking than the older generations did.

—Millennial parent who has spanked

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2015/03/05/millennials-like-to-spank-their-kids-just-as-much-as-their-parents-did/
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:94 percent.

“ Even as several western European countries have outlawed spanking, surveys suggest 94 percent of American parents spank their children by the time they are three or four years old, although that number hides great variability in the regularity and severity of the punishment, as well as the context in which the punishment is delivered.”

https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/politics/2002/06/26/study-harm-outweighs-benefits-of-spanking/0f72fe3e-d49e-4a04-993c-d0934a1df286/


This article is over 20 years old. It has no relevance to young children today, or to your children’s peers…if you are UMC and spank your children, you are an absolute outlier
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:spanking is clearly on the decline.
'why has it been decreasing for the past decades? There's no clear answer regarding this dramatic drop. Some experts believe it's a generational change, as humans increasingly reject any form of domestic violence, according to CNN. Others point to the influence of popular culture, with television stars such as "Supernanny" emphatically saying spanking does not help and should never be used. There has also been a constant trickle of studies showing the dangers of spanking, which can result in kids with increased aggression, depression, suicidal behavior, substance abuse and even changes in the brain.'

https://health.howstuffworks.com/pregnancy-and-parenting/spanking-decline.htm


And totally coincidentally, behavior in children and teens is worse. As are anxiety, depression, suicide.

Parents are patting themselves on the back for not spanking. And the result is ... not good.
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