Using a popular name anyway?

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Anonymous wrote:Use what you like. If you don't mind it being popular, that's all that matters.

I guess the kid doesn’t matter.

There's no way to know whether the kid will be one of the people who doesn't mind a popular name, or doesn't mind an unpopular name.

Yup. I disliked my common name, so I went the other direction for my kids. But I knew full well they might hate those names at some point, and I accept that. I did my best based on my experience. That’s all any of us can do.

Agreed, which is why posters saying they roll their eyes at kids with more popular names (babies! They roll their eyes at newborn babies fir having perfectly lovely names that happen to be more common) is obnoxious to me. I don’t know a single parent what was like “whatever let’s just pick one of these top ten names out if a hat, I could care less.” But I do know multiple parents who fell in love with a name, discovered it was more popular than they were expecting, and went with it anyway because that didn’t seem like a good enough reason to give up their favorite name.

Criticizing that seems ridiculous to me, and does seem like pushing variety and novelty for the sake of itself.

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Anonymous wrote:Use what you like. If you don't mind it being popular, that's all that matters.

I guess the kid doesn’t matter.

There's no way to know whether the kid will be one of the people who doesn't mind a popular name, or doesn't mind an unpopular name.

Yup. I disliked my common name, so I went the other direction for my kids. But I knew full well they might hate those names at some point, and I accept that. I did my best based on my experience. That’s all any of us can do.

Agreed, which is why posters saying they roll their eyes at kids with more popular names (babies! They roll their eyes at newborn babies fir having perfectly lovely names that happen to be more common) is obnoxious to me. I don’t know a single parent what was like “whatever let’s just pick one of these top ten names out if a hat, I could care less.” But I do know multiple parents who fell in love with a name, discovered it was more popular than they were expecting, and went with it anyway because that didn’t seem like a good enough reason to give up their favorite name.

Criticizing that seems ridiculous to me, and does seem like pushing variety and novelty for the sake of itself.

OP. The name is Charlotte. The bolded part is us. I made a list of 15-20 names I liked. Husband did the same. It was the only name that overlapped I personally only know one person with the name Charlotte and that person was an elementary school classmate and I'm in my 30s. Obviously I know there are lots of others out there and its not like I thought the name was uncommon but I didn't realize it was in the top 5 until I saw people complaining about it on here.

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Anonymous wrote:Use what you like. If you don't mind it being popular, that's all that matters.

I guess the kid doesn’t matter.

There's no way to know whether the kid will be one of the people who doesn't mind a popular name, or doesn't mind an unpopular name.

Yup. I disliked my common name, so I went the other direction for my kids. But I knew full well they might hate those names at some point, and I accept that. I did my best based on my experience. That’s all any of us can do.

Agreed, which is why posters saying they roll their eyes at kids with more popular names (babies! They roll their eyes at newborn babies fir having perfectly lovely names that happen to be more common) is obnoxious to me. I don’t know a single parent what was like “whatever let’s just pick one of these top ten names out if a hat, I could care less.” But I do know multiple parents who fell in love with a name, discovered it was more popular than they were expecting, and went with it anyway because that didn’t seem like a good enough reason to give up their favorite name.

Criticizing that seems ridiculous to me, and does seem like pushing variety and novelty for the sake of itself.

Calm down Ms. Lovejoy, PPs are clearly rolling their eyes at the parents.

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Anonymous wrote:Use what you like. If you don't mind it being popular, that's all that matters.

I guess the kid doesn’t matter.

There's no way to know whether the kid will be one of the people who doesn't mind a popular name, or doesn't mind an unpopular name.

Yup. I disliked my common name, so I went the other direction for my kids. But I knew full well they might hate those names at some point, and I accept that. I did my best based on my experience. That’s all any of us can do.

Agreed, which is why posters saying they roll their eyes at kids with more popular names (babies! They roll their eyes at newborn babies fir having perfectly lovely names that happen to be more common) is obnoxious to me. I don’t know a single parent what was like “whatever let’s just pick one of these top ten names out if a hat, I could care less.” But I do know multiple parents who fell in love with a name, discovered it was more popular than they were expecting, and went with it anyway because that didn’t seem like a good enough reason to give up their favorite name.

Criticizing that seems ridiculous to me, and does seem like pushing variety and novelty for the sake of itself.

I don’t get this either! How would you even know how much effort somebody put into baby name, and why would it even occur to me to care? I don’t actually judge them for it because I care about silly things too, like how likely it is that Nick and Priyanka are a fake couple.

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Anonymous wrote:Use what you like. If you don't mind it being popular, that's all that matters.

I guess the kid doesn’t matter.

There's no way to know whether the kid will be one of the people who doesn't mind a popular name, or doesn't mind an unpopular name.

Yup. I disliked my common name, so I went the other direction for my kids. But I knew full well they might hate those names at some point, and I accept that. I did my best based on my experience. That’s all any of us can do.

Agreed, which is why posters saying they roll their eyes at kids with more popular names (babies! They roll their eyes at newborn babies fir having perfectly lovely names that happen to be more common) is obnoxious to me. I don’t know a single parent what was like “whatever let’s just pick one of these top ten names out if a hat, I could care less.” But I do know multiple parents who fell in love with a name, discovered it was more popular than they were expecting, and went with it anyway because that didn’t seem like a good enough reason to give up their favorite name.

Criticizing that seems ridiculous to me, and does seem like pushing variety and novelty for the sake of itself.

OP. The name is Charlotte. The bolded part is us. I made a list of 15-20 names I liked. Husband did the same. It was the only name that overlapped I personally only know one person with the name Charlotte and that person was an elementary school classmate and I'm in my 30s. Obviously I know there are lots of others out there and its not like I thought the name was uncommon but I didn't realize it was in the top 5 until I saw people complaining about it on here.

It’s lovely but an extremely popular name. Prince William and Kate’s daughter’s name. There is one Charlotte in every baby class my 16 month old has been in. You didn’t know it was popular because you aren’t around newborns but you soon will be.

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Anonymous wrote:my sister regrets naming my niece Ava. There's on in every class, on every team. And she does it does kind of feel less special. Not to mention the inconvenience of having to always specify the last name or reply to invites that were sent to the wrong Ava.

Interesting. I have 3 kids and have never met a kid named Ava. And I love that name and considered it for my daughter but ultimately decided it was too popular and now regret that since we never meet any!

Kinda feel the same about Elijah. I don't regret my son's name at all but we nixed Elijah because it was top ten, and I never meet any Elijahs. They must be hiding in other states or something.

Now two top names on my list are in the top 20 and I am not sure - is this real?

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Anonymous wrote:Use what you like. If you don't mind it being popular, that's all that matters.

I guess the kid doesn’t matter.

There's no way to know whether the kid will be one of the people who doesn't mind a popular name, or doesn't mind an unpopular name.

Yup. I disliked my common name, so I went the other direction for my kids. But I knew full well they might hate those names at some point, and I accept that. I did my best based on my experience. That’s all any of us can do.

Agreed, which is why posters saying they roll their eyes at kids with more popular names (babies! They roll their eyes at newborn babies fir having perfectly lovely names that happen to be more common) is obnoxious to me. I don’t know a single parent what was like “whatever let’s just pick one of these top ten names out if a hat, I could care less.” But I do know multiple parents who fell in love with a name, discovered it was more popular than they were expecting, and went with it anyway because that didn’t seem like a good enough reason to give up their favorite name.

Criticizing that seems ridiculous to me, and does seem like pushing variety and novelty for the sake of itself.

Calm down Ms. Lovejoy, PPs are clearly rolling their eyes at the parents.

+1. We roll our eyes at the parents and feel bad for the child. There’s a world of difference between unique names and underused names. Pick an underused name.

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Anonymous wrote:Use what you like. If you don't mind it being popular, that's all that matters.

I guess the kid doesn’t matter.

There's no way to know whether the kid will be one of the people who doesn't mind a popular name, or doesn't mind an unpopular name.

Yup. I disliked my common name, so I went the other direction for my kids. But I knew full well they might hate those names at some point, and I accept that. I did my best based on my experience. That’s all any of us can do.

Agreed, which is why posters saying they roll their eyes at kids with more popular names (babies! They roll their eyes at newborn babies fir having perfectly lovely names that happen to be more common) is obnoxious to me. I don’t know a single parent what was like “whatever let’s just pick one of these top ten names out if a hat, I could care less.” But I do know multiple parents who fell in love with a name, discovered it was more popular than they were expecting, and went with it anyway because that didn’t seem like a good enough reason to give up their favorite name.

Criticizing that seems ridiculous to me, and does seem like pushing variety and novelty for the sake of itself.

OP. The name is Charlotte. The bolded part is us. I made a list of 15-20 names I liked. Husband did the same. It was the only name that overlapped I personally only know one person with the name Charlotte and that person was an elementary school classmate and I'm in my 30s. Obviously I know there are lots of others out there and its not like I thought the name was uncommon but I didn't realize it was in the top 5 until I saw people complaining about it on here.

It’s lovely but an extremely popular name. Prince William and Kate’s daughter’s name. There is one Charlotte in every baby class my 16 month old has been in. You didn’t know it was popular because you aren’t around newborns but you soon will be.

oh yeah, I was just thinking the only name that comes close to a Jennifer is Charlotte. We know 4 that are my kids friends (actually friends, same age, etc.). There is no other name that's come up this much.

It is a nice name though!!

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Anonymous wrote:Use what you like. If you don't mind it being popular, that's all that matters.

I guess the kid doesn’t matter.

There's no way to know whether the kid will be one of the people who doesn't mind a popular name, or doesn't mind an unpopular name.

Yup. I disliked my common name, so I went the other direction for my kids. But I knew full well they might hate those names at some point, and I accept that. I did my best based on my experience. That’s all any of us can do.

Agreed, which is why posters saying they roll their eyes at kids with more popular names (babies! They roll their eyes at newborn babies fir having perfectly lovely names that happen to be more common) is obnoxious to me. I don’t know a single parent what was like “whatever let’s just pick one of these top ten names out if a hat, I could care less.” But I do know multiple parents who fell in love with a name, discovered it was more popular than they were expecting, and went with it anyway because that didn’t seem like a good enough reason to give up their favorite name.

Criticizing that seems ridiculous to me, and does seem like pushing variety and novelty for the sake of itself.

OP. The name is Charlotte. The bolded part is us. I made a list of 15-20 names I liked. Husband did the same. It was the only name that overlapped I personally only know one person with the name Charlotte and that person was an elementary school classmate and I'm in my 30s. Obviously I know there are lots of others out there and its not like I thought the name was uncommon but I didn't realize it was in the top 5 until I saw people complaining about it on here.

It’s lovely but an extremely popular name. Prince William and Kate’s daughter’s name. There is one Charlotte in every baby class my 16 month old has been in. You didn’t know it was popular because you aren’t around newborns but you soon will be.

oh yeah, I was just thinking the only name that comes close to a Jennifer is Charlotte. We know 4 that are my kids friends (actually friends, same age, etc.). There is no other name that's come up this much.

It is a nice name though!!

I have an older child. I didn't look at the popular names list when we picked her name and I didn't know about DCUM then. My older child hasn't had a Charlotte in any of her daycare or preschool classes, nor do any of her friends have a sibling named Charlotte. I guess its just luck of the draw.

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Anonymous wrote:Remember that the name will always be popular in her generation. There will be three other women with her name in the old peoples home. Ask your mother or mother-in-law whose name is Susan what that feels like.

DH really wanted to name our DD Sophia and I mixed it based only on its popularity. In hospital he mentioned that he wanted to name the baby Sophia and the nurses all said, “Not another Sophia!” DD is 15 months and we’ve never been in any class where there isn’t at least two Sophia’s.

When I am in an old folks home I will not give ONE SH*T if there are 10 other women with my name. What a stupid thing to worry about.

(My name is Elizabeth, top 20 pretty much always. My life is fine I promise)

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OP, it's true Charlotte is popular generally but a lot of people use nicknames and that means there are fewer girls running around as Charlotte. I know three Charlottes under age 7. One goes by Charlie, one goes by Lottie, and one goes by Charlotte. Very different girls with different personalities, and their names all suit them. Their nicknames were choses when they were born.

I think it's a really pretty name and would place it in the "classic" category with names like Elizabeth and Emily. Yes, they are very popular. But it's truly because they are so lovely and enduring.

I think if you really love the name and it has meaning for you, you should do it. My DD's name isn't top 10, but we had a similar experience in that we both discovered we really liked this name early in our discussion of baby names and were basically totally sold on it, and then I looked it up on Nameberry and discovered it was a top 50 name which really surprised me. That gave us a little pause and we did spend time thinking about other names and wound up with a short list of 3 names, and the others were all less popular (one was my pick and the other was my DH's, the only name we both really really liked was that first one). Well then our DD was born and we took one look at her and knew our original name choice was the right one. And it was.

So I would suggest you keep Charlotte in the running, maybe see if you can identify a few other names you also like but don't toss out Charlotte. Then see how you feel as you get closer to your due date or even after she is born. If Charlotte is the right name, you will feel it.

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Anonymous wrote:Use what you like. If you don't mind it being popular, that's all that matters.

I guess the kid doesn’t matter.

There's no way to know whether the kid will be one of the people who doesn't mind a popular name, or doesn't mind an unpopular name.

Yup. I disliked my common name, so I went the other direction for my kids. But I knew full well they might hate those names at some point, and I accept that. I did my best based on my experience. That’s all any of us can do.

Agreed, which is why posters saying they roll their eyes at kids with more popular names (babies! They roll their eyes at newborn babies fir having perfectly lovely names that happen to be more common) is obnoxious to me. I don’t know a single parent what was like “whatever let’s just pick one of these top ten names out if a hat, I could care less.” But I do know multiple parents who fell in love with a name, discovered it was more popular than they were expecting, and went with it anyway because that didn’t seem like a good enough reason to give up their favorite name.

Criticizing that seems ridiculous to me, and does seem like pushing variety and novelty for the sake of itself.

Calm down Ms. Lovejoy, PPs are clearly rolling their eyes at the parents.

+1. We roll our eyes at the parents and feel bad for the child. There’s a world of difference between unique names and underused names. Pick an underused name.

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If you don’t care, that’s fine. But you don’t speak for everyone, either.

Which is why I reiterate - do what works for you, OP. If it doesn’t bother you that there might be many children with the same name, then go for it. If it does, go with manes further down the list. None of us know of our kids will love or hate the decisions we made in naming them. As I said above, I accept that my kids might hate their names eventually, but my husband and I made decisions informed by our experiences.

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Anonymous wrote:Use what you like. If you don't mind it being popular, that's all that matters.

I guess the kid doesn’t matter.

There's no way to know whether the kid will be one of the people who doesn't mind a popular name, or doesn't mind an unpopular name.

Yup. I disliked my common name, so I went the other direction for my kids. But I knew full well they might hate those names at some point, and I accept that. I did my best based on my experience. That’s all any of us can do.

Agreed, which is why posters saying they roll their eyes at kids with more popular names (babies! They roll their eyes at newborn babies fir having perfectly lovely names that happen to be more common) is obnoxious to me. I don’t know a single parent what was like “whatever let’s just pick one of these top ten names out if a hat, I could care less.” But I do know multiple parents who fell in love with a name, discovered it was more popular than they were expecting, and went with it anyway because that didn’t seem like a good enough reason to give up their favorite name.

Criticizing that seems ridiculous to me, and does seem like pushing variety and novelty for the sake of itself.

Calm down Ms. Lovejoy, PPs are clearly rolling their eyes at the parents.

+1. We roll our eyes at the parents and feel bad for the child. There’s a world of difference between unique names and underused names. Pick an underused name.

Why should they care what someone as judgmental as you cares what they name their child? It’s not necessary to pick an underused name. Just pick a name you love.

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Anonymous wrote:Use what you like. If you don't mind it being popular, that's all that matters.

I guess the kid doesn’t matter.

There's no way to know whether the kid will be one of the people who doesn't mind a popular name, or doesn't mind an unpopular name.

Yup. I disliked my common name, so I went the other direction for my kids. But I knew full well they might hate those names at some point, and I accept that. I did my best based on my experience. That’s all any of us can do.

Agreed, which is why posters saying they roll their eyes at kids with more popular names (babies! They roll their eyes at newborn babies fir having perfectly lovely names that happen to be more common) is obnoxious to me. I don’t know a single parent what was like “whatever let’s just pick one of these top ten names out if a hat, I could care less.” But I do know multiple parents who fell in love with a name, discovered it was more popular than they were expecting, and went with it anyway because that didn’t seem like a good enough reason to give up their favorite name.

Criticizing that seems ridiculous to me, and does seem like pushing variety and novelty for the sake of itself.

Calm down Ms. Lovejoy, PPs are clearly rolling their eyes at the parents.

+1. We roll our eyes at the parents and feel bad for the child. There’s a world of difference between unique names and underused names. Pick an underused name.

Why should they care what someone as judgmental as you cares what they name their child? It’s not necessary to pick an underused name. Just pick a name you love.

DP. They shouldn’t care about the PP, they should care about their child and make a less selfish decision.