What other options are there for adults beyond dating?

[Anonymous]

I had to put up with an abusive addictive deceptive cheating husband and all the OLD discussions just give me a headache thinking about them and the effort just to find a man who isn't interested in someone younger or using me. Are there other options for living together with someone else that are formal like with OLD? I do better living with someone or near someone with lots of people to keep me engaged during the day and night but maybe my future is more like the Golden Girls rather than with a man. Do people do this type of thing as they age or are older women also too set in their ways to cohabitate? Am I just looking for a 55 and up retirement community?

[Anonymous]

FWB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FWB.

As a living situation? I think I'm looking for friends nearby and sharing a house or living near a lot of people. If I find a man who is right for me great, but I don't want to compromise or wait around for Mr. Right and don't have the capacity or interest to date hundreds of people.

[Anonymous]

When I first moved to DC, there were twin sisters of retirement age who shared an apt together in my building.

[Anonymous]

OP, I have thought about this as well. You could always look for a roommate on Facebook or something.

[Anonymous]

My 80 year old widowed mom (but looks and moves like a 60 year old; still exercises--can jog up down stairs) recently bought a condo in a 55-year old+ retirement community. She complains hardly anyone is mobile like her-- lots of walkers and wheelchairs. I laughed when I realized that I technically am eligible to move-in there in another year.

A lot of those places around here skew much, much older.

[Anonymous]

Idk why you’re formalizing something as simple as having roommates. Do you have any single friends? They’re who you should be asking.

But of course, the difficulties of cohabitation can infringe on the personal relationship between platonic same sex companions as easily as it can on one with a man.

[Anonymous]

Never let a man move in with you.

[Anonymous]

I would rather have my own place near a sibling, close cousin or an old friend. Why merge and risk?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never let a man move in with you.

Yup. Be friends or significant others, spend time at each other's place but keep your own places.

[Anonymous]

I think the universe of people that can afford not to have roommates (which is basically what you're asking about) and that actually want roommates is going to be very small.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 80 year old widowed mom (but looks and moves like a 60 year old; still exercises--can jog up down stairs) recently bought a condo in a 55-year old+ retirement community. She complains hardly anyone is mobile like her-- lots of walkers and wheelchairs. I laughed when I realized that I technically am eligible to move-in there in another year.

A lot of those places around here skew much, much older.

I know. That's why I'm not sure that's what I want. I want the 50-70 year old version of these.

[Anonymous]

Unusual and not welcome by dcum solution: adopt a 5 yo child at 50yo. A girl, preferably, who has a good attention span and is kind. Ignore her cuteness and race. Girls are great companions in aye 50s -60s for their moms while growing up and even through college. Then you’ll have grand children to visit. A real family.

I’m dating but have myself a deadline : if not partnered by 50 I’ll adopt

[Anonymous]

I've been wondering the same, OP.
I've lived by myself since I was 19, never even had a roommate. I've always loved it, but at 48 it's starting to get old.
I've been fantasizing about a Golden Girls type arrangement, but a huge estate or maybe a farm. I get the sense a lot of women would be interested in a communal living sort of arrangement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unusual and not welcome by dcum solution: adopt a 5 yo child at 50yo. A girl, preferably, who has a good attention span and is kind. Ignore her cuteness and race. Girls are great companions in aye 50s -60s for their moms while growing up and even through college. Then you’ll have grand children to visit. A real family.

I’m dating but have myself a deadline : if not partnered by 50 I’ll adopt

Have you had kids?

If not, you are really in for it doing that at 50. Lol