Activities with friends: is it assumed that the person who suggests it pays?
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Anonymous
| Yes or no? |
Anonymous
| No. It's not a date. Each person should expect to pay their own way unless otherwise stated by the organizer. |
Anonymous
| No, it's not assumed but I'll say, "Are you interested in going to X? Tickets are $x amount each." |
Anonymous
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Never! Wow. I can’t imagine my friend asking me to lunch and then I expect her to pay.
That’s advice for dating. (Dated advice in my mind) |
Anonymous
| No. |
Anonymous
| No. |
Anonymous
| This happened to me once. We went on a dinner date with another husband and wife couple we were friends with and they asked us what place we recommended so we recommended a restaurant. When the bill came they said thank you so much for dinner. It was so awkward and I couldn't believe they both felt us paying was appropriate. We never went out with them again. |
Anonymous
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Or maybe they said something more definitive like thank you so much for treating us to dinner tonight. But we had never talked about payment and we all made the same amount at work. It was an expensive meal and we had just treated them over at our house the month before.
So I guess yes you can expect people might pay but they might not get together with you again. |
Anonymous
| There may also be a cultural difference/expectation. It’s always helpful to clarify if you are concerned. |
Anonymous
| No… |
Anonymous
| Nope. In general everyone pays for themselves. I have one friend I see movies with and we loosely take turns paying or whoever gets to the theatre first pays - we don't really keep track. But otherwise everyone pays. It's not a date. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| No |
Anonymous
Great‼️ This is a very solid way of no misunderstanding altogether. |
Anonymous
+1 You are an adult, OP - start taking responsibility, and stop thinking people owe you. |