Let nanny go - feel terrible

[Anonymous]

I posted this a little while ago - https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1154334.page

We ended up letting our nanny go after a few more times of texting that she had just woken up at the time she was supposed to be at our house. It was just too disruptive to our schedules and having to scramble to see who could cover childcare.

Anyways, even though I do think it was the right decision bc we really do need that reliability, I feel so so bad. Like cried for a good 20 minutes about it and have just felt terrible all evening. She was surprised and upset and I hate making someone feel bad and also of course worry about her finances. We are paying 4 weeks severance even though there was cause and per our contract we wouldn’t have to.

I’m not sure what I’m asking, maybe just reassurance that I did the right thing? Anyone been in this boat?

[Anonymous]

Gut up and be the boss. You have to do what's right for your kids

[Anonymous]

4 weeks severance is more than generous. You should be at peace with your decision, and you treated her well.
I hope your next nanny is a gem!

[Anonymous]

I had a nanny who was constantly late. Drove me crazy. Talked to her about it several times. She said she'd do better, but she didn't. Finally, I let her go. Paid her a week's severance. She was pissed off at us, but it was insanely disruptive. I don't know why she couldn't show up on time. She was great with the baby, but her unreliability was too much to take. Why take a job if you can't show up on time? We were fair employers, I thought. Found her through an agency. She had great references. It was upsetting, but had to be done.

[Anonymous]

It was not working out. You did what you needed to do. Her employment depends on you being employed and her not being dependable messes with that.

[Anonymous]

For Pete’s sake, OP, grow a backbone. Your children are going to run all over you if you don’t toughen up.

[Anonymous]

Good for you OP. I remember your thread. Hope you found someone else who will be reliable. Do set firm expectations from Day 1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I posted this a little while ago - https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1154334.page

We ended up letting our nanny go after a few more times of texting that she had just woken up at the time she was supposed to be at our house. It was just too disruptive to our schedules and having to scramble to see who could cover childcare.

Anyways, even though I do think it was the right decision bc we really do need that reliability, I feel so so bad. Like cried for a good 20 minutes about it and have just felt terrible all evening. She was surprised and upset and I hate making someone feel bad and also of course worry about her finances. We are paying 4 weeks severance even though there was cause and per our contract we wouldn’t have to.

I’m not sure what I’m asking, maybe just reassurance that I did the right thing? Anyone been in this boat?

You are an adult and a MOTHER. You need to grow up and do what is right for your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For Pete’s sake, OP, grow a backbone. Your children are going to run all over you if you don’t toughen up.

+1 Wait until she hits the school auction . lolol

[Anonymous]

You cried for 20 minutes after giving someone a month’s pay. Are you okay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I posted this a little while ago - https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1154334.page

We ended up letting our nanny go after a few more times of texting that she had just woken up at the time she was supposed to be at our house. It was just too disruptive to our schedules and having to scramble to see who could cover childcare.

Anyways, even though I do think it was the right decision bc we really do need that reliability, I feel so so bad. Like cried for a good 20 minutes about it and have just felt terrible all evening. She was surprised and upset and I hate making someone feel bad and also of course worry about her finances. We are paying 4 weeks severance even though there was cause and per our contract we wouldn’t have to.

I’m not sure what I’m asking, maybe just reassurance that I did the right thing? Anyone been in this boat?

You were more than generous and punctuality is a must for a nanny.

[Anonymous]

What’s the point of having a nanny as a working parent if she can’t be on time? I would not have given her 4 weeks severance. You were more than generous, OP. Move on.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks for the reality check everyone. I guess I just really don’t like being the bearer of bad news, even if it is what needed to be done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the reality check everyone. I guess I just really don’t like being the bearer of bad news, even if it is what needed to be done.

Op, you sound like a really nice employer. I really hope you find someone great (and reliable) to replace your nanny. You did the right thing.

- nanny

[Anonymous]

4 weeks severance? She has inconvenienced you, multiple times and you feel bad? You might as well throw cash out the car window.