What are the most common ways women waste their 20s?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pretending for a moment this is not another incel thread.
What makes any of you think your dating advice from 20 to 40 years ago is at all relevant to women 25 and younger?

Actually first few post of this thread are whatever one would classify as women incels. The basics are the same - problems around sexual relationship with hostility to the opposite sex.

Those are called insols.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are both 24, been together for 2 years, both working, one going to grad school next year. Should you insist on engagement before moving with him to new town or wait until he finishes school?

Elope. 9 months is the avg time before marriage, 24 months is more than enough time. Elope.

I was dropping any man who didn't propose within a year. Had 3 serious relationships like that (but never moved in). God married at 26 to #4.

[Anonymous]

1) Education. Spend your valuable time in building up your educational and career credentials.

2) Self-care. Get the mental therapy, the laser treatment, the makeover, fix your teeth/skin/hair, exercise and become fit.

3) Be accessible not Easy. Date extensively and don't say "no" to anyone when they ask you out, at least for the 1 date. Do not have sex until your 8th date at the very minimum or for 3 months. Yes, that will eliminate the men who only want to use you. Pay for your share of the date. Go in your own car. Protect your health, safety, reputation, heart and wallet.

4) Organize mixers, get togethers, meet ups, reunions. You need to cast a wider net and expand your circle. After that, you need to nurture your expanding social circle too.

5) Make sure you have an event or two to go to every weekend. Check out the museum, check out the new play, attend a party, take a pottery class. If a prospective date calls you, you can invite them along. You need to surround yourself with people your age and be doing things. That way, you have never ever wasted a weekend (even if your date turned out a dud).

6) Travel a lot. Travel in groups.

7) Dress the part of the SES you want to belong to. Not in terms of expensive clothes, but in terms of style of clothing. Look well groomed and cute.

8) No to having pets. Yes, to pet-sitting occasionally.

9) Save your money and invest in retirement. You must understand what you are bringing to the table is a big factor in attracting the best spouse.

10) Be a warm and nice person. No one likes drama llama, gossipy or bittchy woman. Do not be an unpleasant person, do not be a doormat. Have goals for yourselves regarding education, HHI, career, health, social circle, hobbies - that you meet yourself.

11) Curate your Social Media. Make it inoffensive, innocuous, fun, varied, appropriate, PG-13 and interesting. Have a lag of a week before you post. Don't be posting your pics all the time. Make it mostly about places, things, activities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Marrying right after college is cool and smart. You should be in that mentality.

Sleeping around aka "dating" around is gross, unhealthy, and leads to mental despair.

Your laptop, PowerPoint, Excel, email job is not actually important.

Stop being an alcoholic.

Traveling is a time and money sink.

I bet you are exciting at parties, or actually, you are probably far too boring to attend them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1) Education. Spend your valuable time in building up your educational and career credentials.

2) Self-care. Get the mental therapy, the laser treatment, the makeover, fix your teeth/skin/hair, exercise and become fit.

3) Be accessible not Easy. Date extensively and don't say "no" to anyone when they ask you out, at least for the 1 date. Do not have sex until your 8th date at the very minimum or for 3 months. Yes, that will eliminate the men who only want to use you. Pay for your share of the date. Go in your own car. Protect your health, safety, reputation, heart and wallet.

4) Organize mixers, get togethers, meet ups, reunions. You need to cast a wider net and expand your circle. After that, you need to nurture your expanding social circle too.

5) Make sure you have an event or two to go to every weekend. Check out the museum, check out the new play, attend a party, take a pottery class. If a prospective date calls you, you can invite them along. You need to surround yourself with people your age and be doing things. That way, you have never ever wasted a weekend (even if your date turned out a dud).

6) Travel a lot. Travel in groups.

7) Dress the part of the SES you want to belong to. Not in terms of expensive clothes, but in terms of style of clothing. Look well groomed and cute.

8) No to having pets. Yes, to pet-sitting occasionally.

9) Save your money and invest in retirement. You must understand what you are bringing to the table is a big factor in attracting the best spouse.

10) Be a warm and nice person. No one likes drama llama, gossipy or bittchy woman. Do not be an unpleasant person, do not be a doormat. Have goals for yourselves regarding education, HHI, career, health, social circle, hobbies - that you meet yourself.

11) Curate your Social Media. Make it inoffensive, innocuous, fun, varied, appropriate, PG-13 and interesting. Have a lag of a week before you post. Don't be posting your pics all the time. Make it mostly about places, things, activities.

12) Date to marry. You do not need to sleep with anyone you do not feel you can marry.

13) If you are going to have sex, use condom and ask for a health checkup first.

14) Do not move in without an engagement ring.

15) Do not move in together if you are less than 32 yrs old.

16) Engagement should last between 9 -12 months. ie the time it takes to plan and execute a wedding.

17) Focus on getting married instead of having a large wedding.

18) "No relationship, no sex - if the end game is not marriage." You may think that this will repel men. You are mistaken.

If a career woman who is social, self-sufficient, career driven, well educated, making good $$$, good looking, dating extensively (accessible not easy) and in a well paying job has the above standard or condition - it will bring eager to marry, good catch men in droves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Marrying right after college is cool and smart. You should be in that mentality.

Sleeping around aka "dating" around is gross, unhealthy, and leads to mental despair.

Your laptop, PowerPoint, Excel, email job is not actually important.

Stop being an alcoholic.

Traveling is a time and money sink.

Definitely an incel thread now

[Anonymous]

Going to lots of other people's wedding-related events (not weddings themselves) and baby showers. Focus on your own life and career.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are both 24, been together for 2 years, both working, one going to grad school next year. Should you insist on engagement before moving with him to new town or wait until he finishes school?

Elope. 9 months is the avg time before marriage, 24 months is more than enough time. Elope.

I was dropping any man who didn't propose within a year. Had 3 serious relationships like that (but never moved in). God married at 26 to #4.

It sounds like you were basically willing to marry any man who asked, if you wanted to get engaged to four of them by the time you were 26! Were you not very picky, outside of wanting to be engaged?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1) Education. Spend your valuable time in building up your educational and career credentials.

2) Self-care. Get the mental therapy, the laser treatment, the makeover, fix your teeth/skin/hair, exercise and become fit.

3) Be accessible not Easy. Date extensively and don't say "no" to anyone when they ask you out, at least for the 1 date. Do not have sex until your 8th date at the very minimum or for 3 months. Yes, that will eliminate the men who only want to use you. Pay for your share of the date. Go in your own car. Protect your health, safety, reputation, heart and wallet.

4) Organize mixers, get togethers, meet ups, reunions. You need to cast a wider net and expand your circle. After that, you need to nurture your expanding social circle too.

5) Make sure you have an event or two to go to every weekend. Check out the museum, check out the new play, attend a party, take a pottery class. If a prospective date calls you, you can invite them along. You need to surround yourself with people your age and be doing things. That way, you have never ever wasted a weekend (even if your date turned out a dud).

6) Travel a lot. Travel in groups.

7) Dress the part of the SES you want to belong to. Not in terms of expensive clothes, but in terms of style of clothing. Look well groomed and cute.

8) No to having pets. Yes, to pet-sitting occasionally.

9) Save your money and invest in retirement. You must understand what you are bringing to the table is a big factor in attracting the best spouse.

10) Be a warm and nice person. No one likes drama llama, gossipy or bittchy woman. Do not be an unpleasant person, do not be a doormat. Have goals for yourselves regarding education, HHI, career, health, social circle, hobbies - that you meet yourself.

11) Curate your Social Media. Make it inoffensive, innocuous, fun, varied, appropriate, PG-13 and interesting. Have a lag of a week before you post. Don't be posting your pics all the time. Make it mostly about places, things, activities.

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[Anonymous]

I don't know, I spent my 20s in a 7-year relationship and in the end, we didn't get married (my choice at the time, but in retrospect, he is happy since he met someone much more compatible). I learned a lot about relationships and compromise in my "quasi-starter marriage" and we were able to travel together and grow together. I don't regret it. Once i turned 30, I realized it was time to get serious about a family, so I dated a lot, met DH at 32, we dated for a couple of years, got married, and I had my kids at ages 36 and 40.

I don't think there is one recipe for your 20s. You should follow your heart, explore the world, learn about yourself and others, and be kind and open to different outcomes. Marriage and kids are not the be all and end all in life, but if it's something you really want, then focus on finding it. If not, it's ok. Things will work out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know, I spent my 20s in a 7-year relationship and in the end, we didn't get married (my choice at the time, but in retrospect, he is happy since he met someone much more compatible). I learned a lot about relationships and compromise in my "quasi-starter marriage" and we were able to travel together and grow together. I don't regret it. Once i turned 30, I realized it was time to get serious about a family, so I dated a lot, met DH at 32, we dated for a couple of years, got married, and I had my kids at ages 36 and 40.

I don't think there is one recipe for your 20s. You should follow your heart, explore the world, learn about yourself and others, and be kind and open to different outcomes. Marriage and kids are not the be all and end all in life, but if it's something you really want, then focus on finding it. If not, it's ok. Things will work out.

It’s great this worked out for you. It’s just definitely harder to meet guys in your 30s than it is in your mid twenties. And usually harder to have kids in your late thirties than late twenties/early thirties. And before anyone calls me brunch granny, I swear I’m not! Just have to know the statistics associated with waiting or not making romantic decisions sooner. Certainly you had inklings you wouldn’t marry the starter guy sooner than seven years in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know, I spent my 20s in a 7-year relationship and in the end, we didn't get married (my choice at the time, but in retrospect, he is happy since he met someone much more compatible). I learned a lot about relationships and compromise in my "quasi-starter marriage" and we were able to travel together and grow together. I don't regret it. Once i turned 30, I realized it was time to get serious about a family, so I dated a lot, met DH at 32, we dated for a couple of years, got married, and I had my kids at ages 36 and 40.

I don't think there is one recipe for your 20s. You should follow your heart, explore the world, learn about yourself and others, and be kind and open to different outcomes. Marriage and kids are not the be all and end all in life, but if it's something you really want, then focus on finding it. If not, it's ok. Things will work out.

This. All of this. Thanks, PP.

[Anonymous]

If you’re still dating your binge drinking college BF two years post grad hoping they’ll grow out of it eventually, dump him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Things people should do in their 20s -
Save for retirement
Wear sunscreen
Find mentors at work and network outside your company
Not share your life on Instagram and TikTok
Go to therapy and work on any issues with your family

This is probably the best advice on this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) Education. Spend your valuable time in building up your educational and career credentials.

2) Self-care. Get the mental therapy, the laser treatment, the makeover, fix your teeth/skin/hair, exercise and become fit.

3) Be accessible not Easy. Date extensively and don't say "no" to anyone when they ask you out, at least for the 1 date. Do not have sex until your 8th date at the very minimum or for 3 months. Yes, that will eliminate the men who only want to use you. Pay for your share of the date. Go in your own car. Protect your health, safety, reputation, heart and wallet.

4) Organize mixers, get togethers, meet ups, reunions. You need to cast a wider net and expand your circle. After that, you need to nurture your expanding social circle too.

5) Make sure you have an event or two to go to every weekend. Check out the museum, check out the new play, attend a party, take a pottery class. If a prospective date calls you, you can invite them along. You need to surround yourself with people your age and be doing things. That way, you have never ever wasted a weekend (even if your date turned out a dud).

6) Travel a lot. Travel in groups.

7) Dress the part of the SES you want to belong to. Not in terms of expensive clothes, but in terms of style of clothing. Look well groomed and cute.

8) No to having pets. Yes, to pet-sitting occasionally.

9) Save your money and invest in retirement. You must understand what you are bringing to the table is a big factor in attracting the best spouse.

10) Be a warm and nice person. No one likes drama llama, gossipy or bittchy woman. Do not be an unpleasant person, do not be a doormat. Have goals for yourselves regarding education, HHI, career, health, social circle, hobbies - that you meet yourself.

11) Curate your Social Media. Make it inoffensive, innocuous, fun, varied, appropriate, PG-13 and interesting. Have a lag of a week before you post. Don't be posting your pics all the time. Make it mostly about places, things, activities.

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You can become Lorena Bobbitt. No need to kill.