BIL doesn’t even bring his nieces and nephews gifts

[Anonymous]

Your kid didn’t need another gift. Quit counting other people’s money. Showing up is more valuable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he play and interact with the kids? For many people, gifts are not their love language.

I don’t think he really cares for the kids. He only cares about DH and probably thinks the wife and kids have taken his brother’s time away from him.

Lots of people are not “kid people.” It’s fine.

[Anonymous]

This reminds me of my brother. He showed up to my son’s first birthday without a gift. We didn’t care one way or the other but my mom would not let it go LOL. He loves our kids, he was just clueless about social expectations.

[Anonymous]

Does your kid really need more stuff? Aren’t we all drowning in things? I’d rather someone come and celebrate my child’s birthday with us than bring yet one more piece of plastic that I’ll have to get rid of down the road.

[Anonymous]

Keep being petty and he’ll stop showing up.

[Anonymous]

Gifts are not a requirement for a birthday party op. If that’s the only reason you invite people then you are selfish and materialistic. Please don’t pass these traits on to your children.

[Anonymous]

My kids' aunts and uncles do not buy them gifts. They also don't really try to play with them. I think it's a little odd but you can't force these things.

[Anonymous]

I have a BIL who is exactly the same. No a single gift in 15 years. And he's richer than all of us combined. I think the issue is that he was the baby of the family and still sees himself as a child in some ways, and thus without any responsibility for something like gift-giving. Or perhaps it's just that he is single and doesn't give a thought to anyone but himself.

[Anonymous]

DHs brother has 2 kids (we are cfbc), and we love going to visit but never bring gifts. They dont need anything, we dont really know what kids are into. I would rather spend time with them than bring some random garbage personally. Your attitude to their relationship seems really transactional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because he's socially clueless, that's why. Which might explain why he's single. If he gets married, his wife might remind him, and if they have kids, he might get a clue himself. Or not!

This. My brother never buys any gifts. He doesn't even open the ones he gets until months later. I think it is undiagnosed ADHD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DHs brother has 2 kids (we are cfbc), and we love going to visit but never bring gifts. They dont need anything, we dont really know what kids are into. I would rather spend time with them than bring some random garbage personally. Your attitude to their relationship seems really transactional.

Give a gift card then. You sound envious and selfish.

[Anonymous]

My BIL, who is divorced and has his own kids, never bought my kids gifts. My ex-SIL did for a while. It really wasn't a big deal. I can't even remember if he got my DD a wedding gift, although my ex-SIL did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lots of single aunts/uncles do not bring gifts.

This is so damn petty.

they are also self absorbed douches.

I always bring my nieces/nephews presents if I am coming to their bday party. That's such a douche move, especially considering that the BIL has money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a BIL who is exactly the same. No a single gift in 15 years. And he's richer than all of us combined. I think the issue is that he was the baby of the family and still sees himself as a child in some ways, and thus without any responsibility for something like gift-giving. Or perhaps it's just that he is single and doesn't give a thought to anyone but himself.

I think you're on to something. My brother is also the youngest, never gives gifts and is still single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep being petty and he’ll stop showing up.

why does he bother to show up?