Bringing date to work party

[Anonymous]

Been seeing bf for 6 months and he’s upset I didn’t want to bring him to my work Christmas party. Before him I was married for 15 years and always brought my ex-DH. I have no problem bringing someone new but only if we are very serious. I don’t want to bring a new date every year. I think it ooos tacky. Am I being uptight?

[Anonymous]

No, you are not.

[Anonymous]

I'm with you.

[Anonymous]

I’m annoyed I had to waste my Friday night at my husband’s work party. Next year your boyfriend can be his +1.

[Anonymous]

I agree with you.

[Anonymous]

Is he cute ? I’ll take him to mine

[Anonymous]

I can see both sides to this.

If I was your boyfriend I wouldn’t like it if I was excluded from the work party.
I would feel that perhaps you were ashamed of me and/or weren’t serious about our relationship.

However I get your perspective on this as well.
If I was in a relatively new relationship - I would likely want to wait until it was serious before bringing my partner into a work-related social gathering.

I am assuming that even at six mos, OP you are still not sure if this relationship has the potential to be something long-term + permanent.
I personally feel that at six mos, the relationship should be solid enough for you to know this unless you two are taking things slow for a reason.

Just some food for thought..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he cute ? I’ll take him to mine

He’s very handsome and the life of the party type. I didn’t ran to offend him, I just not sure where things are going with us after only 6 months.

[Anonymous]

Agreed. Don't take at 6 months. If you're still dating next year, take him.

If he is the life of a party, then he probably just wanted to go to the party.

[Anonymous]

How long have you been divorced? If recent I’d be concerned about bringing someone new. If a few years and you’ve been seeing this guy for six months it must be pretty serious. But, not inviting him sends him a message to him that you don’t think it’s serious. I’d invite him and not worry about next year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he cute ? I’ll take him to mine

That is the risk that OP may not realize she just put in motion.

[Anonymous]

Is it serious enough that you have mentioned him to colleagues?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is he cute ? I’ll take him to mine

That is the risk that OP may not realize she just put in motion.

It’s a competition ladies !! hehe
I love it because I just discovered this.

[Anonymous]

Yup, while you are hang-wringing or complaining to your friends, I am toning my bum.

[Anonymous]

I get your point. But you also just signaled to him you don't think you guys are serious and you're not sure where the relationship is headed. So I get him being bothered by that too.