Can a woman find love and marriage in late thirties?

[Anonymous]

I am pretty, fit and classy. I left a disastrous first marriage where I was cheated on and emotionally abused. I stuck around so long because I never imagined my life would turn out like this. He was my first boyfriend who turned into my husband. I am now 37 and divorced. No children.

I make good money. 130k and work hard. I love to workout and go hiking just as much as I adore going to the opera and can spend all day in a museum. I speak multiple languages and cook delicious meals.

I’d love to meet a man and have a family. On a scale of 1-10 I’m probably a 7.

[Anonymous]

Yes, of course.

Jump right in to online dating, but also let friends and others know that you're available/looking if they have single friends.

[Anonymous]

Bump

[Anonymous]

Well, I’m in my forties and I did, but I don’t know, maybe you’ve bought into the while being useless because you’re no longer f-able.

[Anonymous]

I'm below a 7 and had one young child from my first marriage. 10+ year relationship. He cheated and I didn't see myself ever being in a relationship again. Divorced when 36. Married at 39 to a boyfriend from high school years.

[Anonymous]

Of course. If you don’t want biological children, you could have your pick.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I met my husband at 40. First marriage for me, second for him. One thing that is hard to accept, maybe, is that many men may not meet your standards. There are not that many men out there who are as accomplished as you are that are available. My suggestion is to be open to many different men, even men without a degree, or men in blue collar professions, etc. Look for a kind person with values that match yours. My spouse has no degree, for example, but is whip smart and a great husband.

[Anonymous]

I met spouse at 37. I also had plenty of dates ages 35-37 when I was actively dating after ending a ltr (engaged but not married, I dodged a bullet in retrospect). Yes it is absolutely possible but you will have to weed through players/serial daters (including lots of never married men in their 50s); people too fresh out of divorce etc…

[Anonymous]

If you are willing to date a divorced man with kids over 40you will find plenty of suitors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are willing to date a divorced man with kids over 40you will find plenty of suitors.

Avoid divorced men over 40 esp if they have kids. They won't have time for you. And they are often in horrible physical shape and broke from paying child support. And you have to worry about the crazy ex wife. Yikes no thanks. Girl get you a younger hotter guy who doesn't have any kids.

[Anonymous]

As long as you don’t commodify yourself (“I’m a 7, can I find someone?”). That attitude will trip you up. You sound like a catch!

[Anonymous]

Where does one meet men these days? Would the good guys be on apps? What qualities should I look for? What are red flags? It all feels very overwhelming!

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. I’m from a similar situation, OP. I am 43. A mutual friend set me up with a wonderful man who went through something similar as well. I have never felt so understood or so happy ever before.

[Anonymous]

Of course you can! Get out there!

[Anonymous]

There’s an economist looking for a sugar mommy just one thread over.