I hate my life (I am not suicidal)

[Anonymous]

I hate my life. There is so much that I don't like about it. I hate my job which is very stressful and will not promote me. I hate that I am recently divorced. My spouse turned out to be a complete disappointment, and I feel like I wasted my best years on him and will never have the family life I envisioned. I live far away from family and just generally feel disconnected. Inflation and the general cost of living around here is ridiculous. Anyone else been in a place like this and manage to build a great life? How did you do it?

[Anonymous]

You might just be in a bad phase, but if you look back and you felt like this even in times when your marriage was good and your job was better then it’s probably about your outlook.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I feel like this. But i may be depressed. Inflation doesn’t help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You might just be in a bad phase, but if you look back and you felt like this even in times when your marriage was good and your job was better then it’s probably about your outlook.

I have not always felt like this. It is because of the objective circumstances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You might just be in a bad phase, but if you look back and you felt like this even in times when your marriage was good and your job was better then it’s probably about your outlook.

I have not always felt like this. It is because of the objective circumstances.

Okay, what can you change?

Being single, can you now move back closer to your family? (Hopefully they live in a lower COL place?)

If I was single in DC right now, I think I'd have a fling, binge on free museums and cherry blossoms, and make a plan to get out of dodge before the next election. Especially if you don't like your job, take a pay cut to do something more fulfilling a different place.

[Anonymous]

Do you have kids? You need to branch out and find friends either way.

[Anonymous]

How old are you? You can definitely make changes.

How you do it is start small, make a plan. A year from now you will wish you had started today…read that years ago, and is so true.

Tell us what is holding you back and we will offer ideas!

[Anonymous]

You’re at a low point but that’s not forever. All of these things can be changed, including working through your grief over divorce. And don’t underestimate the difference some small changes can make. Journal, take trips, take a class, find one thing to get excited about. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I feel like this. But i may be depressed. Inflation doesn’t help.

I think you are depressed. Get some help to dig out of that hole, whether it be therapy or meds or both. Then six months from now revaluate your life. But don't do that until you wrestle with the depression. Good luck. You'll feel better soon enough.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I found an easy local job in Central America and moved there, to the jungle by the beach. Then I realized so much of my life was actually great hehe. It's just part of life's evolution. Listen to Abraham Hicks on YouTube. Remember that even if you move/quit your job/have flings you will still take yourself with you. It's the inner energy that is coloring what you see outside. It's all you.

You could also try micro dose mushrooms. Easy to get at the smoke shops in DC.

[Anonymous]

Start small. Do one thing tomorrow to make it better. Like do an internet search for jobs in an area you have fantasized about. Or go to a museum you have never had time for. Contact one old friend, or job contact.

Trying to fix everything is overwhelming. Start small. Even if tiny it sets you on a better path.

[Anonymous]

Do you have moments when you feel really content with your life too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You might just be in a bad phase, but if you look back and you felt like this even in times when your marriage was good and your job was better then it’s probably about your outlook.

I have not always felt like this. It is because of the objective circumstances.

So sorry to hear you feel this way OP. 😢

Life has many ebbs + flows and you may be just going through a bad time.
Well not MAY - you actually are going through a rough time.

Could you change your outlook on things?
Keep in mind that someone, somewhere out there has it much worse & would gladly trade places w/you in a heartbeat.
Not just someone…..actually there are many people out there (and here!) who definitely would.

If it is hard to develop a more positive perspective on things > you may benefit from some good old talk therapy.

Perhaps from a close friend/family member, clergyman or a licensed therapist.
You may also benefit from some antidepressant medication even though your feelings may be situational at best.
It could be just a temporary fix for now…..as you work out your anger re: your divorce.

I hope this helps you.
I wish you all the best!

[Anonymous]

Perfect opportunity to move to a lcol area ideally near family. I bet there’s a hallmark movie about that…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perfect opportunity to move to a lcol area ideally near family. I bet there’s a hallmark movie about that…

OP here. I have considered if this is the answer. I’m from a rundown Midwest city. I’ve just been afraid of the local economy. But maybe I should just do it. life is just so empty and huddle and bustle here. It is very challenging to get ahead of you are not rich or in a two earner household.