Today is My Birthday
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Anonymous
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And my wife did nothing.
About three weeks ago, she asked what I wanted to do and I said lets go glamping in a cabin out in the Shennadoah. She said which one, I said I don't know - you pick. She didn't as of a week ago, so I reserved one. WhenI got up today, nothing had been done. No bags had been packed, no breakfast had been cooked, no groceries packed for the weekend, nothing. Around 11 she asked, again, what I wanted to do. I said I thought we were going out to the valley. She said Ok, just checking. Now its 1230 and i'm sitting in the den on the internet while she on the phone with her sister in law. Am I suposed to have planned my own birthday trip? Was I supposed to buy and pack everything? Was this a trip for her or for me? I tempted to pack for myself and queitly leave. What would you do here? |
Anonymous
| Happy Birthday! |
Anonymous
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Communication breakdown.
Happy Birthday! |
Anonymous
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How old are you and how long have you been married? Guy here and I'm wired a little differently and don't really understand any sort of extra birthday rigamarole other than on more significant decade birthdays after the age of 21 and then starting up yearly again at 80. Your wife might be like me. What did you do and what does she "expect" for her birthday? |
Anonymous
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Ask her to get off the phone.
Set a departure time. Decide what tasks you can skip to get out the door sooner. Go on trip. Try to have a nice time. Next year, tell her your feelings will be hurt if she doesn't plan the birthday gift for you. |
Anonymous
| She's disrespectful. I'd start liquidating assets and lay the groundwork to divorce. |
Anonymous
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Aww, happy birthday, OP. Sorry the communications in your circle seem to have gotten snagged this year.
I don't really birthday much at this point (I'm in my 40s; my birthday energy goes to my kids), but if it were important to me, I'd be disappointed that my partner didn't "get it". Have a conversation about the fact that it's important to you, and then go! Shenandoah isn't that far, and it's still plenty early. Or go alone! Solitude is becoming a recurring theme on my birthday wishlist; I'd love an overnight in the woods, just me and the dog, honestly. |
Anonymous
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leave alone and bring your assistant.
👅 🐈 🕳️ |
Anonymous
| Communicate more |
Anonymous
| Why on earth would she do all the shopping and packing? Your mom really spoiled you apparently. My kids have fun on their birthdays but don’t sit around like kings waiting for people to feed them grapes. Get off your arse and get packing! You get to pick the activity for your birthday not hire a slave for the week. |
Anonymous
| Why are you making your bday such a big deal? |
Anonymous
| Op, your expectations are really high. It’s my birthday too and we’re just going to a movie. What did you do for past years? |
Anonymous
| No straight man asks his wife to go glamping. Try harder. |
Anonymous
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OP here- where did my communication breakdown? That's the point I was making with "is it my responsibility to do my own birthday"
I don't think it is. And honestly, if I had known this was how I was going to spend the day, I would have done something on my own instead of wasted it waiting for my wife to do something she said she was going to do, but didn't. Don't even get me started what would have happend had I done this for her birthday. |
Anonymous
This. You’re playing this game of chicken where you’re waiting to see how long she’ll go and not saying what you want. Stop. How old are you and how long have you been married? |