Using a popular name anyway?

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Anonymous wrote:there is plenty of room between common and unique

someone posted about veronica and vanessa - those names are in that inbetween.

Yes there is but if you love a name that’s common you should go w it and not worry about trying to force yourself to love another, less common name just for the purpose of picking something less common…

DP. Sure, F- the child!

Yet again, you are convinced that a common name is somehow tantamount to ruing your child's life. No matter how many people explain why that is not true.

I don't know if your kids are going to like their names when they are older and I'm not sure anyone can predict that, but I do sense that they are going to be in therapy over their super intense, hyper-critical, obsessive mom.

Ok, narcissist.

DP. But you really seem to not get that a lot of people are be fine w or actually desire to have common names and prefer that. (Have you been reading this thread?) and even if a kid winds up not liking having a common name of their parents picked their name w love and thought then it’s still not “f the child!” It’s just oh well that happens. But plenty of kids don’t mind or actually enjoy having a common name. So get over yourself w your weird hang up about not giving kids popular names.

You’re missing the point.

No, I don’t think I am. I’m just another poster who has an unusual name and would’ve LOVED to have a popular name. So I don’t understand how you think someone lovingly choosing a name they like for their baby is “f the child” just because that name is popular.

Still missing the point. “I rather pick a name *I* love…”, “If *you* love the name, you should go with it…” is a “f- the child” ATTITUDE. I respect parents who gave their kids common names because they disliked having unusual ones, etc. I don’t think it was the best decision, but I respect them. The biggest problem is the ME, ME, ME attitude.

What would you propose then? Wait til the child is of sentient age and let them name themselves? I mean really. You have no way of knowing if a kid will like their name or not. The best a parent can do is pick a name they love and hope their kid loves it too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:there is plenty of room between common and unique

someone posted about veronica and vanessa - those names are in that inbetween.

Yes there is but if you love a name that’s common you should go w it and not worry about trying to force yourself to love another, less common name just for the purpose of picking something less common…

DP. Sure, F- the child!

Yet again, you are convinced that a common name is somehow tantamount to ruing your child's life. No matter how many people explain why that is not true.

I don't know if your kids are going to like their names when they are older and I'm not sure anyone can predict that, but I do sense that they are going to be in therapy over their super intense, hyper-critical, obsessive mom.

Ok, narcissist.

DP. But you really seem to not get that a lot of people are be fine w or actually desire to have common names and prefer that. (Have you been reading this thread?) and even if a kid winds up not liking having a common name of their parents picked their name w love and thought then it’s still not “f the child!” It’s just oh well that happens. But plenty of kids don’t mind or actually enjoy having a common name. So get over yourself w your weird hang up about not giving kids popular names.

You’re missing the point.

No, I don’t think I am. I’m just another poster who has an unusual name and would’ve LOVED to have a popular name. So I don’t understand how you think someone lovingly choosing a name they like for their baby is “f the child” just because that name is popular.

Still missing the point. “I rather pick a name *I* love…”, “If *you* love the name, you should go with it…” is a “f- the child” ATTITUDE. I respect parents who gave their kids common names because they disliked having unusual ones, etc. I don’t think it was the best decision, but I respect them. The biggest problem is the ME, ME, ME attitude.

What would you propose then? Wait til the child is of sentient age and let them name themselves? I mean really. You have no way of knowing if a kid will like their name or not. The best a parent can do is pick a name they love and hope their kid loves it too.

That’s your response? Obviously you have nothing valuable to contribute then if you can’t even answer the question. Any parent who names their child is inherently focused on their own preferences, you included. You think by choosing an unpopular name you’re thinking more of what your child will like than someone who chooses a popular name? That’s preposterous.

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Anonymous wrote:there is plenty of room between common and unique

someone posted about veronica and vanessa - those names are in that inbetween.

Yes there is but if you love a name that’s common you should go w it and not worry about trying to force yourself to love another, less common name just for the purpose of picking something less common…

DP. Sure, F- the child!

Yet again, you are convinced that a common name is somehow tantamount to ruing your child's life. No matter how many people explain why that is not true.

I don't know if your kids are going to like their names when they are older and I'm not sure anyone can predict that, but I do sense that they are going to be in therapy over their super intense, hyper-critical, obsessive mom.

Ok, narcissist.

DP. But you really seem to not get that a lot of people are be fine w or actually desire to have common names and prefer that. (Have you been reading this thread?) and even if a kid winds up not liking having a common name of their parents picked their name w love and thought then it’s still not “f the child!” It’s just oh well that happens. But plenty of kids don’t mind or actually enjoy having a common name. So get over yourself w your weird hang up about not giving kids popular names.

You’re missing the point.

No, I don’t think I am. I’m just another poster who has an unusual name and would’ve LOVED to have a popular name. So I don’t understand how you think someone lovingly choosing a name they like for their baby is “f the child” just because that name is popular.

Still missing the point. “I rather pick a name *I* love…”, “If *you* love the name, you should go with it…” is a “f- the child” ATTITUDE. I respect parents who gave their kids common names because they disliked having unusual ones, etc. I don’t think it was the best decision, but I respect them. The biggest problem is the ME, ME, ME attitude.

What would you propose then? Wait til the child is of sentient age and let them name themselves? I mean really. You have no way of knowing if a kid will like their name or not. The best a parent can do is pick a name they love and hope their kid loves it too.

That’s your response? Obviously you have nothing valuable to contribute then if you can’t even answer the question. Any parent who names their child is inherently focused on their own preferences, you included. You think by choosing an unpopular name you’re thinking more of what your child will like than someone who chooses a popular name? That’s preposterous.

I’m just tired of your selective amnesia.

[Anonymous]

My first name is Jennifer and I also have a super common last name. I never minded having a common first name growing up, I honestly never gave it a thought except to enjoy the lands end catalogs always having examples with my name. And now as an adult it is nice to have an un-google-able name. Some privacy in an age without privacy.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:there is plenty of room between common and unique

someone posted about veronica and vanessa - those names are in that inbetween.

Yes there is but if you love a name that’s common you should go w it and not worry about trying to force yourself to love another, less common name just for the purpose of picking something less common…

DP. Sure, F- the child!

Yet again, you are convinced that a common name is somehow tantamount to ruing your child's life. No matter how many people explain why that is not true.

I don't know if your kids are going to like their names when they are older and I'm not sure anyone can predict that, but I do sense that they are going to be in therapy over their super intense, hyper-critical, obsessive mom.

Ok, narcissist.

DP. But you really seem to not get that a lot of people are be fine w or actually desire to have common names and prefer that. (Have you been reading this thread?) and even if a kid winds up not liking having a common name of their parents picked their name w love and thought then it’s still not “f the child!” It’s just oh well that happens. But plenty of kids don’t mind or actually enjoy having a common name. So get over yourself w your weird hang up about not giving kids popular names.

You’re missing the point.

No, I don’t think I am. I’m just another poster who has an unusual name and would’ve LOVED to have a popular name. So I don’t understand how you think someone lovingly choosing a name they like for their baby is “f the child” just because that name is popular.

Still missing the point. “I rather pick a name *I* love…”, “If *you* love the name, you should go with it…” is a “f- the child” ATTITUDE. I respect parents who gave their kids common names because they disliked having unusual ones, etc. I don’t think it was the best decision, but I respect them. The biggest problem is the ME, ME, ME attitude.

What would you propose then? Wait til the child is of sentient age and let them name themselves? I mean really. You have no way of knowing if a kid will like their name or not. The best a parent can do is pick a name they love and hope their kid loves it too.

That’s your response? Obviously you have nothing valuable to contribute then if you can’t even answer the question. Any parent who names their child is inherently focused on their own preferences, you included. You think by choosing an unpopular name you’re thinking more of what your child will like than someone who chooses a popular name? That’s preposterous.

I’m just tired of your selective amnesia.

You just don’t have a good response. Got it. I don’t think you have any idea what you’re talking about to be honest. Selective amnesia doesn’t even make sense in the context of this conversation but ok.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:there is plenty of room between common and unique

someone posted about veronica and vanessa - those names are in that inbetween.

Yes there is but if you love a name that’s common you should go w it and not worry about trying to force yourself to love another, less common name just for the purpose of picking something less common…

DP. Sure, F- the child!

Yet again, you are convinced that a common name is somehow tantamount to ruing your child's life. No matter how many people explain why that is not true.

I don't know if your kids are going to like their names when they are older and I'm not sure anyone can predict that, but I do sense that they are going to be in therapy over their super intense, hyper-critical, obsessive mom.

Ok, narcissist.

DP. But you really seem to not get that a lot of people are be fine w or actually desire to have common names and prefer that. (Have you been reading this thread?) and even if a kid winds up not liking having a common name of their parents picked their name w love and thought then it’s still not “f the child!” It’s just oh well that happens. But plenty of kids don’t mind or actually enjoy having a common name. So get over yourself w your weird hang up about not giving kids popular names.

You’re missing the point.

No, I don’t think I am. I’m just another poster who has an unusual name and would’ve LOVED to have a popular name. So I don’t understand how you think someone lovingly choosing a name they like for their baby is “f the child” just because that name is popular.

Still missing the point. “I rather pick a name *I* love…”, “If *you* love the name, you should go with it…” is a “f- the child” ATTITUDE. I respect parents who gave their kids common names because they disliked having unusual ones, etc. I don’t think it was the best decision, but I respect them. The biggest problem is the ME, ME, ME attitude.

What would you propose then? Wait til the child is of sentient age and let them name themselves? I mean really. You have no way of knowing if a kid will like their name or not. The best a parent can do is pick a name they love and hope their kid loves it too.

That’s your response? Obviously you have nothing valuable to contribute then if you can’t even answer the question. Any parent who names their child is inherently focused on their own preferences, you included. You think by choosing an unpopular name you’re thinking more of what your child will like than someone who chooses a popular name? That’s preposterous.

I’m just tired of your selective amnesia.

You just don’t have a good response. Got it. I don’t think you have any idea what you’re talking about to be honest. Selective amnesia doesn’t even make sense in the context of this conversation but ok.

This is my last response to you.

Selective amnesia: tongue-in-cheek

The answer: read the thread again

You “got” nothing!

[Anonymous]

I think popular names are boring. That’s all. I pretty much like every name except the popular ones.

And yes, Charlotte is tiresome because I know so many.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My first name is Jennifer and I also have a super common last name. I never minded having a common first name growing up, I honestly never gave it a thought except to enjoy the lands end catalogs always having examples with my name. And now as an adult it is nice to have an un-google-able name. Some privacy in an age without privacy.

You just reminded me that my HS best friend, a Jennifer with a common last name, was profiled in our local newspaper when she started school at the state university nearby. The article was about the “typical freshman” in that incoming class. Our high school sent the most students, she had a common name-that’s why she was picked.

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Anonymous wrote:I think popular names are boring. That’s all. I pretty much like every name except the popular ones.

And yes, Charlotte is tiresome because I know so many.

What’s the cut off? Top 10? Top 50? Top 100?

(No snark, genuinely asking. People keep talking about popular names but I’m curious if my kids names would be considered popular. They are not top 10 but are top 100.)

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Anonymous wrote:I think popular names are boring. That’s all. I pretty much like every name except the popular ones.

And yes, Charlotte is tiresome because I know so many.

What’s the cut off? Top 10? Top 50? Top 100?

(No snark, genuinely asking. People keep talking about popular names but I’m curious if my kids names would be considered popular. They are not top 10 but are top 100.)

I think posters are talking about the top ten names.

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Anonymous wrote:I think popular names are boring. That’s all. I pretty much like every name except the popular ones.

And yes, Charlotte is tiresome because I know so many.

What’s the cut off? Top 10? Top 50? Top 100?

(No snark, genuinely asking. People keep talking about popular names but I’m curious if my kids names would be considered popular. They are not top 10 but are top 100.)

I think posters are talking about the top ten names.

Some are. But I've seen people refer to names in the top 50 as "overused" and there are even some posters who think you need to look closely to see if a name is "on the rise" in that it's jumping up the list in recent years. And by that standard, there are names in the 200s and 300s that might be considered "overly popular" by some.

Also, some people think that you have to pay attention to how popular the name is locally since there are regional trends. What if a name is in the 50s or 60s nationally but top 20 locally? Should that matter?

I think if you are arguing that parents should avoid names that are "too popular" you should put some parameters around what that means. First, because it's more useful than just "choose an underused name" without defining what that means. And second, because I think a lot of people get defensive about this and you might not even be talking to them. Like if you are really only talking about top 10 names, say that so that people with a top 50 name don't feel singled out, as that just causes conflict.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think popular names are boring. That’s all. I pretty much like every name except the popular ones.

And yes, Charlotte is tiresome because I know so many.

What’s the cut off? Top 10? Top 50? Top 100?

(No snark, genuinely asking. People keep talking about popular names but I’m curious if my kids names would be considered popular. They are not top 10 but are top 100.)

I think posters are talking about the top ten names.

Some are. But I've seen people refer to names in the top 50 as "overused" and there are even some posters who think you need to look closely to see if a name is "on the rise" in that it's jumping up the list in recent years. And by that standard, there are names in the 200s and 300s that might be considered "overly popular" by some.

Also, some people think that you have to pay attention to how popular the name is locally since there are regional trends. What if a name is in the 50s or 60s nationally but top 20 locally? Should that matter?

I think if you are arguing that parents should avoid names that are "too popular" you should put some parameters around what that means. First, because it's more useful than just "choose an underused name" without defining what that means. And second, because I think a lot of people get defensive about this and you might not even be talking to them. Like if you are really only talking about top 10 names, say that so that people with a top 50 name don't feel singled out, as that just causes conflict.

So don’t use a top 50 name. I wouldn’t worry about regional because your child will most likely move around the country.

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Anonymous wrote:there is plenty of room between common and unique

someone posted about veronica and vanessa - those names are in that inbetween.

Yes there is but if you love a name that’s common you should go w it and not worry about trying to force yourself to love another, less common name just for the purpose of picking something less common…

DP. Sure, F- the child!

Yet again, you are convinced that a common name is somehow tantamount to ruing your child's life. No matter how many people explain why that is not true.

I don't know if your kids are going to like their names when they are older and I'm not sure anyone can predict that, but I do sense that they are going to be in therapy over their super intense, hyper-critical, obsessive mom.

Ok, narcissist.

DP. But you really seem to not get that a lot of people are be fine w or actually desire to have common names and prefer that. (Have you been reading this thread?) and even if a kid winds up not liking having a common name of their parents picked their name w love and thought then it’s still not “f the child!” It’s just oh well that happens. But plenty of kids don’t mind or actually enjoy having a common name. So get over yourself w your weird hang up about not giving kids popular names.

You’re missing the point.

No, I don’t think I am. I’m just another poster who has an unusual name and would’ve LOVED to have a popular name. So I don’t understand how you think someone lovingly choosing a name they like for their baby is “f the child” just because that name is popular.

Still missing the point. “I rather pick a name *I* love…”, “If *you* love the name, you should go with it…” is a “f- the child” ATTITUDE. I respect parents who gave their kids common names because they disliked having unusual ones, etc. I don’t think it was the best decision, but I respect them. The biggest problem is the ME, ME, ME attitude.

What would you propose then? Wait til the child is of sentient age and let them name themselves? I mean really. You have no way of knowing if a kid will like their name or not. The best a parent can do is pick a name they love and hope their kid loves it too.

That’s your response? Obviously you have nothing valuable to contribute then if you can’t even answer the question. Any parent who names their child is inherently focused on their own preferences, you included. You think by choosing an unpopular name you’re thinking more of what your child will like than someone who chooses a popular name? That’s preposterous.

I’m just tired of your selective amnesia.

You just don’t have a good response. Got it. I don’t think you have any idea what you’re talking about to be honest. Selective amnesia doesn’t even make sense in the context of this conversation but ok.

This is my last response to you.

Selective amnesia: tongue-in-cheek

The answer: read the thread again

You “got” nothing!

Another non-answer from you. That’s what people do when they don’t have a good response…oh well. Everyone should choose a name they love and hope their kids love it too. You have no way of knowing if your kid will prefer a popular name or not or if something else about their name will cause them to love/hate it for whatever reason.

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my mid 300s baby name will probably cross into top 100 this year (8 years later).

my never in the top 1000 in the US name is very popular in Ireland.

my new baby has a top 50 name because it doesn't actually matter. As stated many times in this thread, the percentage of people with the same "popular" name is nothing like it was before. my popular baby's name was still less than .3% of all babies born in 2020. I'll take my chances

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I tend to judge people who are 100% white read who choose foreign names from another culture to be different. Liam, Siobhan, Eustatia, etc.