Tomorrow was supposed to be my wedding day
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Anonymous
| My fiancé called off the engagement on Valentine’s Day due to realizing he’s not physically attracted to me anymore. I haven’t heard from him since. I’m glad it happened prior to saying, “I do”, but this really sucks! I’ve never felt so down and defeated. |
Anonymous
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How long did you know him? How long had you been engaged?
Sorry. It really hurts now. You will recover. |
Anonymous
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Wow. Who is out the deposits? Did you give the ring back? Are your friends and relatives supportive?
I'm sorry, OP. You are wise to look at what really matters, which is that you don't want to be stuck with this man. |
Anonymous
| This is just ONE man's opinion. Do not let his opinion of you make you doubt all the things that make you awesome. Please do something nice for yourself tomorrow. |
Anonymous
| I’m so sorry, OP. I hope you have some good friends to hang out with tonight. |
Anonymous
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This is such a blessing in disguise. I wanted to call off my wedding and did not. The marriage was horrible. I got trapped geographically with an unplanned pregnancy and ended up staying a decade. Divorced and can’t have a real do-over. I shortchanged myself at finding a meaningful martial relationship. Mid 40s now and mine more miserable years of coparenting to go.
You can have a real love still. Better than an unfulfilling marriage and divorce later. |
Anonymous
| Sending you love! Hope you do something fun and celebrate yourself. |
Anonymous
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Am so sorry to hear this OP. 💔
What a common jerk for telling you that he is not attracted to you. Be glad that you realized what a full-fledged rat this guy was prior to getting hitched & that you did not have to invest the time + money divorcing him. Dodged a huge bullet. Hopefully you can spend the day w/some fun, supportive friends. If not - do something especially nice for yourself. Treat yourself to a massage, mani/pedi, new haircut or a brand-new outfit. |
Anonymous
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Listened to a podcast by Oprah and Jamie Kern Lima about her book called Worthy. She has a great poem in there. The line that stuck with me is that her “creator hid her value from [insert person] because that person wasn’t assigned to her destiny.”
OP I know you feel unworthy and rejected but your ex was not assigned to your destiny. You will go on to do bigger and better things with bigger and better people. Good luck. |
Anonymous
| You are better off away from this bozo. You deserve so much better. Don’t forget that! Good riddins to him. |
Anonymous
We met almost 5 years ago. Got engaged last Valentine’s Day. |
Anonymous
We both are. I still have the ring. Friends have reached out. I haven’t been up for chatting so I’ve just been texting that I’m okay! |
Anonymous
| Ugh. I'm so sorry. Mark yourself safe from being stuck in a crappy sexless marriage and take care of yourself. Take some time to lick your wounds, think back to make sure you didn't miss any red flags (so you don't make the same mistake) and then get back out there. |
Anonymous
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He’s probably gay
Most straight guys don’t date, much less propose to, women they aren’t attracted to. Women do that. Men don’t. You dodged a bullet. But it still sucks and I’m sorry |
Anonymous
I think he should pay you back for the deposits. You relied on his promise to marry you. He should be the one to pay for the deposits. Don’t give the ring back yet! Maybe you can sell it. Depends on the state whether you have to give it back. Tell me your state and I will research it for you |