Let's all come clean

[Anonymous]

OP, fun thread until people started admitting that they like to frighten their children into submission by using their children's deepest fears.

[Anonymous]

You can all ignore this or yell at me or whatever if you want, but it seems to me that one of the things we all liked about this thread was that it was so much more devoid of judgments and harshness than many of the others. Then, Mme. "Yuck" said something that seemed to a a lot of posters to be harsh and judgmental and name-calling. That was an opportunity to explain to "Yuck" why you thought her post took the wrong approach and tone, and explain what would have been more useful and appropriate -- thereby modeling the behavior you wished she'd demonstrated. But instead of modeling and teaching Yuck, the responders emulated her by using sarcasm, name-calling "sanctimommies," and throwing up hands in frustration.

We can enjoy and learn from and feel safe on every thread. Yuck either made a mistake or an intentional. Who knows? But either way, she's not going to learn to express herself in a kinder, more respectful way if you shout right back.

[Anonymous]

I don't think the problem was with yuck. I think the problem was that a mom here posted something that people thought sounded like child abuse.

So you can criticize Yuck for the way she expressed herself, or you can wonder why a mom thinks it's okay to admit anonymously that she threatens her child with something she's very scared of.

What would the experts think about that? What would Dr.Sears say? And don't you think there will be long-term affects on this young child?

I'm not coming back to this board, so feel free to flame me all you want.

To yuck: I agree with you. It's not pretty to think that a mom is doing this to her child. And thinks it's funny.

[Anonymous]

I never listen to any of the "experts" about child rearing. I go with my gut, and while it has caused a problem here and there, it has pretty much worked well. I am often asked to classify my parenting style, but it's my own. Sometimes I feel a bit guilty that I don't fit in a box with my parenting style.

[Anonymous]

Wow-this was such a great thread. I sent it to a friend, read the posts to my husband....I would have thought after reading the posts, that a poster wouldn't write or interject comments that creates more guilt for us. It's disappointing that this happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think the problem was with yuck. I think the problem was that a mom here posted something that people thought sounded like child abuse.

So you can criticize Yuck for the way she expressed herself, or you can wonder why a mom thinks it's okay to admit anonymously that she threatens her child with something she's very scared of.

What would the experts think about that? What would Dr.Sears say? And don't you think there will be long-term affects on this young child?

I'm not coming back to this board, so feel free to flame me all you want.

To yuck: I agree with you. It's not pretty to think that a mom is doing this to her child. And thinks it's funny.

Please post the quote where she thought she was being funny!

[Anonymous]

So my 3 yo decides he wants to walk. I'm pushing hist stroller. He has this obsessive habit of getting in front of everyone he's walking with. He is constantly cutting me off, so I have to swerve the stroller to avoid running into him. After about 10th time and warning him to stop several times, I do not swerve and run into him. He trips and falls and starts to cry. Thankfully he wasn't hurt, but I did feel like shit.

[Anonymous]

10:12, not clear on which PP you're referring to.

[Anonymous]

OP here - well, I have to say this thread made it way further than I thought it would before the nastiness set in. I hope people will continue to use it as it was intended, as there are some great posts worth reading here.

So hopefully this can be a laugh for y'all today -- not exactly a "guilt" thing, as I was unaware of the potential danger, but this morning I was in the kitchen fixing my son's breakfast when I noticed he had something in his mouth and in his hand. My cat had thrown up a hairball on our living room rug and DS got at it -- can you say YUCK!!!??? Oh well, I'm sure he'll eat worse at some point....

[Anonymous]

Oh that's terrible. Hairball. Yuck! I'm sure your DC will find a way to get much worse into his mouth, if he hasn't already. That's funny.

[Anonymous]

In the last few days we turned off the baby monitor at night. This way we don't wake up at the slightest bit of noise and if she really needs us her cry will carry through the hallway(she's one door down). I don't particularly feel guilty about it but I'm sure this is not a trick for the mommy manual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the last few days we turned off the baby monitor at night. This way we don't wake up at the slightest bit of noise and if she really needs us her cry will carry through the hallway(she's one door down). I don't particularly feel guilty about it but I'm sure this is not a trick for the mommy manual.

I fled to another floor of our house and put in ear plugs in early days. DH was "on watch", but honestly - I bet he slept through a bunch of "shout outs". Funny how the monitor often seemed to be set at low volume or "on the fritz" in the morning....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh that's terrible. Hairball. Yuck! I'm sure your DC will find a way to get much worse into his mouth, if he hasn't already. That's funny.

Well at least a hairball is an "organic" product. Although it could be considered "processed"

OP - thanks for getting this thread back on track.

[Anonymous]

I still put my 2.5 y.o. to nap and bed with a bottle!! Not proud of this at all - but I am exhausted and it seems to be the only way she will calm down.

[Anonymous]

I allow my dog to lick up my toddler's lap and around the cushy seat. It's just easier.