Disrespectful

[Anonymous]

As a mom have you ever felt that another mom was being disrespectful? DD plays soccer and is in elementary.

The coach was out so another dad filled in, and was swapping out kids bc there were not enough players. He said aloud, “what’s the girl’s name”?

In reference to 2 of the girls on the team.

This mom laughed crazily and said, “I don’t know”! This is the same team we’ve had since 8 weeks ago. Everyone’s name is called out constantly during games. Meanwhile I hear this from an earshot.

Forgive me but in that moment I wanted to smack her.

Do you experience these feelings?

[Anonymous]

Was it the tone she used? I never remember names, OP. It's not a good problem to have.

Anyway, I think you're just a tad bit oversensitive, and the only person it's hurting is you. So best to move on and assume no one intended to be hurtful.

[Anonymous]

Holy overreaction OP

[Anonymous]

Of all the things to be upset about!!!

It hasn’t been 8 weeks of constant getting together for hours on end. It has been what maybe an hour or less at a time for practice and games?

Not everyone remembers names.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was it the tone she used? I never remember names, OP. It's not a good problem to have.

Anyway, I think you're just a tad bit oversensitive, and the only person it's hurting is you. So best to move on and assume no one intended to be hurtful.

Hello all, YES it was the tone!!

Crazy flippant laugh paired with a "Who knows/Who cares" type of response.

Sorry I just had a moment where I wanted to knock her out. I wouldn't of course but it just was so disrespectful.

To contrast a " I'm not sure maybe ask Billy" or " I don't know" in a regular tone without a crazy flippant laugh casting every to the side beside her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was it the tone she used? I never remember names, OP. It's not a good problem to have.

Anyway, I think you're just a tad bit oversensitive, and the only person it's hurting is you. So best to move on and assume no one intended to be hurtful.

Hello all, YES it was the tone!!

Crazy flippant laugh paired with a "Who knows/Who cares" type of response.

Sorry I just had a moment where I wanted to knock her out. I wouldn't of course but it just was so disrespectful.

To contrast a " I'm not sure maybe ask Billy" or " I don't know" in a regular tone without a crazy flippant laugh casting every to the side beside her.

So, you're taking time out of your day to complain about this one person, who had a strange response to a question? Do you also post for road rage incidents, and every time the cashier or wait staff is less than perfect? I mean, things happen. I don't think it was this woman's intention to convey she didn't care about a child. I'm sure you've come off as weird or rude when you didn't intend to.

Move on, OP.

[Anonymous]

Op, you are out of line. You are over reacting. It’s hard to recall all names each week.

[Anonymous]

She might have laughed because she felt nervous. Laughter is a natural and common response. And even if she truly did not care, you are still overreacting.

[Anonymous]

You are nuts OP.

[Anonymous]

OP. I gotta tell you, I'm the Queen of taking offense and even I think this is a huge, over-reaction.

HUGE.

Take a Xanax, keep off the caffeine and breathe.

[Anonymous]

+1 that you’re overreacting

A lot of people are bad with names (including me). Putting them on the spot can make it worse. Once, well into the school year, I went up to ask my favorite teacher a question and blanked on her name.

You may have spent those eight weeks absorbed in the game and learning everyone’s name, good for you. She may have been focused just on her kid, or just trying to follow the game (especially if she’s not very familiar with it). She may have been chatting with the other parents, catching up on work, napping, checking in with other family members, etc., not realizing she’d have to be ready for a pop quiz on the players’ names.

A lot of people laugh as a stress reaction, laughing when nervous, frustrated, etc. Or, she may have been laughing at herself for how bad her memory is.

You make her sound line a villain cackling triumphantly over her evil plan to not remember your daughter’s name. I think it much more likely that she was embarrassed/frustrated by not being able to answer.

Moreover, there were apparently 2 girls in question. They may have been talking about the other girl at that moment and not your daughter at all. It sounds like he was posing the question generally, and this woman gave the most accurate response she could, even if it wasn’t helpful. Since you were in earshot, and apparently knew everyone’s name, why didn’t you do something positive and supply the name doe both girls. This would have helped the dad who was trying to help the team (including your daughter), and would have allowed you to demonstrate your superior name recollection skills. I doubt it would have impressed the other parents, but it seems to matter to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a mom have you ever felt that another mom was being disrespectful? DD plays soccer and is in elementary.

The coach was out so another dad filled in, and was swapping out kids bc there were not enough players. He said aloud, “what’s the girl’s name”?

In reference to 2 of the girls on the team.

This mom laughed crazily and said, “I don’t know”! This is the same team we’ve had since 8 weeks ago. Everyone’s name is called out constantly during games. Meanwhile I hear this from an earshot.

Forgive me but in that moment I wanted to smack her.

Do you experience these feelings?

+1 on the Holy Overreaction!

I don't know the names of the kids on my kid's soccer team. I don't think that's disrespectful. I don't care other parent's don't know the name of my kid.

srly, we are all just trying to get by, we have full time jobs, no help, several kids activit(ies). Take a chill pill please! My cognitive load is already too high to add "memorize kids names" to it.

[Anonymous]

I know like three names from my kid's soccer team and I'm at every game and practice. They're her teammates not mine.

[Anonymous]

OP I know what you are talking about. Sounds rude. I would have said something. Or maybe do the same to her at some point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I know what you are talking about. Sounds rude. I would have said something. Or maybe do the same to her at some point.

You are trying to goad OP into doing something that will make her look like a complete idiot.
Don’t do this, OP.