Sexless marriage

[Anonymous]

‘Happily married’ with 2 kids. both
In early forties - good looking. We have sex once in 2 months and even then I fake. Sex is not good. I am on AD but still can have and achieve orgasms. Husband does not seem to bothered if we don’t have sex often. I am attractive looking so that’s not a problem.

We sleep in different bedrooms because of snoring. Sometimes I don’t care but sometimes it gets me too hard.

He is loyal and all perfect otherwise. I am not leaving him bc of the kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:‘Happily married’ with 2 kids. both
In early forties - good looking. We have sex once in 2 months and even then I fake. Sex is not good. I am on AD but still can have and achieve orgasms. Husband does not seem to bothered if we don’t have sex often. I am attractive looking so that’s not a problem.

We sleep in different bedrooms because of snoring. Sometimes I don’t care but sometimes it gets me too hard.

He is loyal and all perfect otherwise. I am not leaving him bc of the kids

Is there a question?

That is a low-sex marriage, not a “sexless” one.

Where do you think he’s getting laid if it isn’t with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:‘Happily married’ with 2 kids. both
In early forties - good looking. We have sex once in 2 months and even then I fake. Sex is not good. I am on AD but still can have and achieve orgasms. Husband does not seem to bothered if we don’t have sex often. I am attractive looking so that’s not a problem.

We sleep in different bedrooms because of snoring. Sometimes I don’t care but sometimes it gets me too hard.

He is loyal and all perfect otherwise. I am not leaving him bc of the kids

Is there a question?

That is a low-sex marriage, not a “sexless” one.

Where do you think he’s getting laid if it isn’t with you?

+1 all of this, above. Also, is he gay?

[Anonymous]

Probably porn.
I don’t know

[Anonymous]

Are you enthusiastic about sex? I think my wife is attractive, but if she's not into it, I'd rather spend my time doing something else. And I'm happy to put some effort into making things fun for her; but only if that effort is well received.

If I try to flirt and she doesn't flirt back, I'm not going to be a pest about it.

[Anonymous]

This is not sexless. That is defined as no sex for 10 months or longer. I had a sexless marriage: literally nothing for 7 out of 10 years.

[Anonymous]

I am resentful and never initiate it. He never does either - tired, early meetings etc. I had a very high sex drive but with him I feel like 66 y old now

[Anonymous]

Sex after procreation is overrated

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you enthusiastic about sex? I think my wife is attractive, but if she's not into it, I'd rather spend my time doing something else. And I'm happy to put some effort into making things fun for her; but only if that effort is well received.

If I try to flirt and she doesn't flirt back, I'm not going to be a pest about it.

And they say only women can be needy and whiny…

[Anonymous]

You are having sex once every other month, and you title this "sexless marriage"? Lol. That's hilarious.

-- someone who hasn't had sex with her asexual husband in 15 years.

At any rate, be an adult about it. Discuss your needs and ask for a commitment to a more fulfilling sex life or write it off altogether (lack of sex doesn't bother me given that my DH is pretty much perfect in every other way).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you enthusiastic about sex? I think my wife is attractive, but if she's not into it, I'd rather spend my time doing something else. And I'm happy to put some effort into making things fun for her; but only if that effort is well received.

If I try to flirt and she doesn't flirt back, I'm not going to be a pest about it.

And they say only women can be needy and whiny…

He sounds generous and considerate to me!

[Anonymous]

Wow- my husband of 25 years thinks less than 3 times minimum per week is sexless. Still cheated too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow- my husband of 25 years thinks less than 3 times minimum per week is sexless. Still cheated too.

That is a lot for a long marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:‘Happily married’ with 2 kids. both
In early forties - good looking. We have sex once in 2 months and even then I fake. Sex is not good. I am on AD but still can have and achieve orgasms. Husband does not seem to bothered if we don’t have sex often. I am attractive looking so that’s not a problem.

We sleep in different bedrooms because of snoring. Sometimes I don’t care but sometimes it gets me too hard.

He is loyal and all perfect otherwise. I am not leaving him bc of the kids

It may be that you have Romeo and Juliet syndrome. Wild crazy fun sex doesn’t last an eternity. If you’re happily married, you may want to consider prioritizing your need for sex. Or perhaps you could open things up.

[Anonymous]

It’s the 2020s. Men are used to high frequency porn on their phone, computers, etc. this has destroyed their sex drive and libido for real intimate sex with spouses. They see all kinds of porn crazy scenarios, etc.. again it is the ‘20s. Even if you were to get a divorce and then, in a very unlikely scenario, meet someone else who wants to get married and checks all the other boxes that person ultimately would dwindle sex wise also.