If women could go back in time

[Anonymous]

Would they still fight for workforce accessibility/equality or accept that stay at home mom is better than working a full time job and not seeing their kids grow up? Did it provide the happiness it promised?

Saw this question being asked and I know what I would choose

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would they still fight for workforce accessibility/equality or accept that stay at home mom is better than working a full time job and not seeing their kids grow up? Did it provide the happiness it promised?

Saw this question being asked and I know what I would choose

I think about this all the time. I think if you have a good marriage and husband, assuming that one job is enough to live a nice life, the 50s way seems easier. But that's a lot of ifs.

[Anonymous]

I work full time, make >$500k, and see my children grow up and do tons of things together.

It’s how I manage my time and the systems we have set up.

[Anonymous]

I hate such stupid questions.

Not all women are mothers. Not all mothers want to stay home. Those mothers that do want to stay home, still can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work full time, make >$500k, and see my children grow up and do tons of things together.

It’s how I manage my time and the systems we have set up.

Please share your systems! And your occupation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate such stupid questions.

Not all women are mothers. Not all mothers want to stay home. Those mothers that do want to stay home, still can.

+1

Now you have the choice - which was the power we gained. No, I don’t think we should give that up.

[Anonymous]

I would absolutely choose what we have today. How is this even a question?

I don't want to be dependent on my husband to survive. I don't want to be treated as less than a man. I want the option to stay at home with my children or to work if I want/have to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate such stupid questions.

Not all women are mothers. Not all mothers want to stay home. Those mothers that do want to stay home, still can.

+1

Now you have the choice - which was the power we gained. No, I don’t think we should give that up.

It’s a choice in theory, for women who marry high earning men that support them staying home. That’s a very small portion of men, and most women have to work whether they want to or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work full time, make >$500k, and see my children grow up and do tons of things together.

It’s how I manage my time and the systems we have set up.

NP. I make less than you, but I make at least $200k per year working remotely and setting my schedule. I only compromised my time with my oldest when my oldest was young, and I was working the hardest. Since then, I've been able to make it all work quite nicely. My parents have a 1950s-style marriage, and I dislike the power imbalance, so I'm grateful for the glass ceiling breakers.

[Anonymous]

I sometimes think I would have liked to see women getting into the workforce without “The Pill” and reproductive control and this assumption that having children is some kind of recreational activity that you chose to engage in.

Like what would it look like to have married men and women in the workforce with the assumption that they would have children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate such stupid questions.

Not all women are mothers. Not all mothers want to stay home. Those mothers that do want to stay home, still can.

It's incredibly difficult to do outside of DCUMland. Prices of everything have increased due to the expectation of a two income household.

[Anonymous]

You mean white women of a certain class during a certain time period in the US, right? Because the model you're talking about was never common.

And no, I don't think they would have fought to be able to open their own bank accounts, get their own loans, etc. and not fought to also be able to get jobs. Maybe they would have fought harder for a social safety net that didn't require many moms to stay away from their kids in order to be financially secure.

[Anonymous]

Women need to work as much as men need it.

If I did not work, I would probably be on my way to divorcing DH. I would have interpreted some of our problems very differently. Most women I know agree with this.

Men really are from Mars, and so much that they do is interpreted differently by SAHMs as a power play. When you work and have a similar earning potential or better, you see the gender differences in a different light.

[Anonymous]

God no!

I’m thankful for the 40 hour week that was fought for as well.

I could not imagine having someone I love with all my heart working more than that, never seeing their own kids, and giving up 1/2 their hard earned money to a cheating wife

Now that we’re getting closer to bring equal at work..

I’m also super thankful men are getting Paternity leave, getting family flexible schedules and gave more opportunities to be equal parents.

Plus I did not miss one thing in my children’s lives.

Also I could not imagine being so selfish as to not fight for women who don’t want to marry /have kids not having those opportunities.

Also … yes I’m very happy! I provide the happiness… it was never “ promised “ its comes from within.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God no!

I’m thankful for the 40 hour week that was fought for as well.

I could not imagine having someone I love with all my heart working more than that, never seeing their own kids, and giving up 1/2 their hard earned money to a cheating wife

Now that we’re getting closer to bring equal at work..

I’m also super thankful men are getting Paternity leave, getting family flexible schedules and gave more opportunities to be equal parents.

Plus I did not miss one thing in my children’s lives.

Also I could not imagine being so selfish as to not fight for women who don’t want to marry /have kids not having those opportunities.

Also … yes I’m very happy! I provide the happiness… it was never “ promised “ its comes from within.

How is that possible if you were at work and they were with somebody else?