Friend stopped responding

[Anonymous]

I recently started my dream job, which is 100% in person and pretty intense. Yesterday my good friend texted me asking how it was going; we bantered back and forth. Then she told me about a great new opportunity that just came up for her, and I texted back how exciting it was, asking for more details…and then noticed I had to attend a meeting and told her so, but that I wanted to hear all about it!

She said “you have more important things to attend to! Go to your meeting!” After my meeting - two hours later - I texted back following up with questions about her opportunity. She read these, but did not respond. Around lunchtime today I texted a cutesy “hello” gif, which she read but did not respond to. Finally, when I got home today, I sent a message saying “hey I know you’re busy, but I want you to know how excited I am for you! What a great opportunity!” (She read this and has not responded.)

Why did she stop responding? Obviously I won’t reach out again but ouch.

[Anonymous]

WTF? I sometimes wait days to respond to my friends. Chill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF? I sometimes wait days to respond to my friends. Chill.

I understand your perspective, but she and I frequently text in a very rapid fire fashion, and double/triple/quadruple texts are normal for us.

That said, it’s not normal for us to leave each other on read. We are close.

[Anonymous]

Just try to distract yourself and not overdo the analysis

I would not even focus on this thread you started

[Anonymous]

I think she was probably busy. Wouldn't read into it.

I mean, I would because I am an extremely anxious person but objective I know that's not reasonable! Hug to you OP.

[Anonymous]

You have an intense job and this is what you’re worried about?

[Anonymous]

If your friendship can't weather one of you needing to say "can't chat now. Going into. Meeting" without the other getting pissy and passive aggressive, it's not a healthy friendship. Hope you're overthinking it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your friendship can't weather one of you needing to say "can't chat now. Going into. Meeting" without the other getting pissy and passive aggressive, it's not a healthy friendship. Hope you're overthinking it.

+1 it sounds like you did nothing wrong. You’re not responsible for whatever she’s feeling. You’ve done everything you can to kindly and supportively reconnect so I would just let it go for now.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she really is busy. I would just let it go for now.

[Anonymous]

You were too busy to respond to her in the moment.

Why can't you understand that she has had other things to do?

[Anonymous]

How do you know she read your texts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your friendship can't weather one of you needing to say "can't chat now. Going into. Meeting" without the other getting pissy and passive aggressive, it's not a healthy friendship. Hope you're overthinking it.

+1 it sounds like you did nothing wrong. You’re not responsible for whatever she’s feeling. You’ve done everything you can to kindly and supportively reconnect so I would just let it go for now.

Both of these PPs. She is happy for you and sad for herself. She is having a mini meltdown.

I think no matter how close anyone is, the general feeling is that you want your friends to succeed, but not more than you. Have you been commiserating about your jobs, and now you got a great one?

Whatever the case, you can't lessen your success, or not do a great job, because you're worried about her feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
How do you know she read your texts?

DP. Some people leave notifications on. So when they read a text it shows that they did and when. I always turn it off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have an intense job and this is what you’re worried about?

+1. Your job is not intense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your friendship can't weather one of you needing to say "can't chat now. Going into. Meeting" without the other getting pissy and passive aggressive, it's not a healthy friendship. Hope you're overthinking it.

+1 it sounds like you did nothing wrong. You’re not responsible for whatever she’s feeling. You’ve done everything you can to kindly and supportively reconnect so I would just let it go for now.

Both of these PPs. She is happy for you and sad for herself. She is having a mini meltdown.

I think no matter how close anyone is, the general feeling is that you want your friends to succeed, but not more than you. Have you been commiserating about your jobs, and now you got a great one?

Whatever the case, you can't lessen your success, or not do a great job, because you're worried about her feelings.

She is having a mini meltdown?

How old are you people?