DD without a date
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Anonymous
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DD (17) is going to Sub Deb next weekend. She plans to get ready and then go with a group of 4 other girlfriends. Each of her four friends has asked a date to the dance. DD hasn’t asked anyone. There are definitely guys she could ask to go with her as friends, but she refuses.
I explained to her that it might be awkward being the only one without a date. I explained a few possible scenarios that could play out. She insists that there are other kids she can hang out with and that it won’t be awkward at all. I’ve dropped it completely and won’t bring it up again, but I feel like she’s being extremely naive here. I don’t see this playing out well. Is this normal and common in today’s world? |
Anonymous
| What is sub Deb? |
Anonymous
| She’s 17. Back off, mom. |
Anonymous
| I think it may be less awkward than you think. My colleague recently showed me some pics of his kids from last year's prom, and they were both (different grades) in big groups of girls/guys. He says that's how they do it now. They go as a big group and all hang together. |
Anonymous
WTF is the point of asking a guy to go as a friend? Either she wants to ask a guy on a date, or she doesn't. I guarantee the guy doesn't want to go as a "friend". I don't know what a Sub Deb is either (is this a Southern thing?), but seems like kids with our without dates have a blast at Homecoming and other school functions. |
Anonymous
| What the heck is sub deb?? This isn't DC area, surely. |
Anonymous
+1 what the heck. |
Anonymous
a girl on the broach of becoming a debutante or a girl in her middle teens  gag
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Anonymous
Looked it up. It's Suburban Debutante. I guess it's a different name for the Sadie Hawkins dance. |
Anonymous
+1 It's crazy to be this involved. Why did you even offer your opinion? The worst case scenario is an awkward evening. "I'm going with four friends. They've invited guys, but I'm not going to." "Okay. Sounds like fun." End scene. |
Anonymous
| Have never heard of 'Sub Deb'. |
Anonymous
| OP here. Yes we’re in the south. Sounds like I need to stay out of it though. Advice taken. |
Anonymous
Like I said, I think it's the new normal. Kids seem to go to dances in groups these days, and then hang out together. |
Anonymous
| This is normal. My son went to his high school homecoming every year in a big group of mixed gender. Most weren't paired off and numbers of boy/ girl weren't even. I think this is better. Less pressure to be paired up |
Anonymous
| It's okay if she has an awkward time at an event. That's life. She's 17 and gets to decide things like this. |