Received a present from family
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We received a set of dishes from SIL for Christmas. It was a really sweet thought but I kind of…hate them?
They just aren’t my personal style and not something I’d ever buy for our home. My husband loved them and insists on using them at every meal time, I set the table yesterday with our old dishes for dinner and he was upset saying he wanted the dishes his sister got him, he got up and swapped his plate! WWYD? |
Anonymous
| Lady, if that’s the biggest of your problems, consider yourself fortunate. |
Anonymous
| Let it go. Doesn’t sound like the hill to die on. |
Anonymous
A very strange thing to give someone for Christmas. But, having said that, what could possibly be so bad that you "hate" them? They're dishes. And your DH likes them, and it's his sister's present. So you're going to have to use them. I would not make this a power struggle. Having said that, your DH is being juvenile and I'd tell him that. Swapping his plate? Really? What a toddler. I'd box up the old plates and tell him to take them to Goodwill or whatever. Since he feels like he is no longer able to eat off them, then you'll get rid of them. And I'd make him feel as stupid as he looks. |
Anonymous
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That is cute of your husband
indulge him I find many men do not have opinions or personal tastes so it’s nice that he has an opinion or some emotional tie to an object. That should be encouraged! |
Anonymous
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I let every family member chose their own plate and set their own place setting.
Good job family member! |
Anonymous
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I expect there have been other times you’ve had to compromise. Use those skills here.
Be sure first that everyone has an opportunity to express their feelings. He said he likes them. Have you said what you think of them? |
Anonymous
Op here. They’re cheaply made with an ugly design pattern. As we were opening them, he became so excited thinking his sister is so generous. I…didn’t say anything as I did not like them! Ugh. I’d really rather throw them away! |
Anonymous
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Op, are you bored ? Jealous? I am trying to understand your feelings toward… plates.
No one cares if you have discerning tastes for dish ware. Maybe your spouse is using this as an opportunity to tell you that you act like a p*^#k. He made a statement to you. |
Anonymous
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I can’t believe people are saying you should use them.
Who buys someone dishes for Christmas unless it’s for a college kid or similar? That’s just rude. And if you’re recently married she should have gotten something that had been on your registry. |
Anonymous
| Eating off of dishes you dislike three times a day is nerve wracking. Do you like your SIL? Is it possible to exchange them for something you both like? Choosing a dish pattern is very personal, like a pocketbook. Odd present choice. |
Anonymous
Op here. No, she ha historically bullied me and puts me down. I find it a little insulting that she’d get us a set of cheap dishware. My husband is oblivious and thinks his sister is the sweetest. I’d never buy anyone dishware unless they included it in their registry or it was a fancy set they’d never buy other own. Now I’m stuck with an ugly set I don’t have space for or need. |
Anonymous
| You sound so dramatic and exhausting |
Anonymous
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I agree with you OP. You should get to use the dishes you choose and prefer in your own home.
I think you might need to box them up and put them in the garage or basement or attic. Hopefully dh will just leave them there. Then dispose of after some time. If he insists on keeping them in the house...oops, sorry I dropped a few on the floor! |
Anonymous
| They will be chipped or cracked before long. |