WWYT of this setup (sharing time between two houses)?

[Anonymous]

A couple with two teenage kids. Kid 1 is state level talent and goes to a boarding school several hours away from the family residence. Parents buy a condo next to the school so that the kid doesn’t have to live in a dorm. One parent lives there with kid 1 and the other stays with kid 2 at the primary residence. On weekends they get together at one of the two “abodes”, sometimes the parents switch, they then separate again for the week.

Am I the being weird in seeing it as some low key prep for separation and maybe divorce?
Or there’s no hidden agenda here?

[Anonymous]

Wait is this your family or someone else’s?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait is this your family or someone else’s?

Someone else’s. I am just super curious.

[Anonymous]

What TF is "state level talent"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait is this your family or someone else’s?

Someone else’s. I am just super curious.

Doesn’t sound like prep for a divorce to me; sounds like attempts to be there for two children. Also sounds like not your business.

[Anonymous]

Who cares about the divorce—I think it’s worse the parents bought a condo so kid doesn’t have to live in dorm and gets to stay with parents. Why send him to boarding school at all if you’re going to literally be a helicopter parent? Cut the apron strings for pete’s sake!

[Anonymous]

MYOB, OP

[Anonymous]

Not weird. They are probably very invested in the kids. Given what goes on in boarding school dorms, it’s a good decision to stay with the child. Underage drugs and sex can derail a young person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who cares about the divorce—I think it’s worse the parents bought a condo so kid doesn’t have to live in dorm and gets to stay with parents. Why send him to boarding school at all if you’re going to literally be a helicopter parent? Cut the apron strings for pete’s sake!

To me this is just about parents super invested in sports success and wanting to save money by 1) only paying day-student costs and 2) less travel for one parent.

Lots of affluent families buy/rent seasonal homes near their kids at boarding school. Real estate has been a good investment, so it’s possibly zero cost when you sell.

[Anonymous]

Not sure what "state level talent" in ball throwing or whatever is but this like a decent solution to me, not a setup for divorce.

[Anonymous]

You have too much time on your hands lady. Get your own life.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you hoping to bang one of the parents or ???

MYOB.

[Anonymous]

I’ve seen this before where one kid has serious needs did to a disability and the needs can’t be effectively met at the original home. It didn’t lead to divorce. Like a PP suggested, the parents were really invested in the success of their kids and willing to do whatever it took.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A couple with two teenage kids. Kid 1 is state level talent and goes to a boarding school several hours away from the family residence. Parents buy a condo next to the school so that the kid doesn’t have to live in a dorm. One parent lives there with kid 1 and the other stays with kid 2 at the primary residence. On weekends they get together at one of the two “abodes”, sometimes the parents switch, they then separate again for the week.

Am I the being weird in seeing it as some low key prep for separation and maybe divorce?
Or there’s no hidden agenda here?

They are basically over invested in success of their children, putting it above everything else in their lives. However, if it works for them, there is no harm. It shouldn't be an issue for a string couple dedicated to their children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who cares about the divorce—I think it’s worse the parents bought a condo so kid doesn’t have to live in dorm and gets to stay with parents. Why send him to boarding school at all if you’re going to literally be a helicopter parent? Cut the apron strings for pete’s sake!

If child has anxiety or parents have any concerns about boarding, there is nothing wrong with this set up.