BIL doesn’t even bring his nieces and nephews gifts

[Anonymous]

BIL is single and successful. We invited him over for my child’s birthday and he didn’t even bring a gift. At the entire party, he was the only one not to bring a gift and he earns the most money.

Do your kids uncles and aunts buy them gifts?

I don’t think he needs to send a gift but if he is coming to a birthday party, he could have brought one.

[Anonymous]

Your BIL is a self centered douche.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:BIL is single and successful. We invited him over for my child’s birthday and he didn’t even bring a gift. At the entire party, he was the only one not to bring a gift and he earns the most money.

Do your kids uncles and aunts buy them gifts?

I don’t think he needs to send a gift but if he is coming to a birthday party, he could have brought one.

You emphasize "his" nieces and nephews but they are "your" kids. You decided to have them, didn't consult with him first, he is not a partner in raising your kids. Anything he does for them is a nice to have, not a requirement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:BIL is single and successful. We invited him over for my child’s birthday and he didn’t even bring a gift. At the entire party, he was the only one not to bring a gift and he earns the most money.

Do your kids uncles and aunts buy them gifts?

I don’t think he needs to send a gift but if he is coming to a birthday party, he could have brought one.

It is really annoying when siblings with kids pocket watch their single siblings. We are not a convenient instant bank.

[Anonymous]

Because he's socially clueless, that's why. Which might explain why he's single. If he gets married, his wife might remind him, and if they have kids, he might get a clue himself. Or not!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BIL is single and successful. We invited him over for my child’s birthday and he didn’t even bring a gift. At the entire party, he was the only one not to bring a gift and he earns the most money.

Do your kids uncles and aunts buy them gifts?

I don’t think he needs to send a gift but if he is coming to a birthday party, he could have brought one.

It is really annoying when siblings with kids pocket watch their single siblings. We are not a convenient instant bank.

This isn’t really about money, more about thoughtfulness. I guess he doesn’t give adult friends gifts and he doesn’t think to bring a gift for his niece or nephew at a birthday party.

My brother is also single and clueless but he knows to bring a birthday gift to a kid birthday party.

[Anonymous]

We have a no gifts policy.

[Anonymous]

Did your spouse tell him to just come over and don’t worry about bringing anything?

You say “my child’s birthday” instead of our child’s birthday. Is the uncle biologically related to the child?

Is the child a year old? Lots of single people have no idea what to get a one year old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did your spouse tell him to just come over and don’t worry about bringing anything?

You say “my child’s birthday” instead of our child’s birthday. Is the uncle biologically related to the child?

Is the child a year old? Lots of single people have no idea what to get a one year old.

The kids are in elementary. It was a birthday party. Yes, he is biologically related. He is my husband’s brother.

[Anonymous]

Text him today and tell him in no uncertain terms that he must pay to play. He'll get the message loud & clear, OP.

[Anonymous]

Lots of single aunts/uncles do not bring gifts.

This is so damn petty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Text him today and tell him in no uncertain terms that he must pay to play. He'll get the message loud & clear, OP.

I’m not sure if he knows or cares.

[Anonymous]

Does he play and interact with the kids? For many people, gifts are not their love language.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does he play and interact with the kids? For many people, gifts are not their love language.

I don’t think he really cares for the kids. He only cares about DH and probably thinks the wife and kids have taken his brother’s time away from him.

[Anonymous]

Caring does not equal gifts.

Grow up.