Husband's social media is great, besides one thing...

[Anonymous]

My husband isn't very active on social media. Doesn't log into FaceBook and only looks through Instagram for news and sports mostly. He doesn't follow those IG models or people like that BUT he does follow this one woman who's semi-famous. Olivia Culpo. She used to be Miss USA and has won a bunch of other stuff along with being a model, etc. We've discussed her before because she looks similar to his college girlfriend who he almost married. We've been married for 11 years with a nine year old. Happy. No issues. But, Olivia Culpo is the only woman he follows on Instagram and it bothers me a little. I know she's very pretty and obviously he's attracted to her since she looks like a girl he dated years ago. But, still I wish he didn't follow any women at all.

[Anonymous]

You should talk to a therapist about why this bothers you so much. He follows a married celebrity. He's really not doing anything wrong. If you force him to unfollow her he can just go look up her page or photos of her with one extra click - what is the outcome you want here?

[Anonymous]

The problem is you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband isn't very active on social media. Doesn't log into FaceBook and only looks through Instagram for news and sports mostly. He doesn't follow those IG models or people like that BUT he does follow this one woman who's semi-famous. Olivia Culpo. She used to be Miss USA and has won a bunch of other stuff along with being a model, etc. We've discussed her before because she looks similar to his college girlfriend who he almost married. We've been married for 11 years with a nine year old. Happy. No issues. But, Olivia Culpo is the only woman he follows on Instagram and it bothers me a little. I know she's very pretty and obviously he's attracted to her since she looks like a girl he dated years ago. But, still I wish he didn't follow any women at all.

That's pretty controlling.

She's not semi-famous, shes famous. She's an actress and she has over 5M followers on insta. As long as your husband isnt being creepy with it, who cares.

[Anonymous]

I think that's a really silly thing to be worried about. Unless there's something else you haven't shared, some aspect of your relationship that you feel unsure or bothered about?

[Anonymous]

Holy controlling. Get a grip, lady.

[Anonymous]

If you're spending time worried about or even thinking about who your spouse follows on social media, then your marriage is doomed. Presumably you're an adult and you married an adult...so it's time to overcome jealousies, insecurities, or whatever and trust your spouse.

[Anonymous]

I share your concerns, OP. He’s not following a female Nobel Prize winner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that's a really silly thing to be worried about. Unless there's something else you haven't shared, some aspect of your relationship that you feel unsure or bothered about?

+1 This would only be a red flag to me as a DW if there were other trust issues around the "one who got away" woman whom this celebrity resembles. Nothing like that there? Then nothing to worry about. OP, could this aversion you have to his following this one account really be about your own insecurity that somehow he's not over the real-life woman from long ago? That may be about your own thoughts and issues and not about her or him. Can you step back from your own emotions enough to think about whether this is about you and not them?

[Anonymous]

I would die laughing if my husband told me not to follow any men, including famous ones, on social media. Ma'am, unless he's a serial cheater with restraining orders out from prior famous women he stalked online, you're the problem here. You sound fully nuts.

[Anonymous]

Well, I’ll disagree with others. I follow a ton of male celebrities, and DH doesn’t care. I have no idea who he follows, probably a bunch of female ones as well. But if either of us only followed one and they looked exactly (haha) like an ex? That is a tiny bit strange.

But maybe there are bigger issues in your relationship, as DH and I don’t spend our time pouring over each other follow lists. Maybe he’s doing this and I have no idea!

[Anonymous]

I'd be concerned if a husband was following a bunch of hot models hearting all their half nude pics. One pretty girl is more than fine IMO. And Olivia Cuplo is insanely pretty. She's engaged to a football player. McCaffery. My 49ers .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband isn't very active on social media. Doesn't log into FaceBook and only looks through Instagram for news and sports mostly. He doesn't follow those IG models or people like that BUT he does follow this one woman who's semi-famous. Olivia Culpo. She used to be Miss USA and has won a bunch of other stuff along with being a model, etc. We've discussed her before because she looks similar to his college girlfriend who he almost married. We've been married for 11 years with a nine year old. Happy. No issues. But, Olivia Culpo is the only woman he follows on Instagram and it bothers me a little. I know she's very pretty and obviously he's attracted to her since she looks like a girl he dated years ago. But, still I wish he didn't follow any women at all.

When did you get fixated on this issue such that you know your husband is ONLY following this one woman? Why does it matter if he enjoys looking at a picture of a pretty woman when he logs into Instagram? Are you feeling insecure about your relationship with him? About your own looks?

[Anonymous]

I am a guy and don't understand the need to follow woman like this. She may be pretty, but that only gets you so far. Yes, she likes the NFL guys.

[Anonymous]

I understand OP.

Theres a lot of mischief going on online these days.