Men, how much attention do you put on a woman's job, house, or car when you date her?

[Anonymous]

Wondering. I have a clunker right now and I live with my mother to help her out after my narcissist dad left for a younger but less attractive woman. I've also just been laid off. I'd like a relationship but not even sure I'm dateable right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wondering. I have a clunker right now and I live with my mother to help her out after my narcissist dad left for a younger but less attractive woman. I've also just been laid off. I'd like a relationship but not even sure I'm dateable right now.

I am not a man, but I think you should focus your energy on improving your financial situation and work through any personal problems. Feeling undeserving and bad about yourself is just going to send off desperate vibes and you will attract the dregs. Unless you are early 20s and very attractive- get to work.

[Anonymous]

Yep - time to focus on yourself.

[Anonymous]

Zero.

[Anonymous]

As a guy, I don’t put as much emphasis on those things. However, flip the script and ask a woman the same question about a guy. A guy with a shiatbox car, studio apartment, and non profit job or something blue collar will get him nowhere with women in this region.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wondering. I have a clunker right now and I live with my mother to help her out after my narcissist dad left for a younger but less attractive woman. I've also just been laid off. I'd like a relationship but not even sure I'm dateable right now.

What do you you like? Chubby? Skinny? Voluptuous? Curvy? What do you like to do? Are you actively looking for another job? Drink? Smoke?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a guy, I don’t put as much emphasis on those things. However, flip the script and ask a woman the same question about a guy. A guy with a shiatbox car, studio apartment, and non profit job or something blue collar will get him nowhere with women in this region.[/quot
Such guy usually comes with shitload of other problems. I'm dating a guy who works at an autobody shop. Recent immigrant and even he has been able to work himself up in 6 years.
I have never met an American born who works hard, but still has to drive a shitbox car, live in a studio, be it a blue collar job. The reason they are not hacking it, is that they are not working hard enough. That's a turn off.
I'm an immigrant and worked myself into riches with fairly minimum pay. I will never know why locals can't do that unless they have bad health.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wondering. I have a clunker right now and I live with my mother to help her out after my narcissist dad left for a younger but less attractive woman. I've also just been laid off. I'd like a relationship but not even sure I'm dateable right now.

There is no reason for you to not work. There is so much work out there. Every restaurant is hiring. I make anywhere from $30-$50 an hour in a regular cafe and we can't find workers.
The turnoff for the gentlemen will be you not working. In fact, get a job in a restaurant. It's a good exercise, they feed you, you get some cash most nights, and you will find plenty of men if you are lovely. Don't talk about your car or your mother.

[Anonymous]

You are not a catch. No one wants to be saddling with a mother in law like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are not a catch. No one wants to be saddling with a mother in law like that.

That is actually true. Some women rope the guy into the MIL later, but not up front.

[Anonymous]

My wife checked all those boxes when I met her (unemployed, clunker, lived with parents) but she had a valuable degree. She eventually found a government job and is now a GS14. Guys who are looking for a relationship will see you as a potential partner as long as you have long-term potential.

[Anonymous]

As long as house and car where clean I did not care

[Anonymous]

Most people are naturally drawn to equals due to similarities and familiarities but in today's world, its a more informed and conscious choice. People don't want to divide their resources, they want to multiply them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wondering. I have a clunker right now and I live with my mother to help her out after my narcissist dad left for a younger but less attractive woman. I've also just been laid off. I'd like a relationship but not even sure I'm dateable right now.

Anyone reasonable in your situation would be focused on changing their circumstances not on dating potential. In current situation, no rational person would want to get involved.

[Anonymous]

with the amount of work available out there I would think you are lazy.
Car or what type of job you have wouldn't bother me
Living with mom if it was short term would be ok