I hate my life (I am not suicidal)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate my life. There is so much that I don't like about it. I hate my job which is very stressful and will not promote me. I hate that I am recently divorced. My spouse turned out to be a complete disappointment, and I feel like I wasted my best years on him and will never have the family life I envisioned. I live far away from family and just generally feel disconnected. Inflation and the general cost of living around here is ridiculous. Anyone else been in a place like this and manage to build a great life? How did you do it?

OP - my life isn't perfect. for example, I've lost immediate family members in tough ways. But, generally i love my life. So, I'm very sorry you are in this situation. I think you may need a really drastic change. Each of us is only on this earth for a very short time and need to make the most of it.

Make a big move to change your situation.

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I hate when people hear about a sucky set of circumstances and then pile on the OP for her attitude. Sometimes people are legit depressed about a crappy life situation or sent of conditions. Their attitude isn’t the problem, their circumstances are. The solution is to change those conditions.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate when people hear about a sucky set of circumstances and then pile on the OP for her attitude. Sometimes people are legit depressed about a crappy life situation or sent of conditions. Their attitude isn’t the problem, their circumstances are. The solution is to change those conditions.

OP here. I honestly was hoping for some inspiration. Maybe to hear from someone who’s had some down times, but made some drastic changes and had a come back.

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Anonymous wrote:You might just be in a bad phase, but if you look back and you felt like this even in times when your marriage was good and your job was better then it’s probably about your outlook.

I have not always felt like this. It is because of the objective circumstances.

I’m
Okay, what can you change?

Being single, can you now move back closer to your family? (Hopefully they live in a lower COL place?)

If I was single in DC right now, I think I'd have a fling, binge on free museums and cherry blossoms, and make a plan to get out of dodge before the next election. Especially if you don't like your job, take a pay cut to do something more fulfilling a different place.

Couldn’t agree with this more! It’s a beautiful season in DC to take in the sights and then get the hell out! I left DC a few months ago and couldn’t be happier. If you can make it happen and find work elsewhere a new start might be what you need.

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Anonymous wrote:Perfect opportunity to move to a lcol area ideally near family. I bet there’s a hallmark movie about that…

OP here. I have considered if this is the answer. I’m from a rundown Midwest city. I’ve just been afraid of the local economy. But maybe I should just do it. life is just so empty and huddle and bustle here. It is very challenging to get ahead of you are not rich or in a two earner household.

If you have a relative you could live with for a few months, I would just quit and then go find a job there. Life is too short.

[Anonymous]

I used to feel this way. Someone challenged me to figure out what I could do to improve my life. I focused on fixing all the things I disliked. Ten years on, I have a life that I would never have even dared to dream of. I still have room to go, but the difference is that I now know that I have way more agency to change myself and my circumstances than I understood before. Just knowing that you actually, really can radically improve your life will change how you feel when things go wrong. You can do this, OP. You just have to have confidence in yourself, just a little bit of confidence as as you improve, that will grow and grow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to feel this way. Someone challenged me to figure out what I could do to improve my life. I focused on fixing all the things I disliked. Ten years on, I have a life that I would never have even dared to dream of. I still have room to go, but the difference is that I now know that I have way more agency to change myself and my circumstances than I understood before. Just knowing that you actually, really can radically improve your life will change how you feel when things go wrong. You can do this, OP. You just have to have confidence in yourself, just a little bit of confidence as as you improve, that will grow and grow.

Can you share what some changes you made were?

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Anonymous wrote:You might just be in a bad phase, but if you look back and you felt like this even in times when your marriage was good and your job was better then it’s probably about your outlook.

I have not always felt like this. It is because of the objective circumstances.

I’m
Okay, what can you change?

Being single, can you now move back closer to your family? (Hopefully they live in a lower COL place?)

If I was single in DC right now, I think I'd have a fling, binge on free museums and cherry blossoms, and make a plan to get out of dodge before the next election. Especially if you don't like your job, take a pay cut to do something more fulfilling a different place.

Couldn’t agree with this more! It’s a beautiful season in DC to take in the sights and then get the hell out! I left DC a few months ago and couldn’t be happier. If you can make it happen and find work elsewhere a new start might be what you need.

Where did you move to?