I would be depressed if I was married to someone who vents to strangers how fat and lazy I am.
Put her out of her misery (i.e. leave). |
And they were never excel like a kid who had the benefit of attentive parenting. |
She isn't going to lose weight running like a hamster on the treadmill. Cardio is just busywork. Get her a PT to lift heavy stat. |
I wish OP's wife could see the PT who commented! |
My ex did that to me. Making fun of me but he is so insecure I ending up leaving him and now I’m thriving and happy to be single forever |
Imagine how depressed all the poor husbands would be if they knew what their wives said about them on DCUM Relationships. |
You learned all of this being a fitness coach? |
+1. I can give both perspectives. I have a very stressful job. When my kids were young I managed to keep this job on more flexible hours and still be home for them to cook, clean, volunteer, plan bday parties, and everything else SAHM’s do. When I wasn’t doing that, I was working at my stressful job. My youngest is now 11. Kids are more self sufficient so i now fill all of those extra hours with working more hours at my job. It never occurred to me not to. My DH is also working his butt off so why would I assume I’m entitled to more down time? And I work out intensely 4-5 days a week - literally at the crack of dawn since that is the only time i have. I’m so tired of listening to all of my SAHM friends whose kids are literally in high school complain about how overwhelmed and busy they are. Um. Really? |
I’m the PP above. Both my kids play travel sports. Somehow I still manage to work at my job, do domestic duties, work out and get kids to practices and games including traveling most weekends during season. Many of you are just lazy and looking for excuses not to work. |
Op, if all this is true then you can dump her. If she is educated then might not be eligible for spousal support.
It is horrible that your wife acts like this. |
I agree completely. Plus I find this OP so specific and miserly - he had to spell out they are paying $50!!!!! For the gym. And he doesn’t seem to realize that is quite inexpensive around here. Poor lady the distain is palpable |
Face it, work sucks. Why do you think it’s so hard to get people to come back to the office now? OP’s DW would never in a million years tolerate a complete role switch. And neither would 95% of the SAHPs on DCUM. Because, once the 1-2-3 kids are in school during the best part of every day, SAHPs are enjoying retirement on the backs of their spouses. So of course they wouldn’t change places. It’s like a master and slave changing places.
So WOHPs of school-age-and-older children be aware of your SAH spouses: you are being played, and the fact that you tolerate it breeds contempt, because people by human nature develop contempt for the people they mistreat (It helps them live with themselves.) |
Everyone is defending her. I do understand where she coming from because I’m in the same situation. I work 50 plus hours a week not including commute. I get home and the house is a mess yet my wife on the couch on her phone the two older kids on their computer or iPad while the one year old is playing with toys. Shell cook the same chicken rice and veggies nearly everyday. While the baby sleeps she says it’s her time to herself, goes to be late (1 am) to be on her phone. All while the kitchen is a mess. Then when we have company coming over she rushes to claim then complains that it’s a lot |
Dude, you revived a 2 year old zombie thread to b&tch about your wife. Get a life. |
Yes there is. She sounds lazy. Many of us who grew up before these conditions were diagnosed learned to adapt and be responsible adults. I have suffered from depression, and I probably have ADHD (ie my niece has been diagnosed and I am a lot like her), but I learned the hard way. When I was 18, I was not re-hired for a job due to my “laziness”. It was a huge wake up call. I am lucky that my parents did not enable and coddle me back then. |