My Karen-Old-Lady take on short shorts

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Anonymous wrote:Let them flaunt their body while they are in their prime.
I did not (and I used to have a great body), and I regret it.

My sister had an incredible body as a teen, early 20s. She and her friends used to go to clubs starting around 16 years old. She always won best legs contests. She hooked up with famous guys she met at clubs. Cars would stop on the street asking us if we wanted rides. Not the attention you want for your teen daughter.

You probably don’t mean to flaunt it, more like looking good, highlighted by show off in a discreet way, not cheap looking. It can be really annoying and sometimes scary drawing this attention to yourself because guys will see it a mile away.

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I'm 57. The only women or girls I knew in my South Texas city who had butt cheeks hanging out were actual prostitutes who worked the stretch of cheap motels along the road that leads out of town.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Let them flaunt their body while they are in their prime.
I did not (and I used to have a great body), and I regret it.

My sister had an incredible body as a teen, early 20s. She and her friends used to go to clubs starting around 16 years old. She always won best legs contests. She hooked up with famous guys she met at clubs. Cars would stop on the street asking us if we wanted rides. Not the attention you want for your teen daughter.

You probably don’t mean to flaunt it, more like looking good, highlighted by show off in a discreet way, not cheap looking. It can be really annoying and sometimes scary drawing this attention to yourself because guys will see it a mile away.

I tried to make a similar aguement, but according to a previous poster girls and women get harassed anyway so it doesn't matter what they wear.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but it looks terrible. On their own time, in social settings, I dgaf what they wear, but I hire teens to work at my business and a lot of the girls show up for work in our company t-shirt and, apparently, nothing on the bottom. I can't say anything because I don't want to be accused of body shaming, but it's unprofessional and doesn't represent my brand well, and I really really hate this god-awful trend.

If they work for your business, you have every right to have them wear long pants or have a dress code. That is not "body shaming." It's really weird that you have not instituted a dress code rule. Every job I had as a teenager or young adult had a dress code for this very reason. Usually it was no shorts or jeans.

With that said, I really don't care what the kids wear to school. When they go to work, they need to wear what the job requires.

Would love to do that, but what would I say exactly that wouldn't come across as body shaming and sexist? We work outside and need to be comfortable, so long pants are out of the question in summer. So what would our dress code say that wouldn't focus on covering up women's bodies?

Everyone wears a non-graphic crew neck tshirt that has sleeves to just above the elbow and is long enough to cover the waist band of their almost knee length shorts. The skin showing is from the neck up, sleeves down and knees and below. No vnecks, no tank tops, no crop tops. No skirts or dresses. So what you want with your hair and shoes. Dress code applies to everyone.

Knee length shorts?? Shirts that come to the elbows and crew-necks to boot? Have you ever done physical labor outside in 100+ degrees? We'd all die. Tanks are fine - even I wear them sometimes, and I could live with a crop top and even a little cleavage. It's just that awful look where it's like they just got out of bed and aren't dressed yet and have no pants on under the t-shirt. It's wildly inappropriate in a way that isn't really about exposure, so much as just looking like you're not dressed in the first place. Thank god no one has shown up yet with their butt cheeks hanging out or a sheet white shirt with no bra (that's apparently a thing now too) - I'd probably just lay them off or something, without saying why.

[Anonymous]

PP above I meant sheer white shirt - I've seen this a few times lately and it's kind of horrifying. Not just an ordinary tee, but a really thin, see-through material, and then no bra, in a way that is clearly not accidental.

[Anonymous]

I teach at an all girls school. I hate it too. I mostly hate it because I accidentally see butt cheeks and know some creep somewhere is getting off on it.

[Anonymous]

Funny enough, the teens in our west coast city are suddenly wearing long baggy shorts. Like cargos and baggy jean shorts. All low rise with a tiny shirt but….seems the fashion on that has changed quite suddenly

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but it looks terrible. On their own time, in social settings, I dgaf what they wear, but I hire teens to work at my business and a lot of the girls show up for work in our company t-shirt and, apparently, nothing on the bottom. I can't say anything because I don't want to be accused of body shaming, but it's unprofessional and doesn't represent my brand well, and I really really hate this god-awful trend.

If they work for your business, you have every right to have them wear long pants or have a dress code. That is not "body shaming." It's really weird that you have not instituted a dress code rule. Every job I had as a teenager or young adult had a dress code for this very reason. Usually it was no shorts or jeans.

With that said, I really don't care what the kids wear to school. When they go to work, they need to wear what the job requires.

Would love to do that, but what would I say exactly that wouldn't come across as body shaming and sexist? We work outside and need to be comfortable, so long pants are out of the question in summer. So what would our dress code say that wouldn't focus on covering up women's bodies?

Everyone wears a non-graphic crew neck tshirt that has sleeves to just above the elbow and is long enough to cover the waist band of their almost knee length shorts. The skin showing is from the neck up, sleeves down and knees and below. No vnecks, no tank tops, no crop tops. No skirts or dresses. So what you want with your hair and shoes. Dress code applies to everyone.

Knee length shorts?? Shirts that come to the elbows and crew-necks to boot? Have you ever done physical labor outside in 100+ degrees? We'd all die. Tanks are fine - even I wear them sometimes, and I could live with a crop top and even a little cleavage. It's just that awful look where it's like they just got out of bed and aren't dressed yet and have no pants on under the t-shirt. It's wildly inappropriate in a way that isn't really about exposure, so much as just looking like you're not dressed in the first place. Thank god no one has shown up yet with their butt cheeks hanging out or a sheet white shirt with no bra (that's apparently a thing now too) - I'd probably just lay them off or something, without saying why.

So funny that people here equate less clothing with being cooler in the hot sun. Loose natural layers are much better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I teach at an all girls school. I hate it too. I mostly hate it because I accidentally see butt cheeks and know some creep somewhere is getting off on it.

yep and I refuse to encourage my teens to wear clothing that may draw a pervert's attention. Yes, it's the fault of the gross human preying on the child, but if they are preying on kids, I don't think shaming them by saying they shouldn't be looking and my kid deserves to wear what they feel comfy in means much to the gross adults.

[Anonymous]

I've been traveling in Europe for the last few weeks. I must admit there is something startling about a young woman wearing super short shorts, because she is often quite heavy too and has enormous pasty thighs, and which is plastered with the most random tattoos.

I really am not quite sure how this ever became an accepted look. The tattoos are the garish and awful cherry on an unpleasant appearance.

Speaking of which, why do people get the most random tattoos? I saw one the other day of an half avocado. I've seen coffee cups. I've seen vegetables. My.

[Anonymous]

Wear whatever you want. Seriously. But have some self awareness. Don’t wear short shots, go commando (?) to a grad party, and spend 5 mins bent over to write a novel-length dedication in the grad memory book such that I have to hustle over and stand behind you for the sake of God and country,

[Anonymous]

I just don't want to sit on a surface that someone wearing those shorts was just sitting on. Nasty.

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I don't get it either. Why do we need to see all that? Leaving a bit to mystery is a good thing. Parents need to teach their children this. You can still look good/be trendy without looking like you're going to the club. Classy, not trashy, Larla.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wear whatever you want. Seriously. But have some self awareness. Don’t wear short shots, go commando (?) to a grad party, and spend 5 mins bent over to write a novel-length dedication in the grad memory book such that I have to hustle over and stand behind you for the sake of God and country,

This is gold!

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Anonymous wrote:I strongly dislike teenagers younger than 18 wearing tiny short shorts that make it look like they are not wearing pants when their shirts are hiding their shorts.

It looks so tacky and unrefined. 16 year olds are not supposed to look like they’re almost naked!

I'm in my 50s and this is exactly what we wore in the early 80s. Stuff got baggier soon after but for awhile, it was tiny rolled up jean shorts. Or the 70s jogging shorts like Farah Fawcett.

Celebrities wear all sorts of things for attention. Lady Gaga wore a meat dress, doesn’t mean it was typical or appropriate attire.